When three women gather together, the house becomes bigger.
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★ [Hamalneumman] Author Kang Min-ji strongly recommends author Seo I-re of 『Jeongnyeoni』!
“I will start my own family.
“Without marriage.”
The burden is reduced, the taste is satisfied, and the world is expanded.
A surprisingly perfect communal living life!
I was 21 years old when I left my parents' house with great interest, and then I was left in a goshitel room soaked in tears.
Twenty-two years old, moving all my belongings by bus alone, and my first officetel, which felt like a whole new world, as if the world had been opened.
From the age of 24, when I was struggling with three part-time jobs, to the rooftop of a villa near Seoul Station where I drank soju after repeated job failures, to the bustling two-room apartment every day, and now, living in an apartment with three women.
It is a record of my life alone for the past 10 years that is so realistic that it makes my nose tingle, and it is also a record of communal living that is perfect as it is, with nothing to add or subtract.
If you don't plan on getting married, want to move out of a small house but don't have a lot of money right now,
If you think living alone is a bit boring, I strongly recommend living in a communal setting.
A house is a vessel that holds people, so I want to talk about putting ourselves in a bigger vessel.
In a country with crazy housing prices, I believe in one clear fact: three women make a bigger house! _From the text
“I will start my own family.
“Without marriage.”
The burden is reduced, the taste is satisfied, and the world is expanded.
A surprisingly perfect communal living life!
I was 21 years old when I left my parents' house with great interest, and then I was left in a goshitel room soaked in tears.
Twenty-two years old, moving all my belongings by bus alone, and my first officetel, which felt like a whole new world, as if the world had been opened.
From the age of 24, when I was struggling with three part-time jobs, to the rooftop of a villa near Seoul Station where I drank soju after repeated job failures, to the bustling two-room apartment every day, and now, living in an apartment with three women.
It is a record of my life alone for the past 10 years that is so realistic that it makes my nose tingle, and it is also a record of communal living that is perfect as it is, with nothing to add or subtract.
If you don't plan on getting married, want to move out of a small house but don't have a lot of money right now,
If you think living alone is a bit boring, I strongly recommend living in a communal setting.
A house is a vessel that holds people, so I want to talk about putting ourselves in a bigger vessel.
In a country with crazy housing prices, I believe in one clear fact: three women make a bigger house! _From the text
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index
prolog
Part 1 I will start my own family, without marriage
The monthly fee for a palm-sized sunbeam was 50,000 won.
3 minutes of curry-flavored tears shed in a 1-pyeong room
The story of an officetel: exciting and awkward because it was my first time.
A woman who tells the truth as if it were a joke - Moving into a two-room apartment
Finally, into the world of three-person households
From roommates to lifemates
Declaration of not marrying
I never said I lived alone
Starting a business instead of getting married
Part 2: I want to put myself in a bigger bowl
The vessel called home has become smaller
Do you want to merge our lives?
Hands are important before feet
A real estate tour between reality and taste
Living in an apartment that makes you cry
From deposit to contract, a new and exciting life
Introducing the three women in our family
The Beginning of Home Decorating: Filling the Common Spaces
Rent distribution and room assignment
Let's each do what we're good at - Establishing rules for communal living
Part 3: It's perfect as it is now, with nothing to add or subtract.
Let each other's daily lives be a good stimulus
A larger home contains more taste
There are three of us, not one or two.
What do you do when you play? - Make money with a side job
We don't fit together, but we live together.
Qualities of a good roommate
How is this different from marriage?
Single Life After Marriage: My Midlife Roadmap
I decided not to postpone happiness any longer.
Epilogue
Part 1 I will start my own family, without marriage
The monthly fee for a palm-sized sunbeam was 50,000 won.
3 minutes of curry-flavored tears shed in a 1-pyeong room
The story of an officetel: exciting and awkward because it was my first time.
A woman who tells the truth as if it were a joke - Moving into a two-room apartment
Finally, into the world of three-person households
From roommates to lifemates
Declaration of not marrying
I never said I lived alone
Starting a business instead of getting married
Part 2: I want to put myself in a bigger bowl
The vessel called home has become smaller
Do you want to merge our lives?
Hands are important before feet
A real estate tour between reality and taste
Living in an apartment that makes you cry
From deposit to contract, a new and exciting life
Introducing the three women in our family
The Beginning of Home Decorating: Filling the Common Spaces
Rent distribution and room assignment
Let's each do what we're good at - Establishing rules for communal living
Part 3: It's perfect as it is now, with nothing to add or subtract.
Let each other's daily lives be a good stimulus
A larger home contains more taste
There are three of us, not one or two.
What do you do when you play? - Make money with a side job
We don't fit together, but we live together.
Qualities of a good roommate
How is this different from marriage?
Single Life After Marriage: My Midlife Roadmap
I decided not to postpone happiness any longer.
Epilogue
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Maybe it's better to live alone in a big house.
I don't know because I haven't lived there, but it might be much more comfortable if I had a clean, spacious house all to myself.
But it is not easy to live like that in our society, which seems to only allow young people to live in small houses.
I did the same.
I had to move on my own with no place to turn.
I figured it would be about 20 years before I could move into an apartment on my own, and I didn't want to wait that long.
I thought simply.
Since I can't do it alone, let's do it 'together'.
I woven together my past and present life leading up to that decision.
---From the "Prologue"
There is one evening that I still can't forget.
That day too, I spent the day just like any other day.
It was a sad day because nothing happened.
I took a class at school, and after spending some time sitting blankly on a bench in front of the back gate of the school, I walked away, passed an ashtray full of cigarette butts, and opened the front door of the goshiwon.
I opened my door with my key, threw my coat on the bed, and then, with aplomb, grabbed a 3-minute curry from the shelf and headed to the kitchen.
Microwave for 3 minutes.
As I returned to my room with the rice and started eating, tears welled up in my eyes.
I was so sad that I couldn't tell if it was curry-flavored tears or tear-flavored curry.
I thought as I ate my rice.
'One year of living in a goshitel is enough.
At this point, I need to settle this matter by any means necessary.'
---From "Curry-flavored tears shed in a 1-pyeong room"
When you say you're not going to get married, people wonder why.
Five out of ten ask me this question.
“Why?”, “Wouldn’t it be too lonely to live alone without getting married?”, two people agreed, saying “It’s not that bad these days,” and two others asked, “Maybe it’s because you haven’t found the right person to marry yet?”
The other one is… “They say that kind of person goes the fastest.”
Maybe it's because I'm still in my early 30s, but even though I say I'm single, many people believe I'll get married someday.
Because I'm lonely alone.
It's tough to navigate this rough world alone.
You're young now, so that's why, but when you get a little older, you'll eventually get married, right?
“I don’t plan on living alone.”
---From "I Never Said I'd Live Alone"
I also had a desire to get one step closer to the future I had vaguely dreamed of.
A daily life where you can relax comfortably in a square house with a large living room, have a drink in a separate room from the kitchen at night, and sleep in a room with large blackout curtains.
I wondered if it would be worth it to bring forward the future I vaguely envisioned, thinking, "I'll be able to live in an apartment in my late 30s."
Especially recently, that desire has been growing.
Whenever I went to my parents' house, I envied things I had never even thought about when I was young.
“Wow, there’s an underground parking lot,” “There’s a park in front of the house,” “There’s an elevator, that’s great, Mom.” I used to live with these words.
Now, I feel like I should stop being jealous and try to live for once.
Since it wasn't going to be my property anyway, I thought it would be okay to leave after only two years if it cost too much more than planned.
Living in a rented apartment.
I guess it's a bold thought that it might not be as bad as I thought.
---From "Shall We Combine Our Lives?"
Things are really good these days.
If this is life, I want to live a little longer.
If things get better in the future, I want to live as long as possible.
Since moving into my apartment, my life has become more satisfying.
Every time I spend time with my trusted friends in my spacious home, with my adorable puppy by my side, even if everything isn't perfect, at that moment my life feels complete.
The daily routine of waking up in the morning to the glare of the sun if you don't draw the curtains, reading a book in the living room where there is still room to roll around even with a large desk lined up on the veranda, and enjoying a carefree nighttime walk in the complex where the manager lives.
I want to live like this for as long as possible.
You'll understand once you live it.
That this is the kind of life and direction I want.
---From "Single Life After Marriage - My Middle-Aged Roadmap"
Someday, I might live alone.
As I wrote in the text, communal living is not the answer, and living alone in a large house may be the best.
But if you can't afford to live alone in a spacious house right now, wouldn't it be a good idea to team up with friends and live in a better environment? A life where you understand others who are different from you and live together with them.
I think it's a type of residence worth living in at least once in your life.
As I come to understand others, I look back on myself and I like the way I grow little by little because of it.
What I am most satisfied with is that I have taken charge of my own life.
I love my daily life, living with my own money earned through doing what I love, in a house of my own choosing, with a family I created myself, even though we are not related by blood.
We are complete as we are now, without anything to add or subtract.
I don't know because I haven't lived there, but it might be much more comfortable if I had a clean, spacious house all to myself.
But it is not easy to live like that in our society, which seems to only allow young people to live in small houses.
I did the same.
I had to move on my own with no place to turn.
I figured it would be about 20 years before I could move into an apartment on my own, and I didn't want to wait that long.
I thought simply.
Since I can't do it alone, let's do it 'together'.
I woven together my past and present life leading up to that decision.
---From the "Prologue"
There is one evening that I still can't forget.
That day too, I spent the day just like any other day.
It was a sad day because nothing happened.
I took a class at school, and after spending some time sitting blankly on a bench in front of the back gate of the school, I walked away, passed an ashtray full of cigarette butts, and opened the front door of the goshiwon.
I opened my door with my key, threw my coat on the bed, and then, with aplomb, grabbed a 3-minute curry from the shelf and headed to the kitchen.
Microwave for 3 minutes.
As I returned to my room with the rice and started eating, tears welled up in my eyes.
I was so sad that I couldn't tell if it was curry-flavored tears or tear-flavored curry.
I thought as I ate my rice.
'One year of living in a goshitel is enough.
At this point, I need to settle this matter by any means necessary.'
---From "Curry-flavored tears shed in a 1-pyeong room"
When you say you're not going to get married, people wonder why.
Five out of ten ask me this question.
“Why?”, “Wouldn’t it be too lonely to live alone without getting married?”, two people agreed, saying “It’s not that bad these days,” and two others asked, “Maybe it’s because you haven’t found the right person to marry yet?”
The other one is… “They say that kind of person goes the fastest.”
Maybe it's because I'm still in my early 30s, but even though I say I'm single, many people believe I'll get married someday.
Because I'm lonely alone.
It's tough to navigate this rough world alone.
You're young now, so that's why, but when you get a little older, you'll eventually get married, right?
“I don’t plan on living alone.”
---From "I Never Said I'd Live Alone"
I also had a desire to get one step closer to the future I had vaguely dreamed of.
A daily life where you can relax comfortably in a square house with a large living room, have a drink in a separate room from the kitchen at night, and sleep in a room with large blackout curtains.
I wondered if it would be worth it to bring forward the future I vaguely envisioned, thinking, "I'll be able to live in an apartment in my late 30s."
Especially recently, that desire has been growing.
Whenever I went to my parents' house, I envied things I had never even thought about when I was young.
“Wow, there’s an underground parking lot,” “There’s a park in front of the house,” “There’s an elevator, that’s great, Mom.” I used to live with these words.
Now, I feel like I should stop being jealous and try to live for once.
Since it wasn't going to be my property anyway, I thought it would be okay to leave after only two years if it cost too much more than planned.
Living in a rented apartment.
I guess it's a bold thought that it might not be as bad as I thought.
---From "Shall We Combine Our Lives?"
Things are really good these days.
If this is life, I want to live a little longer.
If things get better in the future, I want to live as long as possible.
Since moving into my apartment, my life has become more satisfying.
Every time I spend time with my trusted friends in my spacious home, with my adorable puppy by my side, even if everything isn't perfect, at that moment my life feels complete.
The daily routine of waking up in the morning to the glare of the sun if you don't draw the curtains, reading a book in the living room where there is still room to roll around even with a large desk lined up on the veranda, and enjoying a carefree nighttime walk in the complex where the manager lives.
I want to live like this for as long as possible.
You'll understand once you live it.
That this is the kind of life and direction I want.
---From "Single Life After Marriage - My Middle-Aged Roadmap"
Someday, I might live alone.
As I wrote in the text, communal living is not the answer, and living alone in a large house may be the best.
But if you can't afford to live alone in a spacious house right now, wouldn't it be a good idea to team up with friends and live in a better environment? A life where you understand others who are different from you and live together with them.
I think it's a type of residence worth living in at least once in your life.
As I come to understand others, I look back on myself and I like the way I grow little by little because of it.
What I am most satisfied with is that I have taken charge of my own life.
I love my daily life, living with my own money earned through doing what I love, in a house of my own choosing, with a family I created myself, even though we are not related by blood.
We are complete as we are now, without anything to add or subtract.
---From the "Epilogue"
Publisher's Review
If you don't plan on getting married but don't want to live alone,
If you want to live in a bigger house but don't have a lot of money saved up right away,
I highly recommend apartment living!
A woman who keeps her word, Kim Eun-ha, author of "Three Women Make a Big House" (published by Sustain), is a person who leads her own life more proactively than anyone else, thinking fiercely about what kind of life she wants and what she needs to do now to achieve it, finding solutions and ultimately achieving it.
This book vividly captures the author's blood, sweat, and tears over the past 10 years, leading up to his current "apartment communal living", which he says is so satisfying that he would say, "If this is life, I want to live it a little longer." It also conveys the big and small changes in life that came about while living in a residential space called an "apartment" without reservation.
From tear-soaked goshitels to shared apartment living,
“What I am most satisfied with is that I am in control of my own life!”
The author entered college with the goal of becoming a successful producer, but was unable to endure the hellish commute that any Gyeonggi-do resident would sympathize with, so at the age of twenty, he began living alone for the first time.
In a 2-pyeong gositel that was so cramped it was suffocating.
With no house in Seoul and no savings, these were the only options I had.
I started my first solo life without even imagining the impact a small house would have on people.
_From page 17
Even when the sound of the neighbor's phone call was ringing in my ears, when the quality of my meals was poor, and when I was overcome with a sense of useless lethargy, the author tried to live well by deliberately going out to get some sun and exercising every day in the school gym.
However, I thought I couldn't live like this forever, so I moved into an 8-pyeong officetel with a friend.
After that, I went through a rooftop room where I had to climb up a hill while sweating profusely, and a two-room apartment that was always noisy, and finally succeeded in moving into an apartment with two roommates.
I wanted a big house.
I've been working hard for the past few years to move into a better home someday.
If you want to continue paying only small monthly rent, you have no choice but to work hard for the next few years to save up money and move in through a jeonse or purchase.
But I didn't want to wait that long.
So now is the time to spend money.
_From pages 80-81
The house that has become bigger with the meeting of three women is filled with more tastes!
For single-person households, especially those in their 30s, apartments are often seen as a distant living space, unless they are willing to pay a minimum deposit or have a major event like marriage, due to the unrealistic cost of living that easily sounds like a billion won.
The author also said that at first, he had never considered an apartment as a home for himself, but as time passed, he realized that “the house I live in no longer motivates me,” and he became convinced that he should move.
I thought my home was a vessel that contained me, but the vessel felt smaller and my body felt cramped.
It's such an uncomfortable situation that you can't even stretch your arms or legs.
I knew intuitively what I needed right now.
A bigger house and my own room.
There was nothing else.
_From pages 80-81
That's how the three women started living together in an apartment.
In this book, the author shows everything from the very realistic aspects of living together to the process of finding an apartment, from preparing a deposit, dividing the monthly rent and assigning rooms, to establishing rules for living together.
After starting to live in an apartment, the author says that living in an apartment gives her a great sense of peace of mind, as she can freely buy books, wine, and potted plants that she likes, as she no longer has to buy anything because she has nowhere to put them, and she can also cook her favorite dishes to her heart's content in a comfortable space.
“Ultimately, the bigger house has broadened my horizons.”
He also says that he likes the way he understands others who are different from him and lives together with them, and that he looks back on himself as he understands others, and that he grows little by little as a result.
What I am most satisfied with is that I have taken charge of my own life.
I love my daily life, living with my own money earned through doing what I love, in a house of my own choosing, with a family I created myself, even though we are not related by blood.
We are complete as we are now, without anything to add or subtract.
_From page 220
As the author says, communal living isn't the answer, and living alone in a spacious house might be the best option.
But if you can't afford a spacious home alone right now, wouldn't it be great to team up with a friend and live in a better environment? A life where you can be each other's protectors without getting married, sharing your interests and creating a wider world together.
In the future, there will be more and more families of various types, not related by blood but who have become family for various reasons. I hope that through this book, you will experience in advance the new forms of families.
If you want to live in a bigger house but don't have a lot of money saved up right away,
I highly recommend apartment living!
A woman who keeps her word, Kim Eun-ha, author of "Three Women Make a Big House" (published by Sustain), is a person who leads her own life more proactively than anyone else, thinking fiercely about what kind of life she wants and what she needs to do now to achieve it, finding solutions and ultimately achieving it.
This book vividly captures the author's blood, sweat, and tears over the past 10 years, leading up to his current "apartment communal living", which he says is so satisfying that he would say, "If this is life, I want to live it a little longer." It also conveys the big and small changes in life that came about while living in a residential space called an "apartment" without reservation.
From tear-soaked goshitels to shared apartment living,
“What I am most satisfied with is that I am in control of my own life!”
The author entered college with the goal of becoming a successful producer, but was unable to endure the hellish commute that any Gyeonggi-do resident would sympathize with, so at the age of twenty, he began living alone for the first time.
In a 2-pyeong gositel that was so cramped it was suffocating.
With no house in Seoul and no savings, these were the only options I had.
I started my first solo life without even imagining the impact a small house would have on people.
_From page 17
Even when the sound of the neighbor's phone call was ringing in my ears, when the quality of my meals was poor, and when I was overcome with a sense of useless lethargy, the author tried to live well by deliberately going out to get some sun and exercising every day in the school gym.
However, I thought I couldn't live like this forever, so I moved into an 8-pyeong officetel with a friend.
After that, I went through a rooftop room where I had to climb up a hill while sweating profusely, and a two-room apartment that was always noisy, and finally succeeded in moving into an apartment with two roommates.
I wanted a big house.
I've been working hard for the past few years to move into a better home someday.
If you want to continue paying only small monthly rent, you have no choice but to work hard for the next few years to save up money and move in through a jeonse or purchase.
But I didn't want to wait that long.
So now is the time to spend money.
_From pages 80-81
The house that has become bigger with the meeting of three women is filled with more tastes!
For single-person households, especially those in their 30s, apartments are often seen as a distant living space, unless they are willing to pay a minimum deposit or have a major event like marriage, due to the unrealistic cost of living that easily sounds like a billion won.
The author also said that at first, he had never considered an apartment as a home for himself, but as time passed, he realized that “the house I live in no longer motivates me,” and he became convinced that he should move.
I thought my home was a vessel that contained me, but the vessel felt smaller and my body felt cramped.
It's such an uncomfortable situation that you can't even stretch your arms or legs.
I knew intuitively what I needed right now.
A bigger house and my own room.
There was nothing else.
_From pages 80-81
That's how the three women started living together in an apartment.
In this book, the author shows everything from the very realistic aspects of living together to the process of finding an apartment, from preparing a deposit, dividing the monthly rent and assigning rooms, to establishing rules for living together.
After starting to live in an apartment, the author says that living in an apartment gives her a great sense of peace of mind, as she can freely buy books, wine, and potted plants that she likes, as she no longer has to buy anything because she has nowhere to put them, and she can also cook her favorite dishes to her heart's content in a comfortable space.
“Ultimately, the bigger house has broadened my horizons.”
He also says that he likes the way he understands others who are different from him and lives together with them, and that he looks back on himself as he understands others, and that he grows little by little as a result.
What I am most satisfied with is that I have taken charge of my own life.
I love my daily life, living with my own money earned through doing what I love, in a house of my own choosing, with a family I created myself, even though we are not related by blood.
We are complete as we are now, without anything to add or subtract.
_From page 220
As the author says, communal living isn't the answer, and living alone in a spacious house might be the best option.
But if you can't afford a spacious home alone right now, wouldn't it be great to team up with a friend and live in a better environment? A life where you can be each other's protectors without getting married, sharing your interests and creating a wider world together.
In the future, there will be more and more families of various types, not related by blood but who have become family for various reasons. I hope that through this book, you will experience in advance the new forms of families.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: November 28, 2024
- Page count, weight, size: 244 pages | 262g | 125*188*15mm
- ISBN13: 9791193388143
- ISBN10: 1193388147
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