“It hurts like my heart has been worn away.”
In a difficult, burdensome and uncomfortable place
God's Heart for Struggling Wives

What God wanted to teach my husband, a pastor, and me, a pastor's wife, was 'God's painful love for one soul.'
The love I always thought I knew! God, with the love He demonstrated by hanging His Son on the cross, has etched into the very bones of my husband and me the way He loves and looks upon all kinds of believers.
--- p.38

Samo is a leader, but she is a very unique leader who follows and serves rather than leads.
I would like to describe him as a leader who has the spirit of a leader but the attitude of a follower.
A pastor's wife is filled with the spirit of a leader, but she is a leader armed with the attitude of following the Lord and her husband, the pastor.
--- p.46

I sincerely hope that parents and caregivers, as leaders in the community, will first have the opportunity to experience 'non-judgmental acceptance and acceptance.'
It will be a mystical experience of experiencing God's gaze in one's relationships with others.
I earnestly pray that parents who have experienced such gazes will become 'healed healers' who will help their children, and their wives, to experience the gaze of acceptance and recognition again.
--- p.56

Only when the mother is filled with the Word of God and His Spirit can she truly live under the right and powerful influence of the Lord.
If a wife is under the influence of the Lord, that influence will inevitably flow to her husband, her children, the church, and the saints.
Therefore, the mother must dwell and remain in God and His Word more deeply through deep fellowship with Him.
That 'abiding' (2 Timothy 3:14) becomes the spiritual influence of the mother.
--- p.68

Just as it is very important for a counselor to reserve judgment and respect the client and his or her life during counseling, it is also very important for a pastor's wife to treat a believer with an attitude of respect for the believer's existence and life, rather than hasty evaluation or judgment.
Especially since pastors often hear stories about church members within the church, they need to make a special effort not to judge them.
--- p.92

When I embrace my younger self, who was smaller and more fragile than I thought, only then do I become my own complete comforter.
The more I don't comfort myself, the more I resent others for not comforting me.
I can comfort myself before I seek comfort from others.
Now that I have a grown-up self behind me, let's look back on our childhood without fear.
--- p.123

I must shake off the wounds in my heart and become a nurturer of my own heart.
To do that, you must not be bound by your wounds, but be bound to God.
I must free myself from the bonds of my wounds and break free from the destructive influence of the evil spirit that deceives me into thinking that I, the wounded one, am the most pitiful being in the world.
So, let only God have influence on me, the wife.
--- p.142

We are sinners and need to forgive each other.
Let us not forget that our sins crucified the Lord, and that the Lord became a sacrifice and forgave us with His blood, opening the way for a relationship in which we can live together and fellowship.
‘Relationship’ is a precious path opened by the Lord’s life.
We must pray that our relationships will not be broken or blocked due to our ignorance and weakness, and we must learn and practice professional communication skills.
--- p.153

If you fill the finite space and time of life with too many things without prioritizing them, at some point it can become filled with things that aren't that important.
I would like to say that a leader like Samo must live a life of priorities, and that is Samo's self-management.
For anyone, not just a single parent, there is no more important self-care than living a life of priorities.
--- p.183

God wants His people to learn His word, believe in it firmly, and remain in it.
That is living communion with God and the way to fully fulfill your calling as a pastor.
The second license that a pastor must obtain is ‘meditation on the Word and family worship established through meditation on the Word.’
--- p.239

A mother is a being with a calling that is more sent than anyone else.
Just because I married a pastor, I didn't automatically become a pastor's wife.
Through my marriage to a pastor, I was called to be his wife.
It is a mission that God has given me as an individual, calling me to be a pastor of the church.
It is a glorious calling that we cannot turn away from or be lazy about.

--- p.263