Introduction_To you who are still wondering whether to break up or continue, even at this very moment

Chapter 1.
Is your heart aching so much that you can't stand it?

[1] Do I have to live like this?
The wounds exchanged within the fence of family
I want to throw it away right now
If you can't break up, you have to survive.
[2] Why I Can't Give Up on the Relationship
The most precious thing
Give me a storm of compliments
If you have high self-esteem, you won't be discouraged in any situation.
［3］ We cry because of people, but we live thanks to people.
Understanding the Frontal Lobe, the Brain of Communication
Flexibility to be selfish yet considerate of others
We are happy when we are together

Chapter 2.
Looking into My Wounded Heart: How to Recover My Whole Self

[1] To avoid being dominated by the ‘reptilian brain’
Can snakes understand human speech?
I bleed from the words I spit out
［2］ If you act according to your emotions, you will be a loser.
What are my feelings right now?
Tips for avoiding being swayed by unpleasant emotions
In this case, it is better to use ARS
［3］ Moments of Communication: Reflecting on Your Goals
That's not what I really meant!
Why You Can Resist the Temptation of Sweet Marshmallows

Chapter 3.
Stepping into the Other Person's Heart: Empathy Know-How to Unravel the Tangle of Relationships

[1] Selfish choice for myself, empathy
A person who is always pretty no matter what they do
Pretend to be considerate of others while being considerate of yourself
Empathy, a step practiced to match the breathing of the dance
[2] What the wounded need is not a 'teacher'
I'm not asking because I don't know the answer
Who would like a steamed bun without red bean paste?
［3］ Specifically, the more sincerity you put into it, the more your heart opens.
As accurately as measured by a scale
Draw a picture to empathize
Following key words increases empathy.
［4］ Clever language expressions that neutralize negative emotions
A pleasant splash of cold water on boiling emotions
Respect and consideration that must be firmly pressed into the title
Two Tips for Expressing Difficult Feelings Through Text

Chapter 4.
Softly, warmly, clearly
_The art of selfish communication that embraces the heart and restores relationships

［1］ Emotional Control for Selfish Communication ①: Recognizing the Situation
The Secret of Penguin Legs
If you can see it clearly as it is
［2］ Emotional Control for Selfish Communication ②: Guessing the Situation
Protecting My Heart with 'Familiar Pictures'
［3］ Emotional Control for Selfish Communication ③: Interpreting the Situation
I can't change the world, but I can change my heart.
［4］ Things to consider before complaining about injustice
If you have not fulfilled your responsibilities and duties
[5] How to deal with questions about the other person's request
Agree but ask why
A reasonable alternative is better than a pumpkin rejection.
[6] Affectionate conversation techniques that change a blunt personality into a kind one
I know what you mean, but I feel bad.
A collaboration of titles and voices to equip affection
A full-fledged ending for equipping affection
［7］ The leader's language habits of correcting mistakes while protecting feelings
This is what leaders who develop their employees say:
The power of the comma to improve concentration
Even flower songs must be sung well to be pleasant to listen to

Chapter 5.
Nonverbal communication elements that are as important as verbal communication_so that you can understand without having to say anything

［1］ Everything the other person sees and hears is communication.
Don't mind it, it's just between us.
With the intention of having a conversation from head to toe
The tail can wag the body, all the time!
［2］ Nonverbal Elements ①: Environment & Timing_The Optimal Moment for Communication
Are you ready to listen?
Avoiding the time and space that makes everyone sensitive
［3］ Nonverbal elements ②: Gestures_Friendly and serious
The surprising effects of friendly skin contact
It was only 10 centimeters
［4］ Nonverbal Element ③: Facial Expressions - People who make you feel good the more you look at them
Saying with your face, 'I'm on your side'
A smiling face drives away negative emotions.
［5］ Nonverbal Element ④: Eye Contact - Filled with Sincerity
The reason why you can feel it with your whole body without saying anything
When we meet eyes, my heart softens
There are certain eyes that can appear aggressive?!
［6］ Nonverbal Element ⑤: Exclamations_Conveying emotions like fireworks
A single word that is independent and free
Start by admiring! Before analyzing and evaluating.

Unfinished Story_To those who want to continue a happy relationship even if it is awkward and clumsy

True communication is possible only when you are emotional or not emotional!
Prevent conflict with signals of affection, respect, consideration, and empathy!

This book contains the story of the author, who teaches communication, sharing the solutions to communication he found while listening to many stories while giving lectures with many people who are still contemplating whether to break up or continue their relationship.
Many people get hurt by someone close to them and wonder whether they should continue the relationship.
Even if you really want to break up, it's hard to decide to break up for various reasons, such as because you're blood relatives, because of your children, because it's hard to make a living, etc.
Moreover, emotional wounds suffered during childhood affect interpersonal relationships as adults.
I lack confidence when dealing with people, and even when someone approaches me with sincerity, I have a hard time trusting their feelings.
When things don't go well, it feels like it's all my fault.

The author believes that the biggest reason why we suffer in relationships but cannot choose to break up is because humans are beings who cannot live alone.
As can be seen from the proposition that "humans are social animals," living with others is human nature, and living with others is, above all, an essential condition for "my own survival."
In other words, unless you are confident that you will live alone until you die, you should find a way to get along with someone, and the decision to get along with others is a 'selfish choice' for 'yourself', not for others.


This book goes beyond simple communication skills and offers innovative ways to prevent conflict in interpersonal relationships and understand the true essence of communication through emotional intelligence (EQ).
It clearly explains how selfish communication can evolve into altruistic behavior based on emotional intelligence, and emphasizes that 'affection,' 'emotional regulation,' and 'self-awareness' are key factors in determining the success of relationships.
It also includes practical advice on how to make the bold decision to break up, especially when you feel there is no need to stay in a relationship with someone with whom you have difficulty communicating.
It also clearly explains how to specifically use the skills of respect, empathy, and understanding with your communication partners.
Anyone who wants to improve their relationships—whether it's resolving issues in family, romantic relationships, or friendships, boosting self-esteem and living a happier life, or demonstrating effective leadership—will benefit from this book, taking their communication skills to the next level.
I hope that through this book, you will gain a new understanding of communication and learn how to make human relationships more meaningful.