A mother's unconsciousness raises her child.
Yes, that's right.
A mother's unconsciousness has a decisive influence on raising a child.
The invisible unconscious controls the mother.
Even mothers instinctively know, even if they are not aware of it, that their psychological state has a great influence on their children.
But it is not easy to know one's own mind.
It is more difficult to know the unconscious.

An anxious mother, an anxious child, an anxious world.
In these times of anxiety, a ‘mother’s philosophy’ is more necessary than ever.
When a mother knows herself well, she develops her own philosophy.
I sincerely hope that you will raise your child well with a firm philosophy.

There are two secret codes hidden in Mom's subconscious.
The reason it is called a secret code is because it is an important principle, but it is hidden deep and not easily known.
You can become a wise mother only by discovering the secret code in your subconscious.
Studying mother psychology is all about finding the secret code and how to fix it.
What are these two secret codes?

We have lived well without knowing the unconscious.
But whether we like it or not, our unconscious influences our entire lives.
A mother's way of raising a child is also governed by the unconscious.
Although mothers say they raise their children by worrying and planning, in reality, their children are being raised unconsciously without even knowing it.
Many daughters in the world decide, "I won't be like my mother," but end up behaving like their mothers, and many daughters say, "I won't marry a man like my father," but end up living with someone who resembles their father.

It is enough to take a good look at how I am acting towards my child now and how I feel when I meet my child.
The path to encountering the unconscious begins with ‘self-reflection.’
A wise mother is one who is good at self-reflection.
How can we effectively engage in self-reflection? The best way to do this is to recognize when we are "projecting."

Projection is central to maternal psychology.
All of the judgments I make about my child right now could be projections.

This kind of motherly love becomes ‘salty love’ in the subconscious.
That love is 'sick love'.
I don't love my child as a 'complete whole', but rather accept him as a 'child with problems, but whom I love'.
It's important to recognize this subtle difference: do you truly love your child as a whole or as an imperfect being?

A mother must examine whether there is a difference between what she says with her mouth and what she says with her heart.
This is what it means for a mother to look into her own unconscious.
Strictly speaking, it is looking into the preconscious mind.
Consciously, you may think it's okay, but if you look closely at your preconscious mind, you can tell whether you really think it's okay or not.
A good mother is one whose words and actions are consistent.

There is also a battle between the superego and the id in a mother's life.
The mother resolves not to hit her child, but it is no use.
When a child doesn't listen and whines, his mother shows up at some point.
The mother gets annoyed and hits the child on the back.
“Why don’t you listen to your mom!” he whines.
When the anger subsides a bit, the id mother disappears and the superego mother emerges.
'Are you crazy? Are you a mother?' I reproach myself.
Self-reproach is when one blames oneself, and from a psychological perspective, it is the 'superego' self blaming the 'ego' self.
My superego lives as a loving and noble 'ideal mother', but in reality, all I see is my id mother who yells and curses.
So, would the superego just sit still?
It punishes with self-reproach and anxiety, saying things like, ‘Are you really a mother?’ and ‘You’ll ruin the kids if you do that.’
Mother suffers in the triangle of superego, id, and ego.

Among harsh mothers, there are those who say, “I never use violence.”
But there is something more frightening than physical violence.
It is verbal violence and eye violence.
The tone and look in his eyes that say, ‘What’s wrong with you…?’
This is scarier.
Don't hit with your hands and feet, hit with your mouth and eyes.
A harsh mother doesn't know she has a problem.
Because he is a person who pursues justice and goodness, he believes that his thoughts and actions are right.

There is no child in the world who deserves to be despised.
It is not the child who should be despised, but the mother herself.
Contempt is 100 percent projection.
The problem is not the child, but the mother.
It's because the mother views the child through high-standard, prejudiced glasses.
The more the mother disdains, the more the child becomes timid or rebellious, which becomes further evidence of the disdain and fuels the disdain.
It's a vicious cycle.

There is no child in the world worse than his mother.
The moment I think my child is inferior to me is the moment I kill my child.
A mother throws her child off a cliff.
You shouldn't be disappointed in your children.
When parents are disappointed in their children, the children die mentally.
There is no such thing as an 'ugly child' in this world.
There is only an 'ugly mother' who sees the 'ugly child' as an 'ugly child'.

Mothers who are always on the lookout for gaps often worry.
Other mothers are doing it so well that they worry that they don't know anything or have any talent.
I also blame myself, thinking, 'Why am I like this?'
Moms who are always on the fence, let's take a moment to reflect, grumble, and laugh.
A mother who is thorough is a good mother.
A beloved child enters through the mother's gap.
The child will fill the void left by the mother.


Usually, children recover and live on even if they fail to advance to higher education.
However, it is difficult for a child who has shouldered the burden of 'mother's life' to recover from the shock of failure.
Because he is a ‘son who could not protect his mother’.

Because of their mother's greed, children suffer from invisible diseases.
It's not just depression that causes masks.
A bigger problem is the damage to self-esteem.
The child's existence is shaken by the mother's pitiful gaze and persecution.
When a child is denied existence by his most beloved mother, he dies mentally.
The child's unconscious mind perceives itself as a useless, worthless child.
Before even experiencing the world properly, children enter society with a sense of worthlessness and incompetence.
So, it easily collapses even with a small failure.
It's a very dangerous thing.

Well, let's not miss this opportunity.
The mother's unconsciousness, which causes the child to repeatedly become irritated or show soulless reactions, is what raises the child.
Yes, that's right.
A mother's unconsciousness has a decisive influence on raising a child.
The invisible unconscious controls the mother.
Even mothers instinctively know, even if they are not aware of it, that their psychological state has a great influence on their children.
But it is not easy to know one's own mind.
It is more difficult to know the unconscious.

An anxious mother, an anxious child, an anxious world.
In these times of anxiety, a ‘mother’s philosophy’ is more necessary than ever.
When a mother knows herself well, she develops her own philosophy.
I sincerely hope that you will raise your child well with a firm philosophy.

There are two secret codes hidden in Mom's subconscious.
The reason it is called a secret code is because it is an important principle, but it is hidden deep and not easily known.
You can become a wise mother only by discovering the secret code in your subconscious.
Studying mother psychology is all about finding the secret code and how to fix it.
What are these two secret codes?

We have lived well without knowing the unconscious.
But whether we like it or not, our unconscious influences our entire lives.
A mother's way of raising a child is also governed by the unconscious.
Although mothers say they raise their children by worrying and planning, in reality, their children are being raised unconsciously without even knowing it.
Many daughters in the world decide, "I won't be like my mother," but end up behaving like their mothers, and many daughters say, "I won't marry a man like my father," but end up living with someone who resembles their father.

It is enough to take a good look at how I am acting towards my child now and how I feel when I meet my child.
The path to encountering the unconscious begins with ‘self-reflection.’
A wise mother is one who is good at self-reflection.
How can we practice self-reflection effectively? The best way to do this is to recognize when we are "projecting."

Projection is central to maternal psychology.
All of the judgments I make about my child right now could be projections.

This kind of motherly love becomes ‘salty love’ in the subconscious.
That love is 'sick love'.
I don't love my child as a 'complete whole', but rather accept him as a 'child with problems, but whom I love'.
It's important to recognize this subtle difference: do you truly love your child as a whole or as an imperfect being?

A mother must examine whether there is a difference between what she says with her mouth and what she says with her heart.
This is what it means for a mother to look into her own unconscious.
Strictly speaking, it is looking into the preconscious mind.
Consciously, you may think it's okay, but if you look closely at your preconscious mind, you can tell whether you really think it's okay or not.
A good mother is one whose words and actions are consistent.

There is also a battle between the superego and the id in a mother's life.
The mother resolves not to hit her child, but it is no use.
When a child doesn't listen and whines, his mother shows up at some point.
The mother gets annoyed and hits the child on the back.
“Why don’t you listen to your mom!” he whines.
When the anger subsides a bit, the id mother disappears and the superego mother emerges.
'Are you crazy? Are you a mother?' I reproach myself.
Self-reproach is when one blames oneself, and from a psychological perspective, it is the 'superego' self blaming the 'ego' self.
My superego lives as a loving and noble 'ideal mother', but in reality, all I see is my id mother who yells and curses.
So, would the superego just sit still?
It punishes with self-reproach and anxiety, saying things like, ‘Are you really a mother?’ and ‘You’ll ruin the kids if you do that.’
Mother suffers in the triangle of superego, id, and ego.

Among harsh mothers, there are those who say, “I never use violence.”
But there is something more frightening than physical violence.
It is verbal abuse and eye violence.
The tone and look in his eyes that say, ‘What’s wrong with you…?’
This is scarier.
Don't hit with your hands and feet, hit with your mouth and eyes.
A harsh mother doesn't know she has a problem.
Because he is a person who pursues justice and goodness, he believes that his thoughts and actions are right.

There is no child in the world who deserves to be despised.
It is not the child who should be despised, but the mother herself.
Contempt is 100 percent projection.
The problem is not the child, but the mother.
It's because the mother views the child through high-standard, prejudiced glasses.
The more the mother disdains, the more the child becomes timid or rebellious, which becomes further evidence of the disdain and fuels the disdain.
It's a vicious cycle.

There is no child in the world worse than his mother.
The moment I think my child is inferior to me is the moment I kill my child.
A mother throws her child off a cliff.
You shouldn't be disappointed in your children.
When parents are disappointed in their children, the children die mentally.
There is no such thing as an 'ugly child' in this world.
There is only an 'ugly mother' who sees the 'ugly child' as an 'ugly child'.

Mothers who are always on the lookout for gaps often worry.
Other mothers are doing it so well that they worry that they don't know anything or have any talent.
I also blame myself, thinking, 'Why am I like this?'
Moms who are always on the fence, let's take a moment to reflect, grumble, and laugh.
A mother who is thorough is a good mother.
A beloved child enters through the mother's gap.
The child will fill the void left by the mother.


Usually, children recover and live on even if they fail to advance to higher education.
However, it is difficult for a child who has shouldered the burden of 'mother's life' to recover from the shock of failure.
Because he is a ‘son who could not protect his mother’.

Because of their mother's greed, children suffer from invisible diseases.
It's not just depression that causes masks.
A bigger problem is the damage to self-esteem.
The child's existence is shaken by the mother's pitiful gaze and persecution.
When a child is denied existence by his most beloved mother, he dies mentally.
The child's unconscious mind perceives itself as a useless, worthless child.
Before even experiencing the world properly, children enter society with a sense of worthlessness and incompetence.
So, it easily collapses even with a small failure.
It's a very dangerous thing.

Well, let's not miss this opportunity.
When your child starts throwing tantrums repeatedly or exhibiting mindless reactions! When you look at your child and wonder, "Why is he acting like that?" - that's when the mother needs to snap to her senses.
A red light should go on in your head and a beeping alarm should go off.
If you can recognize this crisis, you are a good mother.
That's how smart a mother is.
This alone is enough to qualify me as a mother.
If you detect a red light, what should you do next?

What great person in the world was created through their mother's coaching?
Were the world's greatest orators born from their mothers' coaching? Were the world's greatest writers born from their mothers' coaching? All outstanding people created their own worlds through the power of spontaneity.

What should I live for? Where should I find meaning and joy in my life? I must confront these existential questions again.
We need to shed the persona of being an 'active mom' or a 'capable mom'.
We need to return to living as a human being, not as a 'mother's life'.
It's time to start anew! When you look at your child and wonder, "Why is that happening?" That's when a mother needs to snap to her senses.
A red light should go on in your head and a beeping alarm should go off.
If you can recognize this crisis, you are a good mother.
That's how smart a mother is.
This alone is enough to qualify me as a mother.
If you detect a red light, what should you do next?

What great person in the world was created through their mother's coaching?
Were the world's greatest orators shaped by their mothers' coaching? Were the world's greatest writers shaped by their mothers' coaching? All outstanding people created their own worlds through the power of spontaneity.

What should I live for? Where should I find meaning and joy in my life? I must confront these existential questions again.
We need to shed the persona of being an 'active mom' or a 'capable mom'.
We need to return to living as a human being, not as a 'mother's life'.
I need to start my life anew.

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