On the courage to embrace imperfection and the heart to love myself
“Find the precious me within you!”

Insights from a 15-year veteran counselor, resonating with 1 million followers.
The self-discovery solution that has garnered over 400,000 paid subscribers is now fully revealed.

We were taught that we must always move forward.
And it is evaluated by its speed and results.
We run busily to achieve more in less time, but sometimes we ask ourselves:


'Is this truly what I want, or is this just what others expect?' We fear we're lacking, and we're anxious that we'll fall behind others.
So happiness is always postponed.
But if that desire to go higher and faster doesn't come from within me, then all that's left is endless lack.

So, what should we do? We must find our true selves and make peace with ourselves.
We need to reflect on whether the path we are currently running on is a journey toward our true goal or a simple escape.
What is self-acceptance? Is it really necessary to embrace mediocrity? And how do we start over? If these questions fill your mind, open this book.
The author, who has counseled over 6,000 clients over a long period of time, selected the most representative cases and organized them based on actual counseling conversations.
It is structured to immerse readers as if they are receiving direct counseling, which will be of great help in self-exploration and reflection.


The book also includes letters filled with various concerns and replies containing actionable advice.
For those who struggle between their true self and their real self, unable to accept their imperfect and insecure selves, this book will provide a profound opportunity to rediscover their inner "true self."

Happiness does not come from whipping myself, but from accepting myself as I am.
It's like climbing a mountain.
The moment you reach the top is brief, but the climb itself becomes a meaningful journey.
This book will be your companion on that path.
Sometimes as a strong advisor, sometimes as a friend who walks alongside you.
Until the moment you finally find yourself and discover true happiness!

** I understand that you want to name your pain.
It's like a warrior fighting an 'invisible enemy' in the dark.
You feel like there are enemies all around you, but you can't actually see them.
No matter how great your swordsmanship and strength, a sword swung at an invisible enemy will ultimately just cut through the air.
Could there be anything more helpless for a warrior? The very act of asking, "What is my problem?" sounds like a cry to the enemy: "Come out! Let's end this frustrating fight!"
Rather than losing a fight, it would be more frightening to collapse in vain without even knowing who you are fighting.

** If you don't know where to start looking for a problem, it's a good idea to 'create a problem'.
Go on a trip, meet new people, date, complain to your heart's content, test your limits and go to extremes, laugh out loud or cry, and try things you never imagined possible.
Discover a new you in the process.
As long as you don't break the law or break the rules, you have nothing to fear.
Inner peace can only be achieved after going through such trials.
Just like the lyrics of Mr. Chui-zen's song.

“Make me cry quickly, make me laugh quickly, let me run around in the snow to my heart’s content.
“Make me cry quickly, make me laugh quickly, because my problem is that I have no feelings!” In fact, your illness is precisely that of being ‘numb.’

** A truly useful philosophy teaches us how to live freely and honestly.
Of course, we shouldn't be trapped by the doctrines of life, but we shouldn't run away from reality either.
There is a saying in the world, 'When you are young, don't learn the philosophy of Lao-tzu and Zhuang-tzu, and when you are old, don't read the writings of Confucius and Mencius.'
When we are young, it is easy to misunderstand the emptiness of life preached by Taoist philosophy or Buddhist scriptures.
Only after accumulating sufficient experience in life can one discover freedom and liberation in it.


** How does poverty lead to deprivation? Most deprivation begins with "anxiety."
This 'anxiety' settles deep in the heart and leaves an indelible mark.
If our brains have alarms that signal deprivation, deprivation in childhood sensitizes those alarms.
Not only present deficiencies, but also anxiety about the future or even imagined shortcomings sound alarms, which confuse the brain.
The brain does its best to respond to these emergencies, but it often ends up in a situation like constantly dealing with a burning trash can.
As time goes by, the brain's "fire brigade" becomes extremely exhausted, and people lose focus and have difficulty planning for the future.

** Many people make the mistake of treating reality as their enemy, saying they can't escape it.
Absolutely not.
It's like a ship about to set sail, seeing the vast ocean between itself and its destination, and mistaking the ocean for an enemy that stands between itself and its destination, but in reality, the ocean can take you there.

**Being a tree means that I don't grow in just one direction.
My roots and branches spread out in all directions, and I am vibrant from any angle.
Being a tree means that I rustle, sway, dance, and sing in the wind, but my roots remain in the same place.
This means not losing your original intention in the joy of the moment.
Being a tree means I can befriend many different creatures.
By talking to them, coexisting with them, and complementing them, I do not take up other people's living space, but rather help birds and squirrels build their homes.

** If the self is still a flowing river without form, then ‘discovering the self’ or ‘proving the self’ is also meaningless.
Even if we can prove ourselves through something, what we can prove is only ourselves at a certain stage or in a certain state.
It's like not being able to judge the entire river by looking at just the rapids or the gentle currents.

** Everyone moves forward in contradiction.
If you can balance, manage, and honestly face that contradiction, it will become a powerful driving force that moves you forward.
But if you don't, the contradiction may eventually turn into an internal exhaustion that eats away at you.

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