But still, we can't break up.
 |
Description
Book Introduction
Hurt relationships can be healed. “No matter what the circumstances, couples can find happiness again.” 30 years of expertise from Director Park Seong-deok, a specialist in emotionally focused couples therapy and psychiatry! "Half-Lifelong Couple Love: How to Heal Hurt Relationships and Close the Heart's Gap" "Still, We Can't Break Up," a book written by Park Seong-deok, an expert in emotionally focused couples therapy, and filled with his 30 years of expertise, analyzes conflicts in married life from a psychological perspective and offers practical solutions. Based on his experience counseling over 3,000 couples, the author argues that couples facing any conflict can choose "recovery" rather than separation, and through this, develop a stronger bond. The most notable feature of this book is that it is structured around emotion-centered couples therapy. Emotionally focused couples therapy emphasizes how couples understand each other's emotions and communicate through those emotions. It is a method for couples to deeply understand each other's feelings and restore their relationship based on those feelings. The author has personally witnessed many couples find happiness and reunion through this treatment. By presenting various counseling cases, the author demonstrates that emotional recovery can lead to relationship recovery. This book will help you find solutions that work for you, and will help you resolve marital conflict and find happiness again. |
- You can preview some of the book's contents.
Preview
index
Opening Remarks: Discord is an inevitable journey toward happiness.
PART 1.
There is no couple who has not dreamed of happiness.
After getting married, the validity period of love has expired.
Intimacy and acceptance: the common cause of all marital fights
We clearly got married because we loved each other, so why did things turn out this way between us?
If you ask who is the problem, the husband or the wife?
A need that only one person in the world can fulfill
Why I'm repeating my parents' fights
The key to changing your relationship lies in how your mind works.
Couple Psychology Cafe 01 _ The Science of Marital Relationships
PART 2.
The pain that cannot be helped because of love
Discord is a dowry that must be prepared before marriage
You think your personalities don't mesh? There's a reason why.
If you look behind the sharp words, you can see what they really want to say.
I want to check and be comforted, but I don't know how.
Couples stuck in conversation patterns of blaming, protesting, or avoidance
The reason we fight to the end isn't because we're both bad.
When we need to care for each other's feelings and thoughts as if we were caring for our own children
Couple Psychology Cafe 02 _ The Science of Skinship and Sex
PART 3.
But if I can be happy again with you, the person I chose
We've gone as far as we can go, can we ever be better again?
It's not about "personality differences," but about "differences in relationship styles."
The different dreams of a nagging wife and a running away husband
Words that create a vicious cycle of conflict: “Let’s talk!” “Here we go again?”
My reaction is something I can choose myself.
Recovery begins simply by letting go of the idea of changing the other person.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Relationship Recovery Through Emotional Recovery
Couple Psychology Cafe 03 _ 7 Conversation Tips for a Warm Marriage
PAPT 4.
Recovery Counseling Center for Couples Who Can't Break Up
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "Don't judge right from wrong. What matters is harmony."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "Understanding what love is can free you from the pain of conflict."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "Once you understand the path your emotions take, you'll discover new ways to communicate."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "You need to fight the negative cycles in your relationship, not your spouse."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "If you don't express it, they'll just know."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "The wounds of infidelity may not be erased, but they can be healed."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "Ask for help to break free from the prison of trauma."
Relationships and people mature through pain and recovery.
PART 1.
There is no couple who has not dreamed of happiness.
After getting married, the validity period of love has expired.
Intimacy and acceptance: the common cause of all marital fights
We clearly got married because we loved each other, so why did things turn out this way between us?
If you ask who is the problem, the husband or the wife?
A need that only one person in the world can fulfill
Why I'm repeating my parents' fights
The key to changing your relationship lies in how your mind works.
Couple Psychology Cafe 01 _ The Science of Marital Relationships
PART 2.
The pain that cannot be helped because of love
Discord is a dowry that must be prepared before marriage
You think your personalities don't mesh? There's a reason why.
If you look behind the sharp words, you can see what they really want to say.
I want to check and be comforted, but I don't know how.
Couples stuck in conversation patterns of blaming, protesting, or avoidance
The reason we fight to the end isn't because we're both bad.
When we need to care for each other's feelings and thoughts as if we were caring for our own children
Couple Psychology Cafe 02 _ The Science of Skinship and Sex
PART 3.
But if I can be happy again with you, the person I chose
We've gone as far as we can go, can we ever be better again?
It's not about "personality differences," but about "differences in relationship styles."
The different dreams of a nagging wife and a running away husband
Words that create a vicious cycle of conflict: “Let’s talk!” “Here we go again?”
My reaction is something I can choose myself.
Recovery begins simply by letting go of the idea of changing the other person.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Relationship Recovery Through Emotional Recovery
Couple Psychology Cafe 03 _ 7 Conversation Tips for a Warm Marriage
PAPT 4.
Recovery Counseling Center for Couples Who Can't Break Up
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "Don't judge right from wrong. What matters is harmony."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "Understanding what love is can free you from the pain of conflict."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "Once you understand the path your emotions take, you'll discover new ways to communicate."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "You need to fight the negative cycles in your relationship, not your spouse."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "If you don't express it, they'll just know."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "The wounds of infidelity may not be erased, but they can be healed."
Director Park Sung-deok's Recovery Counseling Center? "Ask for help to break free from the prison of trauma."
Relationships and people mature through pain and recovery.
Detailed image
Into the book
Conflict is a rite of passage that every couple goes through after marriage.
It comes to every couple without exception, and it is perhaps like a homework that they will have to do for the rest of their lives.
In this way, discord between couples is not a matter of choice, but a challenge that everyone faces on the shared journey of marriage.
Discord arises regardless of economic level, educational background, personality differences, or physical condition.
The heat generated when substances combine is called heat of reaction in physical terms.
When we consider married life as a process in which a man and a woman, two different individuals, meet and become one, it is rather strange that there is no passion in this process.
Conflict is a process that couples must experience on their journey to happiness.
--- p.35
When I conduct couples seminars, I sometimes ask couples a question.
“What happens when there is marital conflict?” a wife responded to my question.
“I don’t want to cook!”
Then another husband at another table responds immediately.
“I won’t eat it even if you give it to me!” When there is conflict between couples, negative feelings towards each other become strong and they react in a rigid manner.
The speed at which they react is incredibly fast.
Emotions create relationships, and relationships create personal emotions.
Positive emotions create positive marital relationships.
The two symptoms of marital discord described above are closely related to emotions.
--- p.75
Emotionally focused couples therapy has a significantly lower relapse rate than other couples therapy methods.
It helps you break out of negative cycles and establish positive ones.
Just because couples therapy ends doesn't mean your fights will completely disappear.
Even happy couples fight and have conflicts.
But after an argument, the time it takes for them to approach each other, respond, and return to their daily lives is short.
Once you have the courage to approach your spouse, that experience will gradually show up in your daily life.
Even if there is a fight, you can apologize first rather than becoming destructive, or you can express your attachment needs and fears well to get your spouse's consent.
--- p.118
When we remember the hurt caused by infidelity, the hurt diminishes.
The perpetrator's mindset of 'I will always remember it and share the pain' is the antidote that makes the trauma disappear.
A couple's relationship can be restored gradually like that.
Even if your marriage is suffering now due to serious wounds such as infidelity, you must not give up hope that it can be restored.
When two people are having a hard time resolving a matter, they should seek out a recovery specialist, not a divorce lawyer.
It comes to every couple without exception, and it is perhaps like a homework that they will have to do for the rest of their lives.
In this way, discord between couples is not a matter of choice, but a challenge that everyone faces on the shared journey of marriage.
Discord arises regardless of economic level, educational background, personality differences, or physical condition.
The heat generated when substances combine is called heat of reaction in physical terms.
When we consider married life as a process in which a man and a woman, two different individuals, meet and become one, it is rather strange that there is no passion in this process.
Conflict is a process that couples must experience on their journey to happiness.
--- p.35
When I conduct couples seminars, I sometimes ask couples a question.
“What happens when there is marital conflict?” a wife responded to my question.
“I don’t want to cook!”
Then another husband at another table responds immediately.
“I won’t eat it even if you give it to me!” When there is conflict between couples, negative feelings towards each other become strong and they react in a rigid manner.
The speed at which they react is incredibly fast.
Emotions create relationships, and relationships create personal emotions.
Positive emotions create positive marital relationships.
The two symptoms of marital discord described above are closely related to emotions.
--- p.75
Emotionally focused couples therapy has a significantly lower relapse rate than other couples therapy methods.
It helps you break out of negative cycles and establish positive ones.
Just because couples therapy ends doesn't mean your fights will completely disappear.
Even happy couples fight and have conflicts.
But after an argument, the time it takes for them to approach each other, respond, and return to their daily lives is short.
Once you have the courage to approach your spouse, that experience will gradually show up in your daily life.
Even if there is a fight, you can apologize first rather than becoming destructive, or you can express your attachment needs and fears well to get your spouse's consent.
--- p.118
When we remember the hurt caused by infidelity, the hurt diminishes.
The perpetrator's mindset of 'I will always remember it and share the pain' is the antidote that makes the trauma disappear.
A couple's relationship can be restored gradually like that.
Even if your marriage is suffering now due to serious wounds such as infidelity, you must not give up hope that it can be restored.
When two people are having a hard time resolving a matter, they should seek out a recovery specialist, not a divorce lawyer.
--- p.277
Publisher's Review
Conflict in marriage is an unwelcome guest that comes to everyone.
Relationships that started out of love often become distant over time, and in the end, people often end up breaking up, leaving only wounds behind.
However, Director Park Seong-deok, who has 30 years of experience in couples therapy, says:
“No matter what the circumstances, couples can find happiness again.” This book, “But We Can’t Break Up,” psychologically analyzes the conflicts couples experience and presents practical solutions.
What is the real cause of marital conflict?
Author Park Seong-deok, a psychiatrist, has written this book based on his experiences and insights gained from counseling over 3,000 couples.
He explains that the family environment of one's original family has a great influence on the current marital relationship.
This is because the patterns of love and conflict we learn from our parents as children are directly reflected in our married lives as adults.
Most marital conflicts arise from this background.
.
What happens after the expiration date of love?
The passionate love that begins in marriage is bound to cool over time.
When the so-called "expiration date of love" passes and the excitement and passion fade, realistic problems tend to come to the fore.
How you overcome this period can determine the future of your relationship.
In this book, the author details the process of moving beyond longing and attraction to attachment.
Why is communication between couples difficult?
Most conflicts between couples stem from a lack of communication.
In our busy daily lives, there are many cases where we fail to properly understand each other's feelings.
The author emphasizes that it is important for couples to understand and be considerate of each other's feelings.
For readers in their 30s and 40s in particular, balancing work and family life can be a huge challenge.
This book provides specific methods on how to overcome these difficulties.
Real-world examples and practical advice
The book presents the causes and solutions to marital problems through various counseling cases.
For example, it shows how a wife who is tired of her husband's indifference can express her feelings and how her husband can accept them.
In addition, based on the experience gained through countless couples counseling sessions, the book helps readers find solutions that are right for them through various cases, such as couples suffering from infidelity, couples struggling due to lack of communication, or couples experiencing conflict over child-rearing issues.
These cases provide practical advice that readers can apply to their own situations.
The Power of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
The most notable feature of this book is that it is structured around emotion-centered couples therapy.
Emotionally focused couples therapy emphasizes how couples understand each other's emotions and communicate through those emotions.
It is a method for couples to deeply understand each other's feelings and restore their relationship based on those feelings.
The author has personally witnessed many couples find happiness and reunion through this treatment.
Emotion-focused therapy shows that emotional recovery can lead to relationship recovery.
The greatest strength of this book is that it offers practical advice and concrete solutions.
Anyone can experience marital conflict, but how you resolve it can determine the future of your relationship.
This book will be of great help to couples in learning how to understand and care for each other.
Relationships that started out of love often become distant over time, and in the end, people often end up breaking up, leaving only wounds behind.
However, Director Park Seong-deok, who has 30 years of experience in couples therapy, says:
“No matter what the circumstances, couples can find happiness again.” This book, “But We Can’t Break Up,” psychologically analyzes the conflicts couples experience and presents practical solutions.
What is the real cause of marital conflict?
Author Park Seong-deok, a psychiatrist, has written this book based on his experiences and insights gained from counseling over 3,000 couples.
He explains that the family environment of one's original family has a great influence on the current marital relationship.
This is because the patterns of love and conflict we learn from our parents as children are directly reflected in our married lives as adults.
Most marital conflicts arise from this background.
.
What happens after the expiration date of love?
The passionate love that begins in marriage is bound to cool over time.
When the so-called "expiration date of love" passes and the excitement and passion fade, realistic problems tend to come to the fore.
How you overcome this period can determine the future of your relationship.
In this book, the author details the process of moving beyond longing and attraction to attachment.
Why is communication between couples difficult?
Most conflicts between couples stem from a lack of communication.
In our busy daily lives, there are many cases where we fail to properly understand each other's feelings.
The author emphasizes that it is important for couples to understand and be considerate of each other's feelings.
For readers in their 30s and 40s in particular, balancing work and family life can be a huge challenge.
This book provides specific methods on how to overcome these difficulties.
Real-world examples and practical advice
The book presents the causes and solutions to marital problems through various counseling cases.
For example, it shows how a wife who is tired of her husband's indifference can express her feelings and how her husband can accept them.
In addition, based on the experience gained through countless couples counseling sessions, the book helps readers find solutions that are right for them through various cases, such as couples suffering from infidelity, couples struggling due to lack of communication, or couples experiencing conflict over child-rearing issues.
These cases provide practical advice that readers can apply to their own situations.
The Power of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
The most notable feature of this book is that it is structured around emotion-centered couples therapy.
Emotionally focused couples therapy emphasizes how couples understand each other's emotions and communicate through those emotions.
It is a method for couples to deeply understand each other's feelings and restore their relationship based on those feelings.
The author has personally witnessed many couples find happiness and reunion through this treatment.
Emotion-focused therapy shows that emotional recovery can lead to relationship recovery.
The greatest strength of this book is that it offers practical advice and concrete solutions.
Anyone can experience marital conflict, but how you resolve it can determine the future of your relationship.
This book will be of great help to couples in learning how to understand and care for each other.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: May 27, 2024
- Page count, weight, size: 312 pages | 480g | 152*225*20mm
- ISBN13: 9788956594859
- ISBN10: 8956594856
You may also like
카테고리
korean
korean
![ELLE 엘르 스페셜 에디션 A형 : 12월 [2025]](http://librairie.coreenne.fr/cdn/shop/files/b8e27a3de6c9538896439686c6b0e8fb.jpg?v=1766436872&width=3840)
