Complete your shining life
About small and elegant attitude

“Manners are the way we treat ourselves and others.
“It starts with warm consideration”

In every moment of our daily lives, we live by exchanging courtesy, politeness, and consideration in our relationships with family, colleagues, and various people.
Good manners brighten my life, create harmonious interpersonal relationships, and lead me to an elegant and dignified life.


Even among close family members, manners must be observed.
If you want to create a smooth relationship between a couple, between parents and children, and especially with your in-laws, you must first acknowledge and respect each other's tastes.
In these relationships, love deepens and trust builds.


Manners between people in social relationships occur in various situations.
In business meetings and dinner gatherings, which are an extension of company work, there are more and more important things to take care of and keep in mind, not to mention work cooperation and communication.


The author of this book is trying to live a healthy and comfortable life in his mid-60s after nearly 40 years of working life.
As we age, we try to take care of our health and daily routines while maintaining lasting relationships with people we have been with for a long time.
In the consideration that is embedded in these peaceful daily lives, we discover the image of a dignified life.


Manners begin with a natural attitude of consideration.
Small, quiet acts of kindness shared in crowded elevators and doors, in narrow, busy cities, expressions of gratitude and respect in cafes, restaurants, and public places are bound to be bright and contagious to those around them.


The manners discussed in this book begin with understanding and empathy between myself and my family, and are completed with an attitude of consideration in work and social relationships.
Through this book, we will come to realize anew how precious and important a sincere attitude of consideration and good manners are in every moment of our lives.

A good first impression doesn't just come from your tone of voice or facial expressions.
Neat attire, clean fingertips, uncluttered posture, even a subtle scent that arrives before words… That person's 'careful neatness' creates a presence.
--- From "Make a Good Impression"

A comfortable place for everyone is created thanks to cheerful people.
A smile before starting a conversation, a well-timed joke, and a heart prepared to make someone laugh.
When we are with such people, our days become a little smoother and life becomes a little lighter.
--- From "People who make you feel good when you meet them"

Please wait a moment.
Please hold the door or elevator door open for a moment for someone following me.
When opening or closing a door, a moment of consideration to check if anyone is coming or going is not a difficult task.
Slowing down a step for an elderly person who walks a little slower than you, or opening the door first for someone holding a child, are manners that silently convey your culture and leisure.
--- From "Please wait a moment"

A person's attitude at the table can silently reveal his or her character.
Dining manners are not about impressing others, but about regulating my attitude to have a good time with the people I am with.
Sometimes, enjoying a beautifully presented course meal can be more of a luxury than a luxury.
The time spent together becomes more beautiful when you show polite behavior while sharing a meal.
--- From "Comfortable and Classy Dining"

Asking for favors is always difficult.
However, depending on how you say it and with what attitude you approach it, that request can become something you 'willingly do together' rather than something you 'reject'.
And I believe.
Ultimately, an irresistible request isn't something I said in a moment, but rather something that stems from the attitude and relationships I've built over time.
--- From "The Art of Conversation that Moves the Heart"

A true adult would know how to be polite to people younger than them.
People open their hearts and tell their stories only when they have the belief that the other person will accept them as they are without judging them.
When someone, whether a child, a young person, or a colleague, speaks their heart to us, it means they already have faith that they will be heard.
The best way to keep that faith is to take your time and listen first.
--- From "Adult Attitude"

As an adult who is willing to lend a helping hand when his son and daughter-in-law ask for help, and has the wisdom to put down interference.
As a mother-in-law who knows how to acknowledge and respect her daughter-in-law's life without judging it by her own standards.
So that it will be the strength for my son to build a peaceful and happy family.
Isn't this the most mature consideration and elegant manners we can pass on to the next generation, having overcome the times we have lived through?
--- From "Remembering and Reminiscing About My Mother-in-Law"

Gossip is never 'fact-telling'.
It can easily become a tool for inciting emotions.
Don't agree.
Just nodding is like saying, 'That person said that too.'
Don't share your personal feelings.
Your words may be translated someday.
Draw the line quietly, but without being offensively, with a simple “I don’t know about that story”.
Show me with your attitude, not your words.
The depth of a relationship is always determined by actions, not words.
--- From "The Sweeter It Is, the More Careful You Should Be"

When we talk about manners, we often think of stiff and uncomfortable concepts of formality and courtesy, but that's not the kind of manners I'm talking about.
Things like the willingness to wait a little longer, the hand that opens the door first, the quiet demeanor that comes from the table, and the affectionate tone of voice.
This is not just about outward attitude and speech, but also about consideration for people.
--- From "Back in New York, Thinking of Manners"

People will stay with you even as you grow older if you treat them with all your heart, remember and appreciate even the smallest things, and know how to forgive others' mistakes.
They are not 'people who try to be good people', but 'people who have a habit of making people feel comfortable'.
And it is they who ultimately remain respected.

--- From "People are remembered by their attitude"

"are you okay.
“You’re doing well.” Those words are comfort, a promise, and my own way of looking at life.
The manners I talk about in this book are not intended to be a definitive answer.
It's just a story about a quiet but strong attitude that I've experienced throughout my life.
Manners are how we treat others, but they are also our attitude towards life.

--- From "Maple Leaf Play"