Happiness in life is determined by relationships!
A clear psychological prescription from a relationship psychology expert for those struggling with interpersonal relationships.

Why do we struggle with relationships? Why do we experience more problems in our relationships with those closest to us? Why do we feel lonely when we're alone and miserable when we're together? What is the nature of the anxiety we experience? What communication skills are necessary for happier relationships?

This book explores the nature of loneliness and anxiety experienced by humans to answer these questions, while vividly illustrating how communication in relationships occurs through various examples.
For those struggling with interpersonal relationships, we also introduce solutions that anyone can apply in their daily lives, such as "Two Rituals to Understand Yourself and the Other Person's Heart" and "Four Practices to Improve Relationships."
It reminds us that the essence of a relationship is not determined by quantity, but is maintained by qualitative depth, and that when depth is built, human relationships become the greatest place for healing.

In this book, readers will learn a profound attitude toward human relationships, not a one-time solution.
This book is intended for general audiences and contains methods that can be utilized by anyone who wants to learn the secrets of communication.
I am also confident that this book will resonate deeply with those working in the field of psychological counseling.
This is a shining example of a book on relationships and communication, and I have no doubt that it will be of great help to many who struggle with interpersonal relationships.

--- From the "Recommendation"

Even though we live in a hyper-connected society, we are the only ones who remain connected after we turn off our digital devices.
Some people will lie on a small bed, staring blankly at a blank screen, feeling a sense of emptiness and despair.
Because we do not actually live in a virtual world, but exist in nature.
No, because we ourselves are nature itself, breathing.
There is something that is not captured in the mix of organic and digital.
It is the being called ‘I’.
Therefore, we live in a time when encounters and relationships with people are more urgent than ever.
--- 「Chapter 1.
From “The Paradox of the Hyperconnected Society”

As humans try to gather together and become social, they also get sick when they are together.
The reason I don't go to my friends' gatherings is because I was hurt by my friends.
The reason I don't want to go to work is because there are people who are overly rude.
The reason I don't want to contact my family is because I feel constant, undue pressure.
Still, it is difficult to break off the relationship.
Although talk of cutting ties is popular, there are countless relationships that are actually difficult to cut ties with.
If you cut off all your friends, you will be overcome by loneliness.
It is difficult for someone to just quit a company because they don't like it.
I hate my parents who always compare me to others and criticize me, so I delete their contact information, but it is not easy to cut off blood ties.
---「Chapter 2.
From "Why I feel lonely when I'm alone and miserable when I'm with someone"

If you have not received attention from your parents and have experienced constant rejection, you will likely feel particularly disconnected and alienated in your social relationships.
If a child continues to interact with his or her older sisters in a jealous and envious manner, this may portend conflicts with others as an adult.
If self-esteem is formed so early in childhood, is it difficult to raise it later in life? This is precisely why Satir is so great.
Satir firmly says no.
Rather, she says that self-esteem can be sufficiently raised even now.
It is through experience and experience.
How is that possible? She talks about 'communication.'
Developing and experiencing healthy communication can boost your self-esteem.
--- 「Chapter 3.
Among the most powerful evidence to know the mind is 'communication'

When you communicate in a complex manner, you become confused and so do the people around you.
Inconsistency in relationships can be fatal in the long run.
Most meaningful relationships are more like a marathon than a sprint.
If this is the case, you need to practice communicating consistently across a wider range of situations and people.
On that basis, the other person can predict me, and I can predict myself.
Human relationships are based on trust, and that trust is based on predictable and consistent attitudes.
--- Chapter 4.
Understanding yourself and others through communication patterns

When I feel stressed, pressured, and even burnout, the 'observing me' must control the 'experiencing me' who still wants to run away.
Because it is a signal that you need rest.
When someone hurts us, big or small, the 'experiencing me' must stop for a moment and examine the hurt.
Now is not the time to do anything more, it is the time for ointment and bandages.
When you're sick, you need healing.
We live in a crucible of all kinds of stress.
We have to manage more human relationships than ever before, handle various tasks, and manage a huge schedule.
When I start to feel incompetent, when I start to feel unloved, when I start to feel worthless and depressed, I need to call out to my "observing self."
When your self-esteem is weakened, the first thing you need to do is take the time to respect, cherish, love, and care for yourself.
--- Chapter 6.
From "Relationships also require practice"

If you have lost your own face by wearing too many masks, it is time to contemplate the inner self that you have been hiding behind them.
It's about accepting not only my good sides, but also my limitations and my wounds.
It hurts, but that's who I am.
I am not Superman or a great genius.
As I begin to accept my own pain, the torment of worrying that my weaknesses will be exposed and that painful wounds will recur begins to fade.
Again, it's scary to take off the mask and see my face as it is.
It may not be such a pleasant sight.
Rather, it may be a withered and sad appearance.
That image may be from your childhood, something you have long since forgotten.
Just look at that sight.
The emotions you feel in your heart are the most important door to understanding yourself.

--- Chapter 6.
From "Relationships also require practice"