The second book by author Lee Yun-jeong, a certified trainer at the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), an international peace organization, and former vice president of the Korea Center for Nonviolent Communication and president of the Korea Nonviolent Communication Education Center, has been published after 10 years.
While the first book, "Children are in Puberty, Mothers are in Growth" (Hankyoreh Edu, 2010), contained methods for communicating with adolescent children through non-violent communication, the second book, "Please Embrace Today's Me," talks about self-care time through a 100-day desire meditation.
In other words, it guides you on how to communicate peacefully with yourself and those around you by becoming aware of your own 'needs' and finding ways to satisfy them.

To better meet the desire for 'food', I recommend two things.
‘Reflect on the cause of hunger’ and ‘Treat food with reverence.’
Today, take a picture or write down everything that goes into your mouth.
Every time I eat something, I connect with my heart.
Savor the process of food entering your body through your mouth, and feel the color and texture of the food.
Rather than eating a meal in a hurry, prepare the food you eat with care and enjoy it so that it becomes a form of ‘care for yourself.’

--- p.32, from “Food”

I write down what I eat from the time I wake up until I go to sleep.
If you write down everything that goes into your mouth, you will realize that you are eating more than you need.
“Even if you drink just a sip of water, you gain weight.” This saying really resonates with me.
If I take pictures of everything I eat every day, I can become aware of my attitude toward food.

If you think about your food cravings, you can practice food meditation every time you eat.
Appreciate each bite and chew slowly, savoring the texture and taste.
The cucumber scent I didn't like becomes enjoyable, and the peach scent I couldn't get past becomes enjoyable.
Sometimes I cry because I'm sad while eating a banana.
Next, connect with your mind when you feel like eating.

--- p.33, from “Meditation on Food Cravings”

Marshall B. Rosenberg, the founder of nonviolent communication
Rosenburg) says that the 'joy of giving willingly' is human nature.
Think of an experience in your life when you gave something from your heart or received something from someone.
Today, I hope you feel the joy of giving to someone willingly.
Let's see how the world changes when I give, and what is given to me.

--- p.90, from "Giving Willingly"

How much have I willingly given in my life?
The first thing that comes to mind is an experience where I felt ashamed or wronged because I was not willing to give.
Let's stay in that memory without any judgment.
"You gave it to me because you wanted something." "I still feel resentful that I gave it to you out of a sense of responsibility." I realize that I wanted to give it from the bottom of my heart and I empathize with myself.
I also recall memories of giving willingly without any expectations.
Thinking back, I feel happy and think I did well.
'Yes, that's how you give when you give.
'With all my heart.' I think again about the nobility of giving.

--- p.91, from “Meditation on the Desire to Willingly Give”

What experiences do you have when you connect with objects or nature? The first goal of nonviolent communication is to foster deep connection with one another.
If you start a conversation with accusations or judgments and try to prove you're right or convince the other person, the connection is lost.
Connections are formed when we understand what each other values ​​and wants and find ways to fulfill those needs with equal respect.
What matters is whether you truly want to connect in that moment.
To see that heart, you must first connect with yourself before connecting with the other person.

--- p.146, from "Connection"

If you do a 'need for connection meditation' before meeting someone, you can better let go of any stimulation that arises during the meeting.
As you go to meet someone, think of that person and imagine a scene where you meet them sincerely, a situation where a deep and satisfying connection is made.
I feel the speed of my breathing.
Think of the most comfortable smile you can give when you meet that person and imagine that person connecting with you as well.


If you meet suddenly or communicate with an uncomfortable feeling, you won't be able to connect.
If we recall Jeong Hyeon-jong's poem, "The arrival of a person is a tremendous event because it represents the arrival of a person's entire life," we can easily understand why connection meditation, which prepares us for an encounter, is necessary.

--- p.147 From “The Need for Connection Meditation”

'Mourning' means letting go of a loss.
Although the word 'mourning' may not be familiar, there are countless things in life to mourn.
The expression 'mourning' is often used when someone dies.
But mourning is necessary not only for bereavement, but also when we are separated for any reason, when we have to give up on our dreams or plans, when we are pushed to a corner and unexpected events occur in life.
When we lose a body part to an accident or illness, or when we lose a physical ability due to aging, when we have to leave our beloved home, or when we see our beloved natural scenery being destroyed, we must grieve as much as we want and let it flow freely in moments when our desires are not fulfilled.

--- p.232, from “Mourning”

When did you first understand grief? We grieve when we lose something we longed for.
Repeat the word 'mourning' with your breathing.
I think back to a time in my life when I needed to mourn.
There are moments when I've grieved enough, and there are still moments when the pain in my throat gets stuck and lingers.
When you feel pain, stop and acknowledge your feelings by saying, "It hurt then. Even now, when I think about it, I feel sad and drained. Do I need more time?"
Today is a day of mourning, and I embrace it as it comes, without any discomfort.

--- p.233, from “Meditation on the Need for Mourning”

In nonviolent communication, sincerity is not a measure of consistency or diligence.
When integrity becomes important, we want to plan, participate, and even endure boredom to achieve results.
The energy of immersion is created.
When I hear someone say, “My child is not diligent, which is a big problem,” I ask, “Is that true?”
The only difference is that each person has different levels of sincerity.
If you expect the other person to be sincere in the way you want, it is not connected to desire, but rather an obsession with means and methods.

--- p.298, from “Sincerity”

Integrity was a pleasant word when I was a child.
It meant a positive evaluation.
When raising a creative and free-spirited child, it was always a regrettable word.
Because I looked at the child thinking that he was not sincere.
Sincerity met with the desire for nonviolent communication does not mean that.
It doesn't matter whether you are honest or not.
The question is, 'Do I want to be honest?'
Keep sincerity in your heart and focus on your breathing.
Breathe in sincerely, breathe out sincerely.
We can practice integrity through actions as simple as breathing.
We are honest.
When you breathe, when you eat, when you have a hobby, when you love someone… .

--- p.299, from “Meditation on the Desire for Integrity”

The two aspects of nonviolent communication are expressing oneself honestly and listening to the other person with empathy.
Expressing yourself honestly is as difficult as empathizing with someone.
It's sometimes disconcerting to meet people who misinterpret the desire for "self-expression" as "making all the criticisms I want" or "saying whatever I want."
Self-expression is not just about expression.
The intention is to connect with others.
To express yourself, you must first organize your mind.
Remember, your goal is to communicate with the other person by conveying your feelings clearly, not by proving their faults or making them aware of your pain.

--- p.396, from “Self-Expression”

Self-expression seems easy, but it is difficult.
I want to express my feelings that I've been holding back, but I've been thinking for several days about whether it's better to keep quiet or express them.

· How do you feel when you think about that? It's uncomfortable.
There is no apparent conflict, but thinking about it makes me feel uncomfortable and makes me feel uncomfortable looking at him.
I'm also worried that there might be a misunderstanding between us.
· Why do I want to say this? Since we'll be meeting each other again in the future, I want to communicate well and get along comfortably.
· Do you have a favor to ask that person? Let's ask them to have lunch on Friday.
· What if this conversation goes well? I think I'll become close with this person, and it'll be fun to do things together in the future.

Now that you've made up your mind, you need the courage to put it into action.
I texted her asking if she had time to talk tomorrow.
I'm looking forward to tomorrow.

--- p.397, from “Meditation on the Desire for Self-Expression”