I want to age wisely
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Book Introduction
“I will pass on to you the life I learned first.” Raised through the lives of 100,000 people Finding the center of your mind in relationships, work, and love How to live with conviction A legend in the psychology world, Professor Emeritus Jang Seong-suk of the Catholic University Department of Psychology offers a clear prescription for life to all adults around the world who want to age gracefully! With 40 years of experience as a counselor and 70 years of experience, the author shares tips for living a rich and meaningful life. This book is a condensation of various life stories, including the pain of superiority and inferiority, love and betrayal, alienation and loneliness, and the life insights gained through these stories, which I encountered while meeting approximately 100,000 people. This book contains 55 life lessons, delivered in a clear yet honest tone, addressing universal concerns that everyone faces at least once as they grow older: how to avoid intergenerational conflict, what makes a good parent, the conditions for beautiful love, what makes a good life, and what constitutes a tolerant adult. "I Want to Age Wisely" is divided into the early, middle, and late stages of a person's life, as if looking at a microcosm of that person's life. It serves as a solid guide, like the story of a senior who has lived before us, to those of us who are at a loss as to how to live, while engraving the concerns and meanings of life that must be addressed at that time. |
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Introduction | The life story I've wanted to share with you over the past 40 years of counseling.
Chapter 1: The Early Years of Life - Embracing Yourself
The most important thing to a person is a person.
The importance of voluntary motivation
How to Avoid Intergenerational Conflict
Conditions of Beautiful Love
It's better to grow your own bowl
You have to do your best and end it with that.
Embrace yourself willingly
Admit your mistakes openly
We need to embrace each other to live together safely.
I must become the subject and believe
We need flexibility to accept things as they are.
The ability to be a beautiful person
It's up to you what position you take.
Chapter 2: The Middle of Life - Winning People's Hearts is the Most Valuable
Treat the target with sincerity
Learn to have that kind of attitude
Good parents are
What torments us most is love.
Speak gently, even if it takes time
It must also have folding power
The most sensitive and easily injured of all living things
I live my life trying to speak politely.
What does it mean to live well?
Moderation sets others free
The most valuable virtue you can pass on to your children
Winning people's hearts is the most valuable thing.
The attitude of a generous adult
There is no greater joy than communication.
There is absolutely no right or wrong
Take your time and watch the situation calmly.
Maintain a comfortable relationship by just looking at each other
What can't be done can't be done
Maintain a calm demeanor in the midst of chaos
Be passionate about your job
Distinguish between public and private matters and set priorities
Control your mind well and don't get swayed
Chapter 3: The Second Half of Life - Reflecting on the Value of Ordinariness
A lifelong love affair with oneself
The role of adults
The joy of life that I have discovered after turning 70
Attitude toward death
They say life is hard
The better things are, the simpler they are.
I truly feel the meaning of living thanks to others.
The more attachment you have, the more suffering you will experience.
To have a happy old age
Everything in the world has its own value.
Get the big picture straight and then deal with the small stuff.
Live according to your convictions without being swept away by the flow of things around you.
The joy of life lies in sharing affection.
Even effort can be detrimental if it exceeds a certain level.
Every move you make reflects your character.
Reflecting on the value of ordinariness
Live simply without any fuss
Life is sometimes like a shower in a drought, and it's so refreshing.
Living well is proportional to one's ability to move on.
The happiness I discovered in my old age
Chapter 1: The Early Years of Life - Embracing Yourself
The most important thing to a person is a person.
The importance of voluntary motivation
How to Avoid Intergenerational Conflict
Conditions of Beautiful Love
It's better to grow your own bowl
You have to do your best and end it with that.
Embrace yourself willingly
Admit your mistakes openly
We need to embrace each other to live together safely.
I must become the subject and believe
We need flexibility to accept things as they are.
The ability to be a beautiful person
It's up to you what position you take.
Chapter 2: The Middle of Life - Winning People's Hearts is the Most Valuable
Treat the target with sincerity
Learn to have that kind of attitude
Good parents are
What torments us most is love.
Speak gently, even if it takes time
It must also have folding power
The most sensitive and easily injured of all living things
I live my life trying to speak politely.
What does it mean to live well?
Moderation sets others free
The most valuable virtue you can pass on to your children
Winning people's hearts is the most valuable thing.
The attitude of a generous adult
There is no greater joy than communication.
There is absolutely no right or wrong
Take your time and watch the situation calmly.
Maintain a comfortable relationship by just looking at each other
What can't be done can't be done
Maintain a calm demeanor in the midst of chaos
Be passionate about your job
Distinguish between public and private matters and set priorities
Control your mind well and don't get swayed
Chapter 3: The Second Half of Life - Reflecting on the Value of Ordinariness
A lifelong love affair with oneself
The role of adults
The joy of life that I have discovered after turning 70
Attitude toward death
They say life is hard
The better things are, the simpler they are.
I truly feel the meaning of living thanks to others.
The more attachment you have, the more suffering you will experience.
To have a happy old age
Everything in the world has its own value.
Get the big picture straight and then deal with the small stuff.
Live according to your convictions without being swept away by the flow of things around you.
The joy of life lies in sharing affection.
Even effort can be detrimental if it exceeds a certain level.
Every move you make reflects your character.
Reflecting on the value of ordinariness
Live simply without any fuss
Life is sometimes like a shower in a drought, and it's so refreshing.
Living well is proportional to one's ability to move on.
The happiness I discovered in my old age
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Confidence is literally the power to believe in yourself.
If we think about the self in a complicated way here, it will never end, so let's simply use our own emotions and thoughts as a representative value.
Then, express your feelings and thoughts from time to time.
In the process of doing so, if you are acknowledged as worthy by those around you, you will feel relieved that you can feel and think that way.
He explained that if you continue in that way, you will gradually gain more self-assertion and based on that, you will gradually be able to realize what you want.
---From "The Importance of Spontaneous Motivation"
Even if the other person is being unreasonable or has done something wrong, it is better to be compassionate and let it go, thinking that that is what happened.
Because being strict doesn't necessarily mean you'll get better results.
Rather, I often see the other person becoming more submissive, whether because they don't feel hurt when giving in or because they feel respected.
---From "There is absolutely no right or wrong"
Time spent alive is a precious gift.
If you expect or request something once or twice and it doesn't work out, you need to have the strength to accept it and give up.
If you fail to see the other person as they are and insist on your own expectations, you may end up wasting time.
---From "You must also have the power to fold"
He said that small miracles accumulate to eventually become gentle and refined, creating a virtuous cycle.
He emphasized that not speaking harshly is the key to eliminating conflict in relationships.
Anything that is even slightly offensive or harsh is bound to cause resistance or resentment.
He explained that if that happens, the essence will disappear and only emotional conflict will run rampant.
---From "I Live Trying to Speak Gently"
Any task can be properly carried out only when the main idea is clearly established and then the details are addressed.
Otherwise, you will end up not being able to see the forest for the trees.
---From "Straighten the big picture and then deal with the small details"
Living well in this world we live in can be measured by the abundance of human relationships.
No matter how much wealth you have, if you are stingy with those close to you and have no one around you, it is difficult to say that your life is successful.
If we think about the self in a complicated way here, it will never end, so let's simply use our own emotions and thoughts as a representative value.
Then, express your feelings and thoughts from time to time.
In the process of doing so, if you are acknowledged as worthy by those around you, you will feel relieved that you can feel and think that way.
He explained that if you continue in that way, you will gradually gain more self-assertion and based on that, you will gradually be able to realize what you want.
---From "The Importance of Spontaneous Motivation"
Even if the other person is being unreasonable or has done something wrong, it is better to be compassionate and let it go, thinking that that is what happened.
Because being strict doesn't necessarily mean you'll get better results.
Rather, I often see the other person becoming more submissive, whether because they don't feel hurt when giving in or because they feel respected.
---From "There is absolutely no right or wrong"
Time spent alive is a precious gift.
If you expect or request something once or twice and it doesn't work out, you need to have the strength to accept it and give up.
If you fail to see the other person as they are and insist on your own expectations, you may end up wasting time.
---From "You must also have the power to fold"
He said that small miracles accumulate to eventually become gentle and refined, creating a virtuous cycle.
He emphasized that not speaking harshly is the key to eliminating conflict in relationships.
Anything that is even slightly offensive or harsh is bound to cause resistance or resentment.
He explained that if that happens, the essence will disappear and only emotional conflict will run rampant.
---From "I Live Trying to Speak Gently"
Any task can be properly carried out only when the main idea is clearly established and then the details are addressed.
Otherwise, you will end up not being able to see the forest for the trees.
---From "Straighten the big picture and then deal with the small details"
Living well in this world we live in can be measured by the abundance of human relationships.
No matter how much wealth you have, if you are stingy with those close to you and have no one around you, it is difficult to say that your life is successful.
---From "The joy of life lies in sharing affection"
Publisher's Review
“How can we age wisely?”
A clear life solution that covers the first, middle, and second half of life!
Everyone, even as an adult, has thought about what a true adult looks like at least once.
This book is both advice from a psychologist who has experienced aging and a warm life story.
Learning about life divides life into three periods: the first 30 years, when you are busy preparing for life, the middle 30 years, when you are busy raising children, and the last 30 years, when life has finally arrived. It presents clear life solutions that can help you wisely solve the challenges you face in each period.
For those who are walking through the early stages of life, not knowing what is what, I talk about “how to embrace yourself willingly.”
Citing examples from young people I met during actual counseling sessions, I emphasize that during this period, it is essential to accept yourself as you are and build self-confidence.
For those of us living in the hectic middle of life, everything unfolds differently depending on our capabilities.
At this time, he emphasizes that what determines happiness is none other than the relationship with those around you, and that “winning people’s hearts is the most valuable thing.”
To maintain a peaceful relationship, we suggest an attitude of acceptance and a polite way of speaking.
For those who are finally entering the latter half of their lives, we talk about the “value of ordinariness” and the happiness they finally find in old age.
He talks about his state of mind in the face of death and the loss of a loved one, while also cheerfully talking about forgetting about growing old and living in the joy of growing up.
This book, which seems to unfold a compressed version of one person's life, evokes deep empathy and enlightenment not only for young people making life plans, middle-aged people raising children, but also for those who have finally reached old age.
You can vaguely gauge the future of a life you haven't lived, and if you've already passed that period, you can realize the parts of life you've been missing and prepare for the next period.
This is truly a warm and friendly guide to life from a life veteran who has lived life firsthand.
40 years of counseling experience,
Advice on Life from a Psychologist with 70 Years of Experience
55 Life Lessons to Become a True Adult
Author Jang Seong-suk has been working as a counselor for nearly 40 years and has encountered the joys and sorrows of countless people.
As I encountered the joys and sorrows of life, such as the pain of superiority and inferiority, love and betrayal, alienation and loneliness, I could not help but think that life is literally 'up and down'.
How much easier would life be if there was someone who could give us simple advice whenever we encountered difficult decisions in life?
So, this book is packed with straightforward yet warm advice so that you can turn to it whenever you face a challenge in life.
You can age happily just by cultivating the mindset through the 55 life lessons the author talks about, including the attitude and posture of an adult.
Wisdom of Relationships
It might be better to maintain a comfortable relationship by just looking at each other.
Because close human relationships are essential to enriching life.
Adult attitude
When a problem arises, the more mature a person is, the less they have to say to the other person.
Because even if you don't like the other person, you know that if you just digest it, it's nothing.
The Secret of Happiness
How can we prepare for a rich and happy life? The answer is, without a doubt, enriching our interpersonal relationships.
Because our happiness or unhappiness comes directly from our relationships.
Celebrating my 70th birthday
Even though I am already 70 years old, I still forget about growing old because of the joy of growing up.
We often think that age is just a number.
The wisdom of a generous adult
“I’m learning to have that kind of attitude.”
Author Jang Seong-suk is a leading figure in Korean counseling who has pursued an Eastern counseling method that confronts reality and breaks away from the Western counseling method based on Freud.
It is famous for its counseling method that brings real-world problems to the surface and solves them immediately, rather than diluting past wounds.
Nicknamed "Jangkal" for her straightforward counseling style, she also does not take detours in "I Want to Age Wisely" and instead presents stories that are directly relevant to our lives.
The topics are universal yet profound, such as 'the importance of voluntary motivation', 'what makes a good parent', 'how to avoid conflict between generations', and 'the role of adults', which everyone should think about at least once in their lives.
While humorously unraveling the client's story, he also conveys appropriate empathy and comfort as a counselor, while not hesitating to offer sharp advice.
In addition, the 'Psychologist's Note' corner presents specific methods that can be applied immediately in real life, guiding readers to become better people.
It offers adult wisdom, befitting 70 years of life experience, by teaching us how to know what we want, how to respect and honor our elders while avoiding intergenerational conflict, and more.
As I read the text, I could feel the warmth of humanity in her straightforward words.
The author's wisdom comes from a tolerant attitude that consistently maintains a 'let's just do it' attitude.
He emphasizes that “living well in life is proportional to the ability to move on calmly,” and advises that living in this world is much easier if you remain calm, empty your greed, and move on with a generous attitude, even in chaotic situations or difficult conflicts.
A clear life solution that covers the first, middle, and second half of life!
Everyone, even as an adult, has thought about what a true adult looks like at least once.
This book is both advice from a psychologist who has experienced aging and a warm life story.
Learning about life divides life into three periods: the first 30 years, when you are busy preparing for life, the middle 30 years, when you are busy raising children, and the last 30 years, when life has finally arrived. It presents clear life solutions that can help you wisely solve the challenges you face in each period.
For those who are walking through the early stages of life, not knowing what is what, I talk about “how to embrace yourself willingly.”
Citing examples from young people I met during actual counseling sessions, I emphasize that during this period, it is essential to accept yourself as you are and build self-confidence.
For those of us living in the hectic middle of life, everything unfolds differently depending on our capabilities.
At this time, he emphasizes that what determines happiness is none other than the relationship with those around you, and that “winning people’s hearts is the most valuable thing.”
To maintain a peaceful relationship, we suggest an attitude of acceptance and a polite way of speaking.
For those who are finally entering the latter half of their lives, we talk about the “value of ordinariness” and the happiness they finally find in old age.
He talks about his state of mind in the face of death and the loss of a loved one, while also cheerfully talking about forgetting about growing old and living in the joy of growing up.
This book, which seems to unfold a compressed version of one person's life, evokes deep empathy and enlightenment not only for young people making life plans, middle-aged people raising children, but also for those who have finally reached old age.
You can vaguely gauge the future of a life you haven't lived, and if you've already passed that period, you can realize the parts of life you've been missing and prepare for the next period.
This is truly a warm and friendly guide to life from a life veteran who has lived life firsthand.
40 years of counseling experience,
Advice on Life from a Psychologist with 70 Years of Experience
55 Life Lessons to Become a True Adult
Author Jang Seong-suk has been working as a counselor for nearly 40 years and has encountered the joys and sorrows of countless people.
As I encountered the joys and sorrows of life, such as the pain of superiority and inferiority, love and betrayal, alienation and loneliness, I could not help but think that life is literally 'up and down'.
How much easier would life be if there was someone who could give us simple advice whenever we encountered difficult decisions in life?
So, this book is packed with straightforward yet warm advice so that you can turn to it whenever you face a challenge in life.
You can age happily just by cultivating the mindset through the 55 life lessons the author talks about, including the attitude and posture of an adult.
Wisdom of Relationships
It might be better to maintain a comfortable relationship by just looking at each other.
Because close human relationships are essential to enriching life.
Adult attitude
When a problem arises, the more mature a person is, the less they have to say to the other person.
Because even if you don't like the other person, you know that if you just digest it, it's nothing.
The Secret of Happiness
How can we prepare for a rich and happy life? The answer is, without a doubt, enriching our interpersonal relationships.
Because our happiness or unhappiness comes directly from our relationships.
Celebrating my 70th birthday
Even though I am already 70 years old, I still forget about growing old because of the joy of growing up.
We often think that age is just a number.
The wisdom of a generous adult
“I’m learning to have that kind of attitude.”
Author Jang Seong-suk is a leading figure in Korean counseling who has pursued an Eastern counseling method that confronts reality and breaks away from the Western counseling method based on Freud.
It is famous for its counseling method that brings real-world problems to the surface and solves them immediately, rather than diluting past wounds.
Nicknamed "Jangkal" for her straightforward counseling style, she also does not take detours in "I Want to Age Wisely" and instead presents stories that are directly relevant to our lives.
The topics are universal yet profound, such as 'the importance of voluntary motivation', 'what makes a good parent', 'how to avoid conflict between generations', and 'the role of adults', which everyone should think about at least once in their lives.
While humorously unraveling the client's story, he also conveys appropriate empathy and comfort as a counselor, while not hesitating to offer sharp advice.
In addition, the 'Psychologist's Note' corner presents specific methods that can be applied immediately in real life, guiding readers to become better people.
It offers adult wisdom, befitting 70 years of life experience, by teaching us how to know what we want, how to respect and honor our elders while avoiding intergenerational conflict, and more.
As I read the text, I could feel the warmth of humanity in her straightforward words.
The author's wisdom comes from a tolerant attitude that consistently maintains a 'let's just do it' attitude.
He emphasizes that “living well in life is proportional to the ability to move on calmly,” and advises that living in this world is much easier if you remain calm, empty your greed, and move on with a generous attitude, even in chaotic situations or difficult conflicts.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: December 1, 2023
- Page count, weight, size: 324 pages | 424g | 127*189*20mm
- ISBN13: 9791158464059
- ISBN10: 1158464053
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