Like a French kid
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Book Introduction
A happy French child and family reunited in a revised edition after 10 years.
The world of French positive parenting, which has gone beyond an unconventional parenting style and has now become a parenting philosophy.
When parents have children, the question of how to raise them 'well' becomes a lifelong task.
Even though 10 years have passed since “Like a French Child” came out, this homework remains.
It was like that before the book came out, and it will be like that forever.
As it is the greatest challenge for parents, there are many ways to solve it.
If I allow my child as much freedom as possible, will he grow up to be creative? Or will he become too spoiled?
If I enforce discipline, will my child become calm and well-mannered? Or will he become too passive?
So what should be allowed freedom, and what should be enforced by discipline?
If both children and parents are happy in the process of finding their own answers, childbirth and parenting can become the most mysterious, joyful, and beautiful events in life.
Here are some unique French methods, meticulously compiled by an American journalist who married and moved to France.
After its publication, "Like a French Child" boasted a splendid track record of being a bestseller on Amazon in the US for 50 consecutive weeks, and has been translated into a total of 31 languages to date, meeting readers around the world and gaining widespread sympathy.
This book made French parenting no longer exclusive to France.
This book, which records the French parenting method, which has now become a parenting philosophy based on a deep understanding of human nature, and the exquisite coexistence of autonomy and obedience, discipline and freedom in French families with the meticulousness of a journalist, will help you discover how you and your child can become happier now.
For those of you who find parenting, a difficult task in life, difficult, this will provide an opportunity for change that will allow you to affirm both your own life and the existence of your child.
The revised edition, published to commemorate the 10th anniversary, includes interviews with three French people, Robin, Megan, and Elodie, as an appendix, allowing readers to vividly experience the reality of French family cadre, etiquette, and meal education, and also hear the three people's thoughts and experiences on 'sharenting,' which has recently become a global issue.
The world of French positive parenting, which has gone beyond an unconventional parenting style and has now become a parenting philosophy.
When parents have children, the question of how to raise them 'well' becomes a lifelong task.
Even though 10 years have passed since “Like a French Child” came out, this homework remains.
It was like that before the book came out, and it will be like that forever.
As it is the greatest challenge for parents, there are many ways to solve it.
If I allow my child as much freedom as possible, will he grow up to be creative? Or will he become too spoiled?
If I enforce discipline, will my child become calm and well-mannered? Or will he become too passive?
So what should be allowed freedom, and what should be enforced by discipline?
If both children and parents are happy in the process of finding their own answers, childbirth and parenting can become the most mysterious, joyful, and beautiful events in life.
Here are some unique French methods, meticulously compiled by an American journalist who married and moved to France.
After its publication, "Like a French Child" boasted a splendid track record of being a bestseller on Amazon in the US for 50 consecutive weeks, and has been translated into a total of 31 languages to date, meeting readers around the world and gaining widespread sympathy.
This book made French parenting no longer exclusive to France.
This book, which records the French parenting method, which has now become a parenting philosophy based on a deep understanding of human nature, and the exquisite coexistence of autonomy and obedience, discipline and freedom in French families with the meticulousness of a journalist, will help you discover how you and your child can become happier now.
For those of you who find parenting, a difficult task in life, difficult, this will provide an opportunity for change that will allow you to affirm both your own life and the existence of your child.
The revised edition, published to commemorate the 10th anniversary, includes interviews with three French people, Robin, Megan, and Elodie, as an appendix, allowing readers to vividly experience the reality of French family cadre, etiquette, and meal education, and also hear the three people's thoughts and experiences on 'sharenting,' which has recently become a global issue.
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Recommendation: Josephine M.
Kim, Professor at Harvard University's Graduate School of Education
To begin with: Why on earth do French children not make a fuss at the dinner table?
01: Are you expecting a child? A woman on the verge of marriage, childbirth, and a nervous breakdown.
02: Comfortable and painless childbirth is neither a sport, a religious act, nor a sublime pain.
03: Babies who sleep well through the night will sleep through the night by 4 months of age.
04: Wait! You can't get what you want by nagging or whining.
05: A small, young human child is neither a second-class human nor the property of its parents.
06: Daycare? French children are raised by the entire nation, not just their parents.
07: Formula-fed babies know breast milk is good, but the mother's life is more precious.
08: There is no perfect mother. A mother who dedicates everything only creates an unhappy child.
09: The French Habitual Education: A Coexistence of Extreme Freedom and Autocratic Restrictions
10: The Second Experience: Giving Birth to Twins, Not Romantic at All
11: Living Because I Can't Die Why don't French women curse their husbands?
12: Kids who like vegetable salad more than fast food, just take a bite
13: I am a French parent who establishes authority without yelling.
14: Go Your Own Way Children traveling away from their parents from the age of four
In closing: People in France who enjoy present happiness rather than future potential success.
Appendix | Interview: Robin, Megan, and Elodie Share Their Stories of "French Kids"
Kim, Professor at Harvard University's Graduate School of Education
To begin with: Why on earth do French children not make a fuss at the dinner table?
01: Are you expecting a child? A woman on the verge of marriage, childbirth, and a nervous breakdown.
02: Comfortable and painless childbirth is neither a sport, a religious act, nor a sublime pain.
03: Babies who sleep well through the night will sleep through the night by 4 months of age.
04: Wait! You can't get what you want by nagging or whining.
05: A small, young human child is neither a second-class human nor the property of its parents.
06: Daycare? French children are raised by the entire nation, not just their parents.
07: Formula-fed babies know breast milk is good, but the mother's life is more precious.
08: There is no perfect mother. A mother who dedicates everything only creates an unhappy child.
09: The French Habitual Education: A Coexistence of Extreme Freedom and Autocratic Restrictions
10: The Second Experience: Giving Birth to Twins, Not Romantic at All
11: Living Because I Can't Die Why don't French women curse their husbands?
12: Kids who like vegetable salad more than fast food, just take a bite
13: I am a French parent who establishes authority without yelling.
14: Go Your Own Way Children traveling away from their parents from the age of four
In closing: People in France who enjoy present happiness rather than future potential success.
Appendix | Interview: Robin, Megan, and Elodie Share Their Stories of "French Kids"
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To believe that "pausing" or "making noise" is effective, you must first trust that even young babies are "human" people who can learn and cope with frustration.
It was this French way of thinking that Cohen instilled in American parents.
Addressing concerns about what to do if a four-month-old baby gets hungry at night, he wrote in his book:
“Just because you’re hungry doesn’t mean you have to eat.
Adults also feel hungry in the middle of the night.
But I just learned not to eat because I knew I needed to rest.
“It’s good for babies to do that too.”
So, does this mean the French believe that babies must endure a daunting ordeal, like the biblical characters? No.
But I don't think a little frustration will ruin the baby.
Sleep, Dreams, and Children says:
“If you always give in to your baby’s needs and never say ‘no,’ it will have a negative impact on your baby’s character development.
“Because it’s about removing the barriers that you have to push through and overcome, the barriers of expectations placed on you.”
---p.81
Of course, I also like to wake up.
Who wouldn't? Any parent would value the acquisition of specific skills and the timely completion of each developmental milestone, as Piaget suggested.
But we tend to think that how well and how quickly a child develops is entirely the parents' fault.
The more this happens, the more important parental choice and intervention become.
This is the basis for seeking out effective learning plans, parenting experts, and advice.
(…) The University of Texas research team found that during the ‘awakening’ process, French mothers did not try to artificially promote cognitive development or advance academic progress in their children.
I believe that awakening helps cultivate inner psychological qualities such as self-confidence and tolerance for differences.
Many parents believe that exposing their children to different tastes, colors, and sights is simply for fun.
“Isn’t fun the reason for living?” said one mother.
---pp.118-119
When you ask French parents what they most want for their children, they often say things like "to be comfortable with themselves" and "to find their own way in the world."
I hope my child develops his or her own tastes and opinions.
French parents are more concerned that their children will be too docile.
I want to properly express my personality.
However, I think it is essential to respect boundaries and have self-control based on that.
This means that individuality and karma must coexist.
---pp.279-280
Letting children “live their own lives” doesn’t mean letting them loose or pushing them on their backs into the harsh world.
However, it is important to recognize that children are not tools for their parents' ambitions, nor are they projects for their parents to complete.
Children are individual, capable beings with their own tastes, pleasures, and life experiences.
Even has its own secrets.
It was this French way of thinking that Cohen instilled in American parents.
Addressing concerns about what to do if a four-month-old baby gets hungry at night, he wrote in his book:
“Just because you’re hungry doesn’t mean you have to eat.
Adults also feel hungry in the middle of the night.
But I just learned not to eat because I knew I needed to rest.
“It’s good for babies to do that too.”
So, does this mean the French believe that babies must endure a daunting ordeal, like the biblical characters? No.
But I don't think a little frustration will ruin the baby.
Sleep, Dreams, and Children says:
“If you always give in to your baby’s needs and never say ‘no,’ it will have a negative impact on your baby’s character development.
“Because it’s about removing the barriers that you have to push through and overcome, the barriers of expectations placed on you.”
---p.81
Of course, I also like to wake up.
Who wouldn't? Any parent would value the acquisition of specific skills and the timely completion of each developmental milestone, as Piaget suggested.
But we tend to think that how well and how quickly a child develops is entirely the parents' fault.
The more this happens, the more important parental choice and intervention become.
This is the basis for seeking out effective learning plans, parenting experts, and advice.
(…) The University of Texas research team found that during the ‘awakening’ process, French mothers did not try to artificially promote cognitive development or advance academic progress in their children.
I believe that awakening helps cultivate inner psychological qualities such as self-confidence and tolerance for differences.
Many parents believe that exposing their children to different tastes, colors, and sights is simply for fun.
“Isn’t fun the reason for living?” said one mother.
---pp.118-119
When you ask French parents what they most want for their children, they often say things like "to be comfortable with themselves" and "to find their own way in the world."
I hope my child develops his or her own tastes and opinions.
French parents are more concerned that their children will be too docile.
I want to properly express my personality.
However, I think it is essential to respect boundaries and have self-control based on that.
This means that individuality and karma must coexist.
---pp.279-280
Letting children “live their own lives” doesn’t mean letting them loose or pushing them on their backs into the harsh world.
However, it is important to recognize that children are not tools for their parents' ambitions, nor are they projects for their parents to complete.
Children are individual, capable beings with their own tastes, pleasures, and life experiences.
Even has its own secrets.
---p.312
Publisher's Review
Affirming the child's existence as a small, young human being
Even as a parent, I still affirm my precious life.
So that my child and I can be a little happier now!
I wonder if my child has learned Korean, started phonics, how far along he or she is in math, and what musical instrument he or she can play.
I feel anxious about what more I should do for my child, and especially if I am a dual-income couple, I feel guilty that I am not doing enough for my child.
Ten years ago, the book "Like a French Child" brought a refreshing shock to the domestic child education scene, which followed trends similar to those of the author's country, the United States, and sparked various discussions.
Many parenting methods have been adopted by parents like trends, but especially in our country, where educational fervor is high, the tendency to obsess over competition and speed is not much different now than then, with only a difference in the degree to which it is apparent.
But on the other hand, parents undoubtedly want change.
For the sake of your child's happiness, and at the same time, for your own happiness, I hope that raising a child is not just about competition and a battle of wits.
In her recommendation for this book, Josephine Kim, a professor at Harvard University's Graduate School of Education, said, "In order to change existing thoughts and familiar behaviors, it is necessary to go through a process of rewriting the values that have formed within oneself into something new.
“Only by going through this journey can change become yours,” he wrote.
On a journey to rewrite the values formed within me, I look back at the 'French-style parenting' discovered in 'Like a French Child'.
A parenting philosophy that respects humanity, starting from France's deep-rooted understanding of humanity, passing through Jean-Jacques Rousseau and reaching François Dolto, and practiced according to tradition and the intuition of French parents.
However, the author, who began covering French parenting from the perspective of a foreigner, says that paradoxically, there was no special parenting philosophy in France.
What I discovered in France was not the usual parenting theories or techniques.
A leisurely society, with children who ate well and slept well and rational, easygoing parents, unfolded before my eyes.
I went through the process of inferring the cause from the result, to find out why the French people had this philosophy and methodology.
As it turns out, there is no such thing as a special parenting philosophy.
They simply had different ideas about what a child was.
The author talks about 'French parents' unique thoughts on what a child is.'
Ultimately, this is the French parenting philosophy.
The French idea of respecting humanity, which does not regard even children as imperfect beings and affirms the existence of children as they are.
Author Pamela gradually applies the ways of this foreign country to her own parenting, and eventually realizes that there is a problem with her own philosophy.
Surprisingly, French parents didn't just do things differently in a few areas.
They had completely different views on 'how children learn', or rather 'what kind of beings children are'.
My problem wasn't swimming.
I had a problem with philosophy.
“What kind of being is a child?” is a question that the author repeatedly raises and seeks an answer to in the book.
French parenting philosophy affirms the existence of children as small, young human beings.
François Dolto argued that 'if you believe that babies are rational beings, many things change.'
Let's take a quick look at the "129 Principles of Positive Parenting," a campaign launched by the Child Rights Center under the Ministry of Health and Welfare.
The existence of a child is defined as an 'independent person who must be respected'.
This definition soon becomes the basic premise of positive parenting.
How about it? French positive parenting, it's exactly in line with French parenting philosophy.
Pamela says the key to applying French parenting is “changing how parents think about their relationship with their children and what they expect from them.”
Then parents can also value and affirm their own lives.
As the French already knew, and as we now know, sacrifice and dedication alone do not make good parents.
Even after ten years, the French parenting philosophy that "Like a French Child" captures, sometimes wittily and sometimes seriously, retains a deep flavor like well-aged wine.
Even as a parent, I still affirm my precious life.
So that my child and I can be a little happier now!
I wonder if my child has learned Korean, started phonics, how far along he or she is in math, and what musical instrument he or she can play.
I feel anxious about what more I should do for my child, and especially if I am a dual-income couple, I feel guilty that I am not doing enough for my child.
Ten years ago, the book "Like a French Child" brought a refreshing shock to the domestic child education scene, which followed trends similar to those of the author's country, the United States, and sparked various discussions.
Many parenting methods have been adopted by parents like trends, but especially in our country, where educational fervor is high, the tendency to obsess over competition and speed is not much different now than then, with only a difference in the degree to which it is apparent.
But on the other hand, parents undoubtedly want change.
For the sake of your child's happiness, and at the same time, for your own happiness, I hope that raising a child is not just about competition and a battle of wits.
In her recommendation for this book, Josephine Kim, a professor at Harvard University's Graduate School of Education, said, "In order to change existing thoughts and familiar behaviors, it is necessary to go through a process of rewriting the values that have formed within oneself into something new.
“Only by going through this journey can change become yours,” he wrote.
On a journey to rewrite the values formed within me, I look back at the 'French-style parenting' discovered in 'Like a French Child'.
A parenting philosophy that respects humanity, starting from France's deep-rooted understanding of humanity, passing through Jean-Jacques Rousseau and reaching François Dolto, and practiced according to tradition and the intuition of French parents.
However, the author, who began covering French parenting from the perspective of a foreigner, says that paradoxically, there was no special parenting philosophy in France.
What I discovered in France was not the usual parenting theories or techniques.
A leisurely society, with children who ate well and slept well and rational, easygoing parents, unfolded before my eyes.
I went through the process of inferring the cause from the result, to find out why the French people had this philosophy and methodology.
As it turns out, there is no such thing as a special parenting philosophy.
They simply had different ideas about what a child was.
The author talks about 'French parents' unique thoughts on what a child is.'
Ultimately, this is the French parenting philosophy.
The French idea of respecting humanity, which does not regard even children as imperfect beings and affirms the existence of children as they are.
Author Pamela gradually applies the ways of this foreign country to her own parenting, and eventually realizes that there is a problem with her own philosophy.
Surprisingly, French parents didn't just do things differently in a few areas.
They had completely different views on 'how children learn', or rather 'what kind of beings children are'.
My problem wasn't swimming.
I had a problem with philosophy.
“What kind of being is a child?” is a question that the author repeatedly raises and seeks an answer to in the book.
French parenting philosophy affirms the existence of children as small, young human beings.
François Dolto argued that 'if you believe that babies are rational beings, many things change.'
Let's take a quick look at the "129 Principles of Positive Parenting," a campaign launched by the Child Rights Center under the Ministry of Health and Welfare.
The existence of a child is defined as an 'independent person who must be respected'.
This definition soon becomes the basic premise of positive parenting.
How about it? French positive parenting, it's exactly in line with French parenting philosophy.
Pamela says the key to applying French parenting is “changing how parents think about their relationship with their children and what they expect from them.”
Then parents can also value and affirm their own lives.
As the French already knew, and as we now know, sacrifice and dedication alone do not make good parents.
Even after ten years, the French parenting philosophy that "Like a French Child" captures, sometimes wittily and sometimes seriously, retains a deep flavor like well-aged wine.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: June 30, 2023
- Page count, weight, size: 340 pages | 482g | 152*215*18mm
- ISBN13: 9791192769332
- ISBN10: 1192769333
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