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* “I wish I had come across this book sooner.” _Julie Faudi, FIFA Women’s World Cup winner
* Bestselling author of 『Grit』 Angela Duckworth, Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella, Starbucks International CEO Brady Brewer… Bestselling authors, global business executives, and athletes are showering praise!
* #1 Amazon Bestseller!
* Selected for the 2023 Next Big Idea Club!
How do people at the top organize and move their inner selves?
Can we learn their mindset?
The secret to developing a strong inner strength that is not swayed by the opinions and evaluations of others.
From Fortune 100 CEOs and world-class sports stars to members of the U.S. Olympic team, there's someone sought after by those who have risen to the top.
Their 'inner coach' Michael Gervais.
For over a decade, he has been analyzing and coaching the inner workings of those who have reached the top while enduring suffocating pressure.
He discovered that even those who have reached the pinnacle of fame and amassed wealth find it difficult to overcome "FOPO" (Fear of Other People's Opinion). FOPO is a psychological, physiological, and physical mechanism that helps people avoid negative evaluations from others and gain recognition in relationships.
Constant worrying and ruminating about how others will see and evaluate us divides our attention, making it difficult to focus where we truly need to be.
"Spotlight" introduces a method for turning off the lights on the world and turning on the light within ourselves for those who find themselves unable to fully focus on their daily goals or areas of focus.
Michael Gervais introduces the psychological prescriptions that have helped global executives, the U.S. Olympic team, and bestselling authors cultivate a strong inner strength that is unswayed by the opinions and evaluations of others. He systematically organizes methods for overcoming FOPO and focusing on oneself to achieve high performance.
As Starbucks International CEO Brady Brewer puts it, this book is for “anyone who wants to break free from FOPO, discover greater possibilities, and create a meaningful life.”
* Bestselling author of 『Grit』 Angela Duckworth, Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella, Starbucks International CEO Brady Brewer… Bestselling authors, global business executives, and athletes are showering praise!
* #1 Amazon Bestseller!
* Selected for the 2023 Next Big Idea Club!
How do people at the top organize and move their inner selves?
Can we learn their mindset?
The secret to developing a strong inner strength that is not swayed by the opinions and evaluations of others.
From Fortune 100 CEOs and world-class sports stars to members of the U.S. Olympic team, there's someone sought after by those who have risen to the top.
Their 'inner coach' Michael Gervais.
For over a decade, he has been analyzing and coaching the inner workings of those who have reached the top while enduring suffocating pressure.
He discovered that even those who have reached the pinnacle of fame and amassed wealth find it difficult to overcome "FOPO" (Fear of Other People's Opinion). FOPO is a psychological, physiological, and physical mechanism that helps people avoid negative evaluations from others and gain recognition in relationships.
Constant worrying and ruminating about how others will see and evaluate us divides our attention, making it difficult to focus where we truly need to be.
"Spotlight" introduces a method for turning off the lights on the world and turning on the light within ourselves for those who find themselves unable to fully focus on their daily goals or areas of focus.
Michael Gervais introduces the psychological prescriptions that have helped global executives, the U.S. Olympic team, and bestselling authors cultivate a strong inner strength that is unswayed by the opinions and evaluations of others. He systematically organizes methods for overcoming FOPO and focusing on oneself to achieve high performance.
As Starbucks International CEO Brady Brewer puts it, this book is for “anyone who wants to break free from FOPO, discover greater possibilities, and create a meaningful life.”
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index
Recommendation
introduction.
Face the world with your true cards.
Part 1.
Are you FOPO?
Chapter 1.
The prison of other people's gaze
: A life running towards recognition and praise
Raptus, the ecstasy of solitude
Fighting the gazes pouring down on me
The more you obsess over things you can't control, the more you lose control of your life.
[Spotlight Law.
Distinguish between what you can control and what you cannot.]
Chapter 2.
Why can't I shake off other people's gaze?
: To become a loved and valuable being
There comes a time when the opinions of others become louder than your own inner voice.
The fear that is eating you away
Break the vicious cycle
Two paths to FOPO
[Spotlight Law.
Throw yourself into an uncomfortable situation]
Chapter 3.
The Mechanism of Fear
: What You Need to Know to Control Your Fear
an instinctive and essential reaction
What once helped us survive became a shackle
The fear felt by the best players
Beyond fear
Systematic Desensitization: The Process of Overcoming Fear
[Spotlight Law.
[You must know yourself to overcome]
Part 2. The Antidote to FOPO
Chapter 4.
Escape the Identity Trap
: Neither your job, your achievements, nor your bank balance say anything about you.
How do you define yourself?
It doesn't matter what you do, where you do it, or how well you do it.
Achievement is not identity
How to Create an Unshakable Inner Self
Look uncomfortable opinions straight in the eye
Only my meaning can be my purpose
[Spotlight Law.
Write down your beliefs and recall them whenever you feel wavering.]
Chapter 5.
You are not a fish on a cutting board.
: Don't leave your worth to others.
Where do you feel the value of existence?
The unfortunate structure in which self-esteem is maintained through achievement
Why did we end up like this?
You are okay just the way you are
[Spotlight Law.
[Looks, grades, money… Identify the source of your self-esteem]
Chapter 6. Neurobiology of FOPO
: Understanding Why the Brain Fears Other People's Gaze
Why Being Alone Is Uncomfortable
There's a party going on in my brain.
A brain that cannot let its guard down
Mindfulness in this moment
[Spotlight Law.
Practice mindfulness, even if only for a moment.]
Chapter 7.
People who are busy living their own lives
: I practice accepting that I am not interested in others.
The illusion that everyone is only looking at me
Others also think they are the main characters of their own world.
When the spotlight really shines on you
[Spotlight Law.
Look again from someone else's perspective, not your own.]
Chapter 8.
Don't interpret what others say.
: Get out of the other person's head
Are his words really what he said?
Defend or Explore
You have no superpowers.
The most complex system in the universe, the brain
[Spotlight Law.
Don't guess, ask.
Chapter 9.
See the world through ten eyes
: Your beliefs, big or small, are limiting you.
We don't see the world as it is
There is a gap between facts and interpretations.
Escaping the trap of confirmation bias
Everyone has prejudices
[Spotlight Law.
Think about the inferred situation differently]
Chapter 10.
Take off your social mask
: It's enough not to prove 'me'
An empty heart due to lack of connection
Because I'm good, or because I'm not good enough?
The instinct to belong
A bottomless pit cannot be filled no matter what is poured into it.
When you break free from 'me', the world will embrace you.
[Spotlight Law.
Focus on 'good', not 'me'
Part 3.
Redefine Your Standards for a Life Without Regrets
Chapter 11.
Is your faith still helping you?
Growth begins when deep-rooted beliefs are shaken.
Belief and identity: the brain can't tell the difference.
The brain protects your beliefs like your body.
What do we build walls for?
[Practice strategy.
Reaffirm your beliefs]
Chapter 12.
Whose words will you listen to?
: Finding the voice that truly suits me
Install your own screen
roundtable discussion
[Practice strategy.
Confront the information your reaction implies]
Chapter 13.
Last question
: The one question that determines the direction of life
What I regret most in the face of death
Why You Can't Live the Life You Really Want
The useless things disappear and only the truly important things remain.
On the last day of your life, what will you regret?
[Practice strategy.
Say goodbye as if you will never see each other again]
Americas
introduction.
Face the world with your true cards.
Part 1.
Are you FOPO?
Chapter 1.
The prison of other people's gaze
: A life running towards recognition and praise
Raptus, the ecstasy of solitude
Fighting the gazes pouring down on me
The more you obsess over things you can't control, the more you lose control of your life.
[Spotlight Law.
Distinguish between what you can control and what you cannot.]
Chapter 2.
Why can't I shake off other people's gaze?
: To become a loved and valuable being
There comes a time when the opinions of others become louder than your own inner voice.
The fear that is eating you away
Break the vicious cycle
Two paths to FOPO
[Spotlight Law.
Throw yourself into an uncomfortable situation]
Chapter 3.
The Mechanism of Fear
: What You Need to Know to Control Your Fear
an instinctive and essential reaction
What once helped us survive became a shackle
The fear felt by the best players
Beyond fear
Systematic Desensitization: The Process of Overcoming Fear
[Spotlight Law.
[You must know yourself to overcome]
Part 2. The Antidote to FOPO
Chapter 4.
Escape the Identity Trap
: Neither your job, your achievements, nor your bank balance say anything about you.
How do you define yourself?
It doesn't matter what you do, where you do it, or how well you do it.
Achievement is not identity
How to Create an Unshakable Inner Self
Look uncomfortable opinions straight in the eye
Only my meaning can be my purpose
[Spotlight Law.
Write down your beliefs and recall them whenever you feel wavering.]
Chapter 5.
You are not a fish on a cutting board.
: Don't leave your worth to others.
Where do you feel the value of existence?
The unfortunate structure in which self-esteem is maintained through achievement
Why did we end up like this?
You are okay just the way you are
[Spotlight Law.
[Looks, grades, money… Identify the source of your self-esteem]
Chapter 6. Neurobiology of FOPO
: Understanding Why the Brain Fears Other People's Gaze
Why Being Alone Is Uncomfortable
There's a party going on in my brain.
A brain that cannot let its guard down
Mindfulness in this moment
[Spotlight Law.
Practice mindfulness, even if only for a moment.]
Chapter 7.
People who are busy living their own lives
: I practice accepting that I am not interested in others.
The illusion that everyone is only looking at me
Others also think they are the main characters of their own world.
When the spotlight really shines on you
[Spotlight Law.
Look again from someone else's perspective, not your own.]
Chapter 8.
Don't interpret what others say.
: Get out of the other person's head
Are his words really what he said?
Defend or Explore
You have no superpowers.
The most complex system in the universe, the brain
[Spotlight Law.
Don't guess, ask.
Chapter 9.
See the world through ten eyes
: Your beliefs, big or small, are limiting you.
We don't see the world as it is
There is a gap between facts and interpretations.
Escaping the trap of confirmation bias
Everyone has prejudices
[Spotlight Law.
Think about the inferred situation differently]
Chapter 10.
Take off your social mask
: It's enough not to prove 'me'
An empty heart due to lack of connection
Because I'm good, or because I'm not good enough?
The instinct to belong
A bottomless pit cannot be filled no matter what is poured into it.
When you break free from 'me', the world will embrace you.
[Spotlight Law.
Focus on 'good', not 'me'
Part 3.
Redefine Your Standards for a Life Without Regrets
Chapter 11.
Is your faith still helping you?
Growth begins when deep-rooted beliefs are shaken.
Belief and identity: the brain can't tell the difference.
The brain protects your beliefs like your body.
What do we build walls for?
[Practice strategy.
Reaffirm your beliefs]
Chapter 12.
Whose words will you listen to?
: Finding the voice that truly suits me
Install your own screen
roundtable discussion
[Practice strategy.
Confront the information your reaction implies]
Chapter 13.
Last question
: The one question that determines the direction of life
What I regret most in the face of death
Why You Can't Live the Life You Really Want
The useless things disappear and only the truly important things remain.
On the last day of your life, what will you regret?
[Practice strategy.
Say goodbye as if you will never see each other again]
Americas
Detailed image
Into the book
We often try to control the gaze and evaluation of others.
But ironically, the more we obsess over our desire for recognition, the more we lose control over our own lives.
Lao Tzu said this:
“The moment you start caring what other people think of you, you become their prisoner.”
---「Chapter 1.
From “The Prison of Other People’s Gaze”
FOPO also manifests as a state of hypervigilance, where a person constantly scans and checks their surroundings to gain approval from others.
They are obsessed with what others think and are sensitive to signs of rejection.
Ultimately, FOPO attempts to interpret not only the thoughts of others but also their gestures, subtle facial expressions, words, silence, actions, and even their absence.
---From "Why Can't I Shake Off Other People's Stares?"
We don't live under tremendous pressure like NBA players.
But we too are influenced and swayed by a word from our boss, an evaluation from our friends, and the expectations of our parents.
Why are we so vulnerable to what others say? What makes us anxious?
---「Chapter 4.
From "Escape the Trap of Identity"
The most powerful way to overcome fear of what others think (FOPO) is to have an unwavering inner self.
When you know who you are, other people's opinions don't threaten you.
Our identity should be based on who we are, not what we do.
The focus should be on the true 'me', not on what kind of results I achieve, who I work with, or where I do it.
---「Chapter 4.
From "Escape the Trap of Identity"
We literally live our lives based on the evaluations, gazes, and judgments of others.
Of course, in the meantime, we are also taught the importance of critical thinking and the need for the power to make our own judgments.
However, unconscious habits that have been deeply engraved in the brain for a long time are difficult to change.
---「Chapter 5.
You are not a fish on a cutting board"
But the truth is simple.
People don't see you as you are.
They are more focused on themselves.
They might be thinking this too.
"Is my head spinning?" "I came into the meeting late, did anyone notice?" "Was what I just said cool?"
---「Chapter 7.
From "Turning off the spotlight effect"
People are already busy enough with their own things.
And so do other people.
People who are busy with work, family, childcare, health issues, etc. don't even pay attention to the minor mistakes or actions that we are sensitive to.
To be blunt, most people don't care about you.
Especially if it's a stranger.
But ironically, the more we obsess over our desire for recognition, the more we lose control over our own lives.
Lao Tzu said this:
“The moment you start caring what other people think of you, you become their prisoner.”
---「Chapter 1.
From “The Prison of Other People’s Gaze”
FOPO also manifests as a state of hypervigilance, where a person constantly scans and checks their surroundings to gain approval from others.
They are obsessed with what others think and are sensitive to signs of rejection.
Ultimately, FOPO attempts to interpret not only the thoughts of others but also their gestures, subtle facial expressions, words, silence, actions, and even their absence.
---From "Why Can't I Shake Off Other People's Stares?"
We don't live under tremendous pressure like NBA players.
But we too are influenced and swayed by a word from our boss, an evaluation from our friends, and the expectations of our parents.
Why are we so vulnerable to what others say? What makes us anxious?
---「Chapter 4.
From "Escape the Trap of Identity"
The most powerful way to overcome fear of what others think (FOPO) is to have an unwavering inner self.
When you know who you are, other people's opinions don't threaten you.
Our identity should be based on who we are, not what we do.
The focus should be on the true 'me', not on what kind of results I achieve, who I work with, or where I do it.
---「Chapter 4.
From "Escape the Trap of Identity"
We literally live our lives based on the evaluations, gazes, and judgments of others.
Of course, in the meantime, we are also taught the importance of critical thinking and the need for the power to make our own judgments.
However, unconscious habits that have been deeply engraved in the brain for a long time are difficult to change.
---「Chapter 5.
You are not a fish on a cutting board"
But the truth is simple.
People don't see you as you are.
They are more focused on themselves.
They might be thinking this too.
"Is my head spinning?" "I came into the meeting late, did anyone notice?" "Was what I just said cool?"
---「Chapter 7.
From "Turning off the spotlight effect"
People are already busy enough with their own things.
And so do other people.
People who are busy with work, family, childcare, health issues, etc. don't even pay attention to the minor mistakes or actions that we are sensitive to.
To be blunt, most people don't care about you.
Especially if it's a stranger.
---「Chapter 7.
Among those who are busy living their own lives,
Among those who are busy living their own lives,
Publisher's Review
“Don’t let others ruin your whole world.”
How to turn off the lights to the world and turn on the fire within yourself
No one is free from FOPO (Fear of Other People's Opinion).
Even the genius musician Beethoven, who seemed to be a being chosen by God, a person with a mission to convey mystical music to the world.
He said this to the duke who was sponsoring him:
“Your Majesty, you are where you are today thanks to your birth and environment.
But I got to where I am today solely by my own strength.
“There are countless peacocks, but only one Beethoven.” Even artists who displayed genius in such an unfair world had times when they suffered from FOPO and tormented themselves.
Because he thought that everything he had built would go down the drain the moment his hearing impairment became known to the world.
He deliberately acted like a nerd and as if he was too deep in thought to hear to hide his hearing loss.
Just as we were afraid of others seeing and judging our shortcomings, we too live our daily lives conscious of the gaze of others.
As social media becomes more popular and competition intensifies, things like high school graduation, a promising career path, and good looks become competitive advantages.
However, if we ignore our own talents, charms, beliefs, and values and focus on what others see, it becomes difficult to truly live our own lives.
Even when I wanted to change my career, I gave up, saying, "It's too late for me," and when I needed to take the next step, I thought, "The chances of it working out are slim."
If I fail, I will become a laughing stock to others,' they say, limiting their potential and opportunities for growth.
Spotlight, in this regard, "clearly explains why we're so obsessed with the opinions of others, and how we can break free from that obsession." It prescribes an antidote to FOPO, allowing us to develop our unique qualities and strengths, and to develop a deep inner resolve and a clear vision to make the most of them.
Wouldn't it be a shame to waste the short time we've been given on this beautiful and amazing planet, living up to the expectations of others? Don't let the desire for recognition and belonging, or the fear of rejection, get in the way.
Now is the time to turn off the lights to the world and nurture the small spark that quietly resides within me.
Fortune 100 CEO, world-class athlete, U.S. national team member…
The FOPO Antidote from the "Inner Coach" of Those at the Top
Michael Gervais, author of Spotlight, currently coaches the psychology of global CEOs, including Microsoft Chairman Satya Nadella, and served as the inner coach of the U.S. team at the Tokyo, Rio, and London Olympics, helping the team win over 30 medals.
Through years of field experience and research, he has systematically organized methods to overcome FOPO, that is, methods that can become an antidote to FOPO.
A promising job, a high salary, visible achievements... If you rely on these achievements to maintain your self-esteem, the moment you lose even one of them, you're bound to fall into doubt: "Who am I?" "Am I a useful person?"
This book thoroughly dissects the reasons why we suffer from FOPO and the reasons why we are concerned about what others think, and convinces us that you are fine just as you are, regardless of factors such as appearance, grades, or money.
It also tells us that our tendency to be aware of what others think is actually a result of an 'illusion'.
It's a cold word, but the truth is, other people don't care about you.
They are so busy focusing on their own lives that they don't even have time to blink.
So, shouldn't we try to look good to others and be a little less concerned about what others think?
This book is like a self-help book, but it contains psychological content. It is like a psychology book, but it contains self-help content that will make your life a little more progressive in the end.
This is a performance psychology book that helps you follow your own path without being swayed by the gaze or evaluation of others, and break free from the trap of wanting to be recognized, so you can find the life you truly desire.
I recommend that you experience the inner coaching received by those at the top of their respective fields through this book.
You will discover the secrets to unwavering determination to not be swayed by the gaze of others, the immersion to focus only on what you can control, and the inner strength to keep moving forward.
Whatever happened to you
No matter what others think of you
It will help you focus solely on your goals.
The Spotlight Law
Bronnie Ware, who worked as a hospice caregiver for eight years, asked her patients what they regretted most.
The patients had at most three months left to live, and at least a few weeks.
My biggest regret was this.
'I should have found the courage to live the life I wanted.' 'I should have stopped living to meet other people's expectations.' Ultimately, the life people regret most in their final moments is the life they lived worrying about what others thought and seeking their approval.
"Why does this gap arise between the choices we truly want and the choices we actually make? It's because we overlook the fact that the most precious thing in life is 'time.'
We act as if we will live forever.
When you part ways with people, say, 'See you later!'
“Of course, I am sure that I will see you again.”_From the text
"Spotlight" introduces the "Spotlight Law" for those who want to overcome FOPO and live their lives focusing only on their own goals.
The first rule is to distinguish between what you can control and what you cannot.
Draw a big circle and a small circle inside it.
In the small circle, write down the things you have complete control over (your mood, your attitude, etc.) In the large circle, write down the things you have no control over (other people's behavior, today's weather, your boss's mood, etc.) and figure out what factors are currently having the greatest influence on your choices.
The second rule is to figure out my FOPO level.
Let's take out and wear clothes that are out of style or too small to wear anymore.
After that, look at how conscious you are of people's gaze, whether you smile excessively, or whether you become timid and hide in a corner.
The third rule is to write down your beliefs.
Writing down the reasons why you've chosen this path and the core values you live by, and reviewing them whenever you feel unsettled, is one way to escape FOPO.
In this way, Spotlight systematically organizes 13 ways to break free from FOPO and focus on yourself to achieve high performance.
This book will help you shift your mindset, moving beyond the need for acceptance and belonging, and the fear of rejection, to living the life you truly desire.
How to turn off the lights to the world and turn on the fire within yourself
No one is free from FOPO (Fear of Other People's Opinion).
Even the genius musician Beethoven, who seemed to be a being chosen by God, a person with a mission to convey mystical music to the world.
He said this to the duke who was sponsoring him:
“Your Majesty, you are where you are today thanks to your birth and environment.
But I got to where I am today solely by my own strength.
“There are countless peacocks, but only one Beethoven.” Even artists who displayed genius in such an unfair world had times when they suffered from FOPO and tormented themselves.
Because he thought that everything he had built would go down the drain the moment his hearing impairment became known to the world.
He deliberately acted like a nerd and as if he was too deep in thought to hear to hide his hearing loss.
Just as we were afraid of others seeing and judging our shortcomings, we too live our daily lives conscious of the gaze of others.
As social media becomes more popular and competition intensifies, things like high school graduation, a promising career path, and good looks become competitive advantages.
However, if we ignore our own talents, charms, beliefs, and values and focus on what others see, it becomes difficult to truly live our own lives.
Even when I wanted to change my career, I gave up, saying, "It's too late for me," and when I needed to take the next step, I thought, "The chances of it working out are slim."
If I fail, I will become a laughing stock to others,' they say, limiting their potential and opportunities for growth.
Spotlight, in this regard, "clearly explains why we're so obsessed with the opinions of others, and how we can break free from that obsession." It prescribes an antidote to FOPO, allowing us to develop our unique qualities and strengths, and to develop a deep inner resolve and a clear vision to make the most of them.
Wouldn't it be a shame to waste the short time we've been given on this beautiful and amazing planet, living up to the expectations of others? Don't let the desire for recognition and belonging, or the fear of rejection, get in the way.
Now is the time to turn off the lights to the world and nurture the small spark that quietly resides within me.
Fortune 100 CEO, world-class athlete, U.S. national team member…
The FOPO Antidote from the "Inner Coach" of Those at the Top
Michael Gervais, author of Spotlight, currently coaches the psychology of global CEOs, including Microsoft Chairman Satya Nadella, and served as the inner coach of the U.S. team at the Tokyo, Rio, and London Olympics, helping the team win over 30 medals.
Through years of field experience and research, he has systematically organized methods to overcome FOPO, that is, methods that can become an antidote to FOPO.
A promising job, a high salary, visible achievements... If you rely on these achievements to maintain your self-esteem, the moment you lose even one of them, you're bound to fall into doubt: "Who am I?" "Am I a useful person?"
This book thoroughly dissects the reasons why we suffer from FOPO and the reasons why we are concerned about what others think, and convinces us that you are fine just as you are, regardless of factors such as appearance, grades, or money.
It also tells us that our tendency to be aware of what others think is actually a result of an 'illusion'.
It's a cold word, but the truth is, other people don't care about you.
They are so busy focusing on their own lives that they don't even have time to blink.
So, shouldn't we try to look good to others and be a little less concerned about what others think?
This book is like a self-help book, but it contains psychological content. It is like a psychology book, but it contains self-help content that will make your life a little more progressive in the end.
This is a performance psychology book that helps you follow your own path without being swayed by the gaze or evaluation of others, and break free from the trap of wanting to be recognized, so you can find the life you truly desire.
I recommend that you experience the inner coaching received by those at the top of their respective fields through this book.
You will discover the secrets to unwavering determination to not be swayed by the gaze of others, the immersion to focus only on what you can control, and the inner strength to keep moving forward.
Whatever happened to you
No matter what others think of you
It will help you focus solely on your goals.
The Spotlight Law
Bronnie Ware, who worked as a hospice caregiver for eight years, asked her patients what they regretted most.
The patients had at most three months left to live, and at least a few weeks.
My biggest regret was this.
'I should have found the courage to live the life I wanted.' 'I should have stopped living to meet other people's expectations.' Ultimately, the life people regret most in their final moments is the life they lived worrying about what others thought and seeking their approval.
"Why does this gap arise between the choices we truly want and the choices we actually make? It's because we overlook the fact that the most precious thing in life is 'time.'
We act as if we will live forever.
When you part ways with people, say, 'See you later!'
“Of course, I am sure that I will see you again.”_From the text
"Spotlight" introduces the "Spotlight Law" for those who want to overcome FOPO and live their lives focusing only on their own goals.
The first rule is to distinguish between what you can control and what you cannot.
Draw a big circle and a small circle inside it.
In the small circle, write down the things you have complete control over (your mood, your attitude, etc.) In the large circle, write down the things you have no control over (other people's behavior, today's weather, your boss's mood, etc.) and figure out what factors are currently having the greatest influence on your choices.
The second rule is to figure out my FOPO level.
Let's take out and wear clothes that are out of style or too small to wear anymore.
After that, look at how conscious you are of people's gaze, whether you smile excessively, or whether you become timid and hide in a corner.
The third rule is to write down your beliefs.
Writing down the reasons why you've chosen this path and the core values you live by, and reviewing them whenever you feel unsettled, is one way to escape FOPO.
In this way, Spotlight systematically organizes 13 ways to break free from FOPO and focus on yourself to achieve high performance.
This book will help you shift your mindset, moving beyond the need for acceptance and belonging, and the fear of rejection, to living the life you truly desire.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: July 15, 2025
- Page count, weight, size: 272 pages | 376g | 140*210*18mm
- ISBN13: 9788965967330
- ISBN10: 8965967333
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