Kim Chang-ok's Life Lectures: Read When You Want to Change Your Life
30 million cumulative YouTube views! CBS's "15 Minutes to Change the World" featured instructor.
A famous lecture that made tvN's [Unexpected Adult], EBS's [60 Minute Parents], KBS's [Morning Plaza], and [Leisurely] cry!

Kim Chang-ok, who has been described as a star instructor, a master of communication, a role model for instructors, and a leader in healing performance, has many nicknames.
Kim Chang-ok, a famous lecturer who has made many people laugh and cry through his appearances on tvN's [Unexpected Adult], CBS's [15 Minutes to Change the World], KBS's [Morning Plaza], [Leisurely], and EBS's [60 Minute Parents], has accumulated over 30 million views on YouTube.
His famous lectures, which are sought after by psychiatrists, consultants, lecturers, and professors, have been compiled into a book of 35 lectures.


How to listen to the signs life sends you, how to find what you truly love, how to listen to the story of the 'self-teller', the voice inside you, how to peel off the skin of inferiority complex, how to look at your life comprehensively, how to help yourself before anyone else, how to live in the present moment, how to make a lasting business out of life, how to build emotional muscles and go on a real vacation... Kim Chang-ok suggests specific experiments and methods for making small changes in life.
Kim Chang-ok's sincere message, which willingly reveals even his dark and shabby appearance without hiding it, has the power to resonate.
When life feels tedious, when nothing makes you happy, when you want to quit, but truly want to live life to the fullest, this book will be a source of comfort, encouragement, and powerful inspiration.

People make the mistake of thinking, 'If I do what I love, I won't be afraid.'
It's an illusion to think that if you do what you love or love, you won't be afraid, lonely, or scared.
The confirmation of love is 'I want to do it even though I'm scared'.
That's closer to love.
Love is 'I love you because of that', but 'I love you despite that' is a greater love.

---From "Live My Life Right Now"

I have given over 5,000 lectures so far.
But even now, I regret it every time I finish a lecture.
'I shouldn't have said that earlier. Why did you say it that way? Someone might have been offended by that expression.' Giving 5,000 lectures means making 5,000 mistakes.
When driving on the road, you often see signs that say 'under construction'.
Life is also under construction.
Nothing happens all at once.
Even after doing it 5,000 times, it still didn't work.
But there is definitely something to be learned along the way.
Pretending not to know that learning and focusing on what you can't do at once and getting stressed out is digging your own grave.
Maybe we have this compulsion to achieve something and then be recognized for it.
You may think that you don't have a life until you achieve something.
But once you achieve something, does it really end there? "I need to do the next one, too. What if it doesn't work out?" Another worry begins.
If it doesn't work out, it's hard because you can't do it, and if it does work out, it's hard because you're afraid it'll be taken away.
Don't be fooled by this.
---From "Isn't my life until I achieve my dream?"

It won't be easy, but there is a hopeful message.
If we could strip away the skin that's attached to us and make a product out of it, we could create the best product.
People don't like snakes, but they value snake skin.
There must be something that sticks to you like skin.
It happens as you live.
It's our choice whether we will completely turn our backs on the world and life, living in a corner, occasionally coming out to attack people, or whether we will shed this skin that we think is completely attached to us and turn it into the best product possible.

---From "To Peel Off the Skin of Inferiority Complex"

“No one knows how life will unfold.
That announcement came out.
I never thought I would study vocal music, and I never thought I would be giving lectures.
Even though I repeated the year, I failed to get into a vocational college in the countryside.
I called the school to find out why I failed, but they said, "We cannot provide information on all those who failed."
At that time, the words 'Failed' were loudly engraved in my head.
I attempted suicide because I felt like I was not worth living.
Thinking back now, I was really foolish.
College, what's the big deal?
It's possible for someone who didn't graduate from college to establish a university.
It's really cool to see the passionate energy my friend has right now.
But I hope that you will open up your self-torturing heart a little and let some cool air flow through it.”
Nothing happens all at once.
Life is never complete.
Whether something works or not will flow with many possibilities.
Don't be too sad that things didn't go your way.
Our will is so limited that there are many good things in the world that go beyond our will.
---From "Nothing is accomplished at once"

It is not easy to change the language you learned from your parents.
That's not something just anyone can do.
This is what I realized after a long lecture.
I've always tried to change that.
But I knew that I couldn't change it on my own.
Like countless people who studied English but can't use it as their everyday language, it's not easy to let go of the language you learned from your parents and learn a new language.
Do you want to change the language of life you inherited from your parents? If so, you'll need to be prepared.
It's okay to start with a small wish.
However, you must have the awareness that you want to change and the courage to pay the price.

---From "Learn a New Language of Life"

In fact, human life is very similar.
It's just a difference of one perilla leaf.
That person and I both live similarly.
But some people live with their wounds tightly hidden, while others live healthy and free from their wounds.
People who think that a door is a place to protect their wounds or feelings of inferiority put a big lock on it and put a big, thick-set doorkeeper in front of it.
I think of the inferiority complex and depression inside me as a point where others can attack me, so I just try to hide it and protect it.
And then we get trapped inside and live with the hurt and inferiority complex.
But once you are free from the hurt and the inferiority complex, that door becomes a door that allows you to meet someone.
It becomes a door to understand and meet other wounded people.
So, you might think that the more wounds someone has, the more opportunities there are to meet them.

---From "Of course, the wounds will not go away"

When someone gets hurt, that lack becomes energy and becomes the foundation for a healthy life.
I also received a lot of that energy.
But don't say things like this to comfort me.
“Your shortcomings have made you who you are today.” Don’t speak carelessly about other people’s shortcomings.
It's not comforting, it's like pouring salt on the wound.
This is what comfort looks like.
“I know how hard it must have been for you.” It is comforting to be there for the hurt with that empathetic heart.
For better or worse, we often make the mistake of giving strength to those close to us.
True comfort is understanding and expressing the heart.
It doesn't require an answer.
Please wrap me up.
That's comforting.
---From "How to Comfort"

If your children are in high school or college and want to distance themselves from you, give them space.
That's how you get closer to your children.
The more parents try to get closer to their children, the more they will withdraw into themselves.
It will go away.
You will get into the habit of locking your door.
I'll just put on headphones and listen to the music I used to listen to.
Leave it alone.
Then I'll come back.
If you grab it, it might explode.
I am the only one who doesn't know the smell coming from my body, and I am the only one who can't measure distance.
When your child grows up to a certain extent, he or she is already the head of an independent castle.
Please give them their space.
Parents are often the ones who know their children the least.
You have to leave the island to see the island.
Trust your children and give them land.
Please acknowledge me as the lord of the castle.

---From "To Parents"