Prologue_Can't we start by studying and then develop social skills later?

+ Age-specific social skills checklist
Infants aged 0-2 years
3-5 year old toddlers
Preschool childhood (ages 6-7)
8~9 years old, lower elementary school students

Chapter 1.
How does a child's social skills develop?

Parents are the first world a child encounters.
Is sociality innate or nurtured?
Children with high positive emotions, children with high negative emotions
Why You Shouldn't Reduce Your Child's Discomfort
The best education is to broaden the world of play.
+Play Problem Case 1.
A child who only wants to play by himself
+Play Problem Case 2.
A child who can't stand losing
+Play Problem Case 3.
A child who only wants to look at electronic devices
Why the World Is Focusing on Social-Emotional Education

Chapter 2.
[Basic] The skills needed to know and protect yourself

Self-Confidence: The Power to Resist Rejection or Failure
Self-Awareness: Raise Your Child to Say "I'm Sad" Instead of "I Don't Know"
Self-Expression: Communication Begins with the Practice of Expressing Your Feelings
Self-regulation ① Emotional regulation: Emotions are 'mental energy' that can be controlled by oneself.
Self-regulation ② Thought control: The power to find a better way without giving up
Self-regulation ③ Behavioral control: Practice recognizing impulses and delaying gratification
Boundaries: Teaching the "Line" in Relationships

Chapter 3.
[Advanced] Values ​​We Must Learn to Live Together

Rules: Life Skills That Reduce Unnecessary Misunderstandings and Conflicts
Accountability: What you get when you admit your mistakes without fear.
Empathy: Why is it important to share our feelings with each other?
Cooperation: Why You Should Teach the Value of Cooperation Before Competition
Respect: The Secret to Children Seizing More Opportunities in Broader Relationships
Online Etiquette: Don't Take Every Line Lightly

Chapter 4.
[Practical] How to Resolve Friendship Conflicts Flexibly

5 Ways Kids Deal with Conflict
When and how should we intervene in children's conflicts?
A child who is overly dependent on friends
A child who is clear about what he or she wants to do and has strong self-assertion
A child who often whines and doesn't accept apologies
A child who has difficulty approaching friends
A violent child who puts his body first
A child who is bad at saying no

Chapter 5.
Common Misconceptions About Children's Social Skills

Is frequent contact with peers important?
Does sociality develop naturally as we grow up?
Are introverted children lacking social skills?
Is it good to get along with friends without conflict?
Is the number of friends a measure of sociability?
Is the playground a classroom for social skills?
If parents are introverted, will their children develop socially more slowly?

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A new book by Harvard University child development expert Dr. Jini Kim!

Social skills that can be easily overlooked when focusing only on studying
A child with poor social skills
Lose the ability to find one's place in the world

★★★ Highly recommended by author Kim Jong-won
★★★ Includes a checklist of social skills by age.

'Korean, English, and math are top-tier, but friendships are at the bottom' - these are the results of the International Student Achievement Test for Korean students.
Although children's intellectual abilities have reached the highest level in the world thanks to an education focused on entrance exams, the issue of social and emotional competencies such as self-awareness, emotional expression, communication, and collaboration has reached a point where it can no longer be ignored.
A child who enjoys school but struggles to make friends, a child who struggles to regulate their emotions and becomes easily frustrated, a child who excels academically but is lonely... Could this be your child? Dr. Jini Kim, a leading expert in early childhood education and child development who has taught kindergarten and elementary school children for over 20 years, introduces practical methods for fostering social skills in children, starting with "understanding and loving myself" and continuing with "how to communicate and build healthy relationships with others."
How do children develop social skills? What social skills must we teach our children before conflicts between friends begin? Let's delve into a practical guide to social skills education that even parents find difficult to teach, a life skill that can be applied directly to children's daily lives.

Sociability, the ability to get along well with friends, and more
11 Core Competencies That Determine a Child's Sociality

When we talk about social skills, we often think of the ability to get along well with people.
However, having many friends does not necessarily mean that a child has excellent social skills, and even introverted children can develop healthy social skills.
Sociability is not simply a matter of good personality, but rather a complex interaction of the ability to understand and express oneself well, the ability to empathize with and be considerate of others' feelings, the ability to choose appropriate behavior according to the situation, and the ability to mediate conflict and cooperate.
So how can we foster social skills in children? The author breaks social skills down into 11 pieces, like a puzzle.
These are the five competencies that protect and express the self, and the six values ​​that create and maintain relationships.
Let's check our child's social skills level right now using the age-specific social skills checklist included at the beginning of the book.
And let's find out what piece the child needs most and practice it intensively.
As you learn the self-expression techniques, conversation skills, and conflict resolution know-how introduced in this book, you will soon discover that your child has reached the highest level of social skills, approaching friends with confidence.

Directly applied in American elementary and middle school classrooms for 20 years
Introducing Korea's first proven 'social-emotional education method'!

Advanced countries in education, including the United States, the United Kingdom, Canada, Australia, Japan, and Singapore, have been introducing social and emotional education programs for the holistic development of children for over 20 years.
An analysis of the long-term effects of this education showed that children who developed strong social skills from an early age not only had improved academic achievement later in life, but also showed reduced problem behaviors and improved ability to cooperate and solve problems in conflict situations.
In response to the recent surge in teenage depression and school violence, the Ministry of Education has recognized the need for children to recover mentally and strengthen their social relationships. Starting in 2025, the Ministry will begin introducing a Korean-style social-emotional education program to schools.

In this book, Dr. Jini Kim introduces to Korea for the first time a proven social-emotional education method that she has directly applied in elementary and middle school classrooms for 20 years.
What is particularly impressive is that it explains the basic social skills and values ​​that can be difficult even for adults in a way that is easy for children to understand.
For example, self-esteem is likened to a seed, and conflict is likened to paint.

“Everyone has a very small and special seed in their heart.
The name of that seed is ‘Seed of Self-Esteem.’
But will a seed grow on its own if left alone? No.
They need water, sunlight, and sometimes fertilizer.
The seeds of self-esteem are the same.
“When you think positively to yourself, saying, ‘I can do this,’ or ‘I’m good at this,’ the seed will grow.”

“Orange came out from the conflict between red and yellow, and green came out from the conflict between yellow and blue.
When different opinions clash, if we talk together and try to resolve the issue, new ideas and games can be born.
“Conflict can be an opportunity to create something more wonderful.”

In addition, “My Child’s Sociality” contains various tools and play methods for social education.
It is full of customized educational methods for children that you will never find anywhere else, such as how to visualize your child's small successes, how to express them by connecting physical reactions with emotional words, how to read nonverbal cues such as facial expressions, gestures, and voices and act sensitively, how to practice regulating emotions, thoughts, and actions in a fun way, and how to help your child visually confirm the boundaries of body, mind, and time.
If you are worried that your child has no friends, gets into fights all the time, or is always beaten by strong friends, focus on developing their social skills before learning.
A child who develops strong social skills during early childhood and elementary school will grow into a child who excels above all others, with stable emotions and healthy relationships.