Kind words heal the heart.

I hope this reaches you who has been hurt by people.
Beautiful words collected by Yunseol, author of "Daily Yunseol"

“Life is lonely.” This is a phrase that is often seen on social media these days.
It is said that the 2030 generation rejects tiring human relationships, does not date or get married, and does not try to get closer than a certain distance with coworkers.
I'm tired of relationships that don't work out the way I want them to, so I'm more comfortable being alone.

Author Yun Seol also once thought that 'life is something you have to endure alone.'
This is because I grew up as an only child to parents who both worked, and I often had to take care of the house alone from a young age.
I naturally believed that living alone was life.
But at some point I realized.
In the countless days I thought I had gotten through on my own, there were actually warm words from people around me.

“There were many moments when it was difficult to endure alone.
There were days when I felt suffocated, lonely, and dizzy.
Every time that happened, what held me together was a kind word from someone close to me.
I have been saved countless times by those words.
“Behind the countless days when I believed I had overcome everything on my own, there was someone’s hand quietly stroking me.”

In the end, what sustains life is ‘relationships.’
Sometimes, a single word from someone can make a person's day, and become their whole life.
This is why pretty words are more necessary in an increasingly harsh world.
This book reminds us that none of us are alone, and that we can embrace each other with the warmth of words.
It gently settles down on my weary heart and gives me the courage to become affectionate again.

In the end, what touches the heart is not the 'necessary words', but the 'necessary and pleasant words to hear'.
There is resilience in such words.
Sometimes it fills the gaps in a relationship and rebuilds a broken heart.
Sometimes it becomes a lighthouse that illuminates even the darkest corners of life.
A single word can make the impossible possible.
Pretty words go beyond mere language and can become someone's life itself.

--- p.6

The idea that if left alone, things will work out on their own may seem like it respects each person's way of life and freedom, but in reality, there is no more harmful thought than this.
If you leave it alone, it's a relationship that will wither.

--- p.40

The truth doesn't always serve a good purpose.
Some truths are sharp like a fencing sword, easily piercing a hole in the heart.
I've seen time and again that people who can't control their honesty can't maintain good relationships.
No matter how transparent the words may be, if they are not spoken in the right circumstances, they will only be tinged with darkness.
On the other hand, even if it is a lie, if it is said with good intentions, it can be a medicine.
Some truths easily destroy relationships, while some lies rather strengthen them.

--- p.45

You need to make sure you're not risking your life in an unnecessary relationship.
This doesn't mean that you should cut off relationships that don't feel useful.
Rather, it means that you need to create the mental space to accept a new relationship.
Each person has their own total capacity of mind.
It is impossible to convey the same amount of affection to everyone you meet.

--- p.84

I'm trying to develop the habit of speaking as if I'm writing.
I think of a lot of words before I even open my mouth.
Some words seem a little sharp and some words seem too strong.
If you list them, you'll find that there are sentences that sound bad.
Get rid of it.
Instead, fill it with soft and kind words.
--- p.93

You might think that people who lead relationships are active and expressive, but in reality, it's often the opposite.
Generally, the quiet person takes the lead in the relationship.
If you just listen, it may seem like you're being dragged along in the conversation.
But in reality, it's about providing an environment where the other person can speak well.
A quiet person rows silently and steers the boat.

--- p.112

The hand continues to do something.
When I'm feeling good, and when I'm feeling bad.
Even when swallowing words, hands reveal emotions.
They clap their palms together in joy, cross their arms in rejection, scratch their heads in puzzlement, or tap their index fingers or twirl a pen in thought.
There is nothing more honest than hands.
--- p.171

I like a lukewarm heart.
Lukewarmness here is an attitude of accepting anything.
It's about being a shadow to keep people with hot standards from burning out.
It's like being a scarf to keep someone with cold standards from freezing.
Rather than abruptly changing the other person's standards, it is a heart that is considerate and caring so that they do not collapse on their own.
To maintain love, you must know how to respect and cherish each other's standards.

--- p.187

I know people who are upset because they don't have good luck.
They have one thing in common: they care about others more than themselves.
If you always give away things under the pretext of caring for and being considerate of others, you will end up in a position where you are constantly getting hurt.
Good people often forget to be good to themselves.

--- p.209