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“Good at empathy and communication
“What is the secret to a harmonious family?”

Psychological counselor Park Sang-mi, who is active as a counseling expert on programs such as EBS's [Class e], MBN's [Dongchimi], and KBS's [Morning Yard], has published "Park Sang-mi's Family Counseling Center" to help families across the nation. In addition to the 16 lectures from "Park Sang-mi's Family Counseling Center," which ranked in the top 10 most-viewed on EBS's [Class e], lectures from "Morning Yard" (episode 7,978), and counseling content from YouTube's [Park Sang-mi Radio], many new manuscripts have been added.
It contains 'relationship skills' that will be helpful to readers who are struggling due to family issues, such as conflict resolution solutions for various family relationships such as parent-child, couple, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict, and conflicts between books, love languages, 6-second breathing technique for positivity, empathetic conversation, and reconciliation techniques.
A relationship where we are closer and more loving than anyone else, but also hurt each other the most.
For those who are struggling with the 'family' that they have to spend their lives with because they cannot choose, psychological counselor Sangmi Park has opened a special family counseling center based on the numerous counseling experiences she has had.

Children are perfect strangers.
We have to start here.
“You must keep this in mind so as not to hurt your children.
Everyone has a desire to fill their own shortcomings with children, but it is a desire that must be abandoned.
There are things we want to receive from our parents but were unable to receive.
So when you become a parent, you try to do those things for your children.
I feel satisfied by compensating for my shortcomings to my children.
But why don't children understand their parents' hearts? Because, even though I gave birth to them, they are strangers.
I didn't give birth to a child's heart.
Do you feel like life is empty because your children don't seem to appreciate your efforts and sacrifices? That's because you've always thought of your children as your own, as your extension of yourself.
From now on, start practicing viewing your children as complete strangers, objects whose very existence you must acknowledge and respect.

--- p.13~14

For a couple to get along well, they need the wisdom to fight well.
“You say we shouldn’t fight, we need the wisdom to fight?” A couple who doesn’t fight is a couple who doesn’t talk.
They are the most dangerous couple.
In fact, the more couples talk, the more likely they are to fight.
It's important not to avoid fighting, but to fight well and learn to acknowledge and acknowledge each other's differences, thereby building a wiser relationship.


There is skill in fighting too.
There are fighting techniques that break up relationships, and there are fighting techniques that save relationships.
Once a fight begins, it takes time to manage the emotions that are building up.
This is because only then can you listen to what the other person is saying and continue a calm and rational conversation.


Reconciliation is the next issue.
Anyone who has ever had the experience of having a long-standing relationship go down the drain because of a single word said in anger knows.
There are many cases where minor arguments escalate into divorce early in the marriage.
There are probably many people who want to get a divorce but hesitate for various reasons. The fact that there are many reasons to hesitate is proof that love still remains within us.
That's hope.
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'I always choose good feelings.' 'It's okay.
You did well, you are doing well, and you will do well!'
Tell me this.
A parent's self-esteem is a child's self-esteem.
If the parents have high self-esteem, the child will naturally have high self-esteem.
However, when parents' self-esteem was low, their children's self-esteem was even lower.
Say a self-esteem-boosting phrase to yourself once a day.


Parents who can say this to themselves can also say this to their children: “Don’t worry.
Think positively.
And always try to choose good emotions.
I trust your judgment.
You can do it.
are you okay.
great job.
You can say encouraging words like, “You did your best.”
Let's create and pass on positive genes.
There is a saying:
This is a quote that I really like.
'Difficulties are things that take time to solve.
Parents who can say, "Impossible is something that takes a little more time than it takes," can raise their children to be resilient and resilient, able to bounce back from any hardship without giving in.
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The beginning of treatment is a 'heart conversation' where I counsel myself.
“It’s not my fault my parents were angry and violent towards me.
This is something that deserves an apology.
I became such a irritable and angry person because I received a lot of hurt from my parents when I was young.
So this is how I reacted when trauma was triggered.
I've had a hard time too.
It's not my fault that this trauma occurred.
You've had a hard time making a living.
“Now I have to take care of my own treatment.” Tell me this.


Even if I don't hear it directly from my parents, just talking to myself can be a huge help in turning my anger into positive energy.
Rather than just complaining that my parents have already forgotten while I am still in vivid pain, I should heal my wounds through compensation.
It's not like you have to get an apology from your parents to be compensated.
I can reward myself by cheering me on, comforting me, and empathizing with me.
You will be able to break the vicious cycle so that no matter what trigger comes in the future, you will not explode.
"great job.
You are a survivor of parental violence.
I'm grateful to have survived until today.
“I’ve lived a good life.” Acknowledge and comfort me like this.
It's like getting a huge psychological reward.
It is a reward that is far more valuable than any reward you receive from others.

--- p.142~143

A happy family isn't built overnight.
Just because you're unhappy now doesn't mean you'll be unhappy forever.
I made mistakes because I didn't know much about family, but if I start learning and practicing now, I can move forward as a happier and more loving family.
Now, close your eyes and quietly think of the word 'love'.
What and who comes to mind? When do I feel loved? Once I feel it, it becomes easier to express it in words.
Is love something that just happens instinctively? Is love something I give to others and they just feel it?

Love is a skill that must be learned and practiced.
We don't really know how to convey our love so that it reaches the other person's heart.
Because that person's love language and my love language are different.
If your love languages ​​are different, communication will be difficult.
That's why I say we need to learn the language of love like we learn a foreign language.
(…) If you want to convey love, you have to speak his preferred love language, not your own.
Knowing the language of love allows you to communicate your love to one another.
We can acknowledge and understand differences.
Learning to use your partner's preferred love language for them is the greatest challenge.

--- p.179~181

The first effect of tears is to increase immunity.
When tear therapy was used on cancer patients, the cancer cells tended to decrease rapidly.
That's why it is said that Japanese hospitals have a separate 'tear treatment department'.
Laughter therapy was popular for a while, but forced laughter, while it releases endorphins, doesn't have the same effect as tears.
When children are frustrated or angry, they roll around, bang on the walls, and cry their whole body out until their needs are satisfied.
So, there is a study that made cancer patients cry while stretching out their legs, rolling around, banging on the walls, and crying with their whole body, and the more they cried out loud, the smaller their cancer cells became.


Another benefit of tears is that they help calm our autonomic nervous system.
The most dangerous emotion is the moment when you want to cry but hold it back.
Because that's when our body's energy is most unstable.
The best thing to do is watch a sad movie and use that as an excuse to cry your heart out.
You can cry.
Men have been pressured and sacrificed too much to always be strong.
You are a victim of social pressure.
This is the reason why you can cry proudly.
Now you can say, 'I want to cry too, and I'm having a hard time too.'

--- p.202