One day's love work
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Book Introduction
“After a long wandering, I found out.
Until now, I have been telling my honest feelings
That I abandoned it and lived on, saying it was bad.
That heart is waiting for only one person, my comfort
“I’m telling you, it was a painful heart.”
We invite you to "Love Work," a path to self-love that will help you avoid the traps of the mind and restore the nature of unconditional love.
Until now, I have been telling my honest feelings
That I abandoned it and lived on, saying it was bad.
That heart is waiting for only one person, my comfort
“I’m telling you, it was a painful heart.”
We invite you to "Love Work," a path to self-love that will help you avoid the traps of the mind and restore the nature of unconditional love.
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Prologue: The Courage to Enter Within
Part 1 The life I wanted unfolded like a dream, but
Just keep the glass of water in front of me clear
The life I wanted unfolded like a dream,
Carrying the light into the darkness
If I were a devil, I would live as a devil.
5 years of depression
The day I encountered 'real depression'
Love is being together at any moment without trying to change anything.
Changes brought about by love work
Part 2: Drawing a Map of the Heart: Theory of Love Work
Map of inner work
Unity and duality
Patterns of Resistance: Guilt, Shame, Anxiety, Anger, Numbness
That I will become my own parent
Reality is a reflection of the inner self
Part 3: 100 Percent Yes to This Moment: How to Practice Love Work
Introducing Love Work
The joy of meeting the hidden me
Love work in everyday life
Exercises Needed for Love Work in Everyday Life
The greater the resistance, the more difficult it is to start with the daily love work.
Love work for a sick heart
You came to get rid of me too?
The pain of not being able to understand the person you love
It's not a bad heart, it's a sick heart
As if I were to a mother I never had in this world
Part 4: Traps to Fall Into During Love Work
Don't tell me the answer when I'm sick
If you want to become a better person through love work,
Thoughts are stuck in the wound
Surrendering to love
Your relationship with your parents is projected onto all your relationships.
Can an abandoned child be grateful?
If you live faithfully in the first year, you will become a second year student.
Part 5 Love Work Q&A
Epilogue: We Will Become More Beautiful
Prologue: The Courage to Enter Within
Part 1 The life I wanted unfolded like a dream, but
Just keep the glass of water in front of me clear
The life I wanted unfolded like a dream,
Carrying the light into the darkness
If I were a devil, I would live as a devil.
5 years of depression
The day I encountered 'real depression'
Love is being together at any moment without trying to change anything.
Changes brought about by love work
Part 2: Drawing a Map of the Heart: Theory of Love Work
Map of inner work
Unity and duality
Patterns of Resistance: Guilt, Shame, Anxiety, Anger, Numbness
That I will become my own parent
Reality is a reflection of the inner self
Part 3: 100 Percent Yes to This Moment: How to Practice Love Work
Introducing Love Work
The joy of meeting the hidden me
Love work in everyday life
Exercises Needed for Love Work in Everyday Life
The greater the resistance, the more difficult it is to start with the daily love work.
Love work for a sick heart
You came to get rid of me too?
The pain of not being able to understand the person you love
It's not a bad heart, it's a sick heart
As if I were to a mother I never had in this world
Part 4: Traps to Fall Into During Love Work
Don't tell me the answer when I'm sick
If you want to become a better person through love work,
Thoughts are stuck in the wound
Surrendering to love
Your relationship with your parents is projected onto all your relationships.
Can an abandoned child be grateful?
If you live faithfully in the first year, you will become a second year student.
Part 5 Love Work Q&A
Epilogue: We Will Become More Beautiful
Into the book
unconscious.
What I had overlooked until then was this unconsciousness.
There are times when you have a stain on your keyboard and it bothers you, but you pretend it's not there and don't look at it properly.
In this way, the unconscious is not something that exists in complete darkness, but rather refers to an alienated area of consciousness that we are always aware of but do not look at directly.
(…) No matter how much I tried to change my state of existence to the state I wanted, this unconsciousness kept interfering.
After facing this truth, all efforts to make something good, to see something beautiful, became tiresome.
I want to be honest now.
I only had this feeling.
So, without any guidance, I started going back to the moments that made me uncomfortable and taking time to get in touch with my honest feelings.
--- p.22~23
After about five years of pushing through the bottom of my stagnant mind, I gradually began to have new thoughts.
"This inferiority complex, so strong and solid for no reason, could it be that God placed it here because He absolutely needed it? I don't think I created it, but if God exists and created all of this, could this inferiority complex also exist for some legitimate reason I don't know?" And so, my attitude toward these heavy emotions gradually changed.
Inferiority complex, you too have a reason to exist.
You must be here because you have to be here.
Shame and guilt, you all have a reason to be here.
--- p.35~36
As I was doing love work, I came to realize that consciousness is light.
There was a lot of darkness inside me waiting to be taken care of.
Just by looking at it without trying to avoid it or get rid of it, that gaze became a light that brightened the darkness.
That gaze was the warmth I had been searching and waiting for for so long, the love I had been searching for so desperately.
--- p.48
As I acknowledged and transcended the duality of the mind, my resistance to experiences I had previously judged negative gradually disappeared.
As a result, as the pain of abandonment became more vivid as I accepted the entirety of the pair's hearts without resistance, the joy of giving and receiving love also became more vivid.
Every emotion began to live and breathe within me, like colors filling a palette, each with its own vivid color.
I learned that accepting your emotions allows you to move beyond them, and that accepted emotions become tools that, like paint, allow you to express every moment of your life.
--- p.57
If the 'feeling of love' is an inseparable pair of waves with the feeling of lack of love, that is, the 'feeling of abandonment,' then true love can be said to be an ocean of unconditional acceptance that embraces these two feelings without discrimination.
The ego believes that only the feeling of love is good, and rejects the feeling of hate as bad.
But true love embraces not only the feeling of love, but also the feeling of hate and the aching heart of poverty.
I don't throw anything away because it's bad.
--- p.90
What we need to do is ultimately a shift in attitude, where we stop living in the power of fear and start accepting it.
At any stage of the mind, it is necessary to stop reacting with fear and try to accept whatever state of mind it is.
Accepting my heart without any conditions, from there the pain in my heart begins to melt away, and where the pain melts away, my true, whole self remains, always without lies.
--- p.109
Consider that I do not live in the external world, but rather in my mind, which looks outward.
What torments me are my mind's reactions to reality, and by accepting those reactions, I can approach the truth engraved within me.
To approach the truth engraved within us in this way means to gradually expand our consciousness by separating it from the lies we have come to believe while living with our ego.
We use events in the external world as opportunities to illuminate our minds and walk the path of growth, the expansion of consciousness.
This is a life that follows the truth within, a life that puts my heart first.
--- p.126
Love work is always done to live with someone who accepts me unconditionally.
When I am with this being, I can unleash everything within myself without any inhibitions.
As you unfold it, all the emotional things disappear and you can find your true self inside and live.
So what we need to be concerned about is constantly checking whether we are living with this being who accepts us unconditionally.
--- p.144
If you find yourself thinking too much about something, notice that those thoughts are feeding into a wound, and look at the painful wound they are trying to protect.
See what negative feelings you are trying to escape from.
When you notice yourself caught up in a thought, feel it with your body and mind, asking yourself how that thought feels.
And feel that feeling fully to meet the unconscious thoughts that are causing it.
If you let go of that thought, the problem situation that thought was creating in reality will be solved on its own.
--- p.230
'Living in the present' means living fully and faithfully in the present, even though you are anxious and think, 'I have to change right now for the future.'
When I live fully and faithfully in the present, instead of suffering from the thought, “I can’t live in the present because of that past incident,” life will naturally change and I will naturally grow.
What I had overlooked until then was this unconsciousness.
There are times when you have a stain on your keyboard and it bothers you, but you pretend it's not there and don't look at it properly.
In this way, the unconscious is not something that exists in complete darkness, but rather refers to an alienated area of consciousness that we are always aware of but do not look at directly.
(…) No matter how much I tried to change my state of existence to the state I wanted, this unconsciousness kept interfering.
After facing this truth, all efforts to make something good, to see something beautiful, became tiresome.
I want to be honest now.
I only had this feeling.
So, without any guidance, I started going back to the moments that made me uncomfortable and taking time to get in touch with my honest feelings.
--- p.22~23
After about five years of pushing through the bottom of my stagnant mind, I gradually began to have new thoughts.
"This inferiority complex, so strong and solid for no reason, could it be that God placed it here because He absolutely needed it? I don't think I created it, but if God exists and created all of this, could this inferiority complex also exist for some legitimate reason I don't know?" And so, my attitude toward these heavy emotions gradually changed.
Inferiority complex, you too have a reason to exist.
You must be here because you have to be here.
Shame and guilt, you all have a reason to be here.
--- p.35~36
As I was doing love work, I came to realize that consciousness is light.
There was a lot of darkness inside me waiting to be taken care of.
Just by looking at it without trying to avoid it or get rid of it, that gaze became a light that brightened the darkness.
That gaze was the warmth I had been searching and waiting for for so long, the love I had been searching for so desperately.
--- p.48
As I acknowledged and transcended the duality of the mind, my resistance to experiences I had previously judged negative gradually disappeared.
As a result, as the pain of abandonment became more vivid as I accepted the entirety of the pair's hearts without resistance, the joy of giving and receiving love also became more vivid.
Every emotion began to live and breathe within me, like colors filling a palette, each with its own vivid color.
I learned that accepting your emotions allows you to move beyond them, and that accepted emotions become tools that, like paint, allow you to express every moment of your life.
--- p.57
If the 'feeling of love' is an inseparable pair of waves with the feeling of lack of love, that is, the 'feeling of abandonment,' then true love can be said to be an ocean of unconditional acceptance that embraces these two feelings without discrimination.
The ego believes that only the feeling of love is good, and rejects the feeling of hate as bad.
But true love embraces not only the feeling of love, but also the feeling of hate and the aching heart of poverty.
I don't throw anything away because it's bad.
--- p.90
What we need to do is ultimately a shift in attitude, where we stop living in the power of fear and start accepting it.
At any stage of the mind, it is necessary to stop reacting with fear and try to accept whatever state of mind it is.
Accepting my heart without any conditions, from there the pain in my heart begins to melt away, and where the pain melts away, my true, whole self remains, always without lies.
--- p.109
Consider that I do not live in the external world, but rather in my mind, which looks outward.
What torments me are my mind's reactions to reality, and by accepting those reactions, I can approach the truth engraved within me.
To approach the truth engraved within us in this way means to gradually expand our consciousness by separating it from the lies we have come to believe while living with our ego.
We use events in the external world as opportunities to illuminate our minds and walk the path of growth, the expansion of consciousness.
This is a life that follows the truth within, a life that puts my heart first.
--- p.126
Love work is always done to live with someone who accepts me unconditionally.
When I am with this being, I can unleash everything within myself without any inhibitions.
As you unfold it, all the emotional things disappear and you can find your true self inside and live.
So what we need to be concerned about is constantly checking whether we are living with this being who accepts us unconditionally.
--- p.144
If you find yourself thinking too much about something, notice that those thoughts are feeding into a wound, and look at the painful wound they are trying to protect.
See what negative feelings you are trying to escape from.
When you notice yourself caught up in a thought, feel it with your body and mind, asking yourself how that thought feels.
And feel that feeling fully to meet the unconscious thoughts that are causing it.
If you let go of that thought, the problem situation that thought was creating in reality will be solved on its own.
--- p.230
'Living in the present' means living fully and faithfully in the present, even though you are anxious and think, 'I have to change right now for the future.'
When I live fully and faithfully in the present, instead of suffering from the thought, “I can’t live in the present because of that past incident,” life will naturally change and I will naturally grow.
--- p.249
Publisher's Review
“Self-love, how on earth do you do it?”
If you find it difficult to love yourself as you are, I recommend 'love work.'
The message conveyed in almost every book and lecture about living your life your way and pursuing inner peace ultimately boils down to self-love.
They say self-love means accepting yourself as you are, but what if you don't like yourself enough and feel so inadequate? What if you've tried loving your own shortcomings, even writing journals of praise and gratitude, and practicing mindfulness, but can't shake the feeling that "I'm fundamentally flawed"?
"A Day's Love Work" is a book for everyone who wants to love themselves but has gone through countless trials and errors.
Author Kim Seol-ah has been tirelessly exploring spiritual teachings and applying them to her life for over ten years to find an answer to the question, "Can we live as fully as we do when we are loved, even without a loved one?"
Through that journey, I learned the principles of the mind and methods of self-love, and organized them into a book called “Love Work,” and I began sharing them with people through writing, videos, and online lectures in 2020.
This work, which began with the hope that those seeking true happiness and peace of mind would not be so lost as he was, has been met with much sympathy, receiving positive reviews for “sincerely explaining the principles of the inner world and the pitfalls of the mind, which are easily misunderstood and confusing, in simple language.”
“It’s not a bad heart, it’s a sick heart.”
The simplest and most immediate inner child healing method, developed through experience.
Love Work Guide
This book is a systematic guide to love work, based on the author's writings and lectures, designed to help you heal your inner child and restore your true nature of "unconditional love."
Love work is an unconscious purification process of accepting all the feelings that come to me at this moment as they are.
Instead of being caught up in the thoughts that come to mind, I am 'feeling-centered', which means paying attention to and noticing my feelings; instead of being a judge who judges good and bad for the ego and discards bad thoughts into the unconscious, I am 'non-judgmental', which means I am a parent who embraces my inner child with eyes of unconditional love; and I am living today by applying the three principles of 'absolute empathy'.
As film director Yoon Ga-eun wrote in her recommendation, the author “willingly shares in simple and accessible language the experiential truths she has reached through the long, repeated process of her soul being shattered and then reassembled.”
Part 1 contains the author's journey of healing and growth as he struggled to discover the method of self-love called love work.
The author achieved all the conditions of life he wanted, but the emotional pain continued, and he experienced the collapse of everything he had built up.
Having personally experienced the truth that happiness does not come from achieving what you want, the author honestly reveals his journey of about five years, where he stopped all studies and efforts to improve the mind and began looking inside himself with the simple thought of 'let's just look honestly at my heart at every moment.'
As the author endures intense emotional ordeals, he realizes that when he shines light on emotions abandoned to the unconscious, they flow, and that all emotions are not good or bad, right or wrong, but rather paint necessary to create a richer life.
And that this healing process can only be done by yourself and no one else.
Based on this experience and realization, the author summarized the method of purifying the unconscious, or healing the inner child, as 'love work' and vividly tells the changes before and after doing love work.
Part 2 explains the principles of the mind that you need to know before doing love work.
Many spiritual teachings convey the same truth, but they express it in different ways, making it difficult to clearly grasp the core.
Moreover, most people who have long identified with the ego, which discerns good and bad, perceive reality and try to solve problems through this ego's perspective.
The author explains in an easy-to-understand way the theories that must be known before doing love work, such as unity and duality, the unconscious, the patterns that the ego resists in order to avoid feeling negative emotions, reality as a reflection of the inner self, and the creation of the ego and the creation of unconditional love (nature).
“100 percent yes to this moment.”
Stop trying to solve the problem and surrender to love.
Love Work Practice A to Z
Part 3 provides detailed and friendly information on how to put love work into practice in real life.
Love work is broadly divided into ‘love work in daily life’ and ‘love work for a sick heart.’
Love work in everyday life refers to the process of noticing and accepting the feelings that arise at every moment and internalizing an attitude of unconditional love.
In this process, you will encounter emotions and thoughts that you simply cannot accept. Taking time to comfort and cherish these emotions and thoughts is the work of love for your aching heart.
The author guides readers to minimize trial and error by sharing various episodes from his experiences practicing love work.
Part 4 talks about the pitfalls of the mind that can easily be fallen into while working on love.
Most people who begin love work decide to accept all feelings without judgment, but they often make the mistake of doing love work to become better people and to get rid of uncomfortable feelings and thoughts.
This chapter points out mistakes and misunderstandings that anyone who practices inner healing in daily life can relate to, whether it's not necessarily love work, such as how to deal with thoughts that constantly pop up, or how to surrender, which you know in your head but can't quite put into practice.
Part 5 consists of frequently asked questions during the Love Work Q&A session and questions and answers that will be helpful when practicing Love Work.
We've selected questions that will be helpful for self-examination while practicing love work, such as how to know if you're doing love work properly and what the difference is between feeling and acknowledging emotions.
It also suggests how to view various problematic situations that can be experienced in life, such as relationship problems such as family and love, mental pain that cannot be resolved, and social problems such as racial discrimination, from the perspective of love work.
May everyone live with the joy of discovering their complete self.
The process of honestly facing and unconditionally accepting the face of a person is simple but difficult.
The author says that while there are many painful and painful moments while working on love, at the end of this journey there is 'the joy of getting to know the true self' and 'the joy of becoming one with unconditional love.'
And I believe that only when we let go of both our ideal self-image and the conditions of reality and embrace 'today's me' without a single millimeter of gap can we truly discover who we are and reveal that to the world.
Even if you feel like you're lacking right now, and even if you're afraid that your life will be a mess, look at that fear and face it.
And I hope this book will serve as an inner guide that will give you the courage to take the first step toward self-love.
If you are in the same confusion as I was then, I would like to place this book next to you and tell you something.
Let's stay there a little longer.
Instead of running away to the bright world, let's embrace this darkness a little longer.
It is said that in that chaos there is a whole life waiting to bloom anew.
I hope this book will give you the courage to go deeper into your own being.
― From the 'Prologue'
If you find it difficult to love yourself as you are, I recommend 'love work.'
The message conveyed in almost every book and lecture about living your life your way and pursuing inner peace ultimately boils down to self-love.
They say self-love means accepting yourself as you are, but what if you don't like yourself enough and feel so inadequate? What if you've tried loving your own shortcomings, even writing journals of praise and gratitude, and practicing mindfulness, but can't shake the feeling that "I'm fundamentally flawed"?
"A Day's Love Work" is a book for everyone who wants to love themselves but has gone through countless trials and errors.
Author Kim Seol-ah has been tirelessly exploring spiritual teachings and applying them to her life for over ten years to find an answer to the question, "Can we live as fully as we do when we are loved, even without a loved one?"
Through that journey, I learned the principles of the mind and methods of self-love, and organized them into a book called “Love Work,” and I began sharing them with people through writing, videos, and online lectures in 2020.
This work, which began with the hope that those seeking true happiness and peace of mind would not be so lost as he was, has been met with much sympathy, receiving positive reviews for “sincerely explaining the principles of the inner world and the pitfalls of the mind, which are easily misunderstood and confusing, in simple language.”
“It’s not a bad heart, it’s a sick heart.”
The simplest and most immediate inner child healing method, developed through experience.
Love Work Guide
This book is a systematic guide to love work, based on the author's writings and lectures, designed to help you heal your inner child and restore your true nature of "unconditional love."
Love work is an unconscious purification process of accepting all the feelings that come to me at this moment as they are.
Instead of being caught up in the thoughts that come to mind, I am 'feeling-centered', which means paying attention to and noticing my feelings; instead of being a judge who judges good and bad for the ego and discards bad thoughts into the unconscious, I am 'non-judgmental', which means I am a parent who embraces my inner child with eyes of unconditional love; and I am living today by applying the three principles of 'absolute empathy'.
As film director Yoon Ga-eun wrote in her recommendation, the author “willingly shares in simple and accessible language the experiential truths she has reached through the long, repeated process of her soul being shattered and then reassembled.”
Part 1 contains the author's journey of healing and growth as he struggled to discover the method of self-love called love work.
The author achieved all the conditions of life he wanted, but the emotional pain continued, and he experienced the collapse of everything he had built up.
Having personally experienced the truth that happiness does not come from achieving what you want, the author honestly reveals his journey of about five years, where he stopped all studies and efforts to improve the mind and began looking inside himself with the simple thought of 'let's just look honestly at my heart at every moment.'
As the author endures intense emotional ordeals, he realizes that when he shines light on emotions abandoned to the unconscious, they flow, and that all emotions are not good or bad, right or wrong, but rather paint necessary to create a richer life.
And that this healing process can only be done by yourself and no one else.
Based on this experience and realization, the author summarized the method of purifying the unconscious, or healing the inner child, as 'love work' and vividly tells the changes before and after doing love work.
Part 2 explains the principles of the mind that you need to know before doing love work.
Many spiritual teachings convey the same truth, but they express it in different ways, making it difficult to clearly grasp the core.
Moreover, most people who have long identified with the ego, which discerns good and bad, perceive reality and try to solve problems through this ego's perspective.
The author explains in an easy-to-understand way the theories that must be known before doing love work, such as unity and duality, the unconscious, the patterns that the ego resists in order to avoid feeling negative emotions, reality as a reflection of the inner self, and the creation of the ego and the creation of unconditional love (nature).
“100 percent yes to this moment.”
Stop trying to solve the problem and surrender to love.
Love Work Practice A to Z
Part 3 provides detailed and friendly information on how to put love work into practice in real life.
Love work is broadly divided into ‘love work in daily life’ and ‘love work for a sick heart.’
Love work in everyday life refers to the process of noticing and accepting the feelings that arise at every moment and internalizing an attitude of unconditional love.
In this process, you will encounter emotions and thoughts that you simply cannot accept. Taking time to comfort and cherish these emotions and thoughts is the work of love for your aching heart.
The author guides readers to minimize trial and error by sharing various episodes from his experiences practicing love work.
Part 4 talks about the pitfalls of the mind that can easily be fallen into while working on love.
Most people who begin love work decide to accept all feelings without judgment, but they often make the mistake of doing love work to become better people and to get rid of uncomfortable feelings and thoughts.
This chapter points out mistakes and misunderstandings that anyone who practices inner healing in daily life can relate to, whether it's not necessarily love work, such as how to deal with thoughts that constantly pop up, or how to surrender, which you know in your head but can't quite put into practice.
Part 5 consists of frequently asked questions during the Love Work Q&A session and questions and answers that will be helpful when practicing Love Work.
We've selected questions that will be helpful for self-examination while practicing love work, such as how to know if you're doing love work properly and what the difference is between feeling and acknowledging emotions.
It also suggests how to view various problematic situations that can be experienced in life, such as relationship problems such as family and love, mental pain that cannot be resolved, and social problems such as racial discrimination, from the perspective of love work.
May everyone live with the joy of discovering their complete self.
The process of honestly facing and unconditionally accepting the face of a person is simple but difficult.
The author says that while there are many painful and painful moments while working on love, at the end of this journey there is 'the joy of getting to know the true self' and 'the joy of becoming one with unconditional love.'
And I believe that only when we let go of both our ideal self-image and the conditions of reality and embrace 'today's me' without a single millimeter of gap can we truly discover who we are and reveal that to the world.
Even if you feel like you're lacking right now, and even if you're afraid that your life will be a mess, look at that fear and face it.
And I hope this book will serve as an inner guide that will give you the courage to take the first step toward self-love.
If you are in the same confusion as I was then, I would like to place this book next to you and tell you something.
Let's stay there a little longer.
Instead of running away to the bright world, let's embrace this darkness a little longer.
It is said that in that chaos there is a whole life waiting to bloom anew.
I hope this book will give you the courage to go deeper into your own being.
― From the 'Prologue'
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: June 15, 2023
- Page count, weight, size: 336 pages | 402g | 135*200*18mm
- ISBN13: 9788935704637
- ISBN10: 8935704636
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