“A child who knows emotions is a child who knows the world.
“It doesn’t shake easily.”

The sensitivity of children chosen by 2 million parents
Seoul National University Doctoral Program Turned Parenting Methods into Advantages

Many parents worry, "My child is too sensitive," but the root of the problem lies not in the child themselves, but in the parents' perspective and language. In an age overflowing with AI and stimulating content, what children truly need is not more knowledge, but the ability to manage their emotions.
"Children's Emotional Control" provides specific methods for fostering children's emotional control, based on the psychological insight that emotions are not innate but develop through interactions with parents.

While raising a sensitive son, the author chose to empathize with his emotions and slowly observe them instead of disciplining them. This helped him develop the ability to freely express his emotions and regulate them on his own.
This process was shared through Reels and resonated with countless parents, and this book is a realistic emotional education guide that captures that journey.

It shows the process of parents first understanding their own emotions and matching their emotional frequency with their children to grow together, and presents realistic methods for parents to respond and help their children when their emotions explode.
In the digital and AI era, emotional education is no longer an option but an essential survival skill.
Parents and children develop emotional control skills only through the process of respecting each other's emotions, communicating with each other, and repeating the process.
This book is a must-read for all parents who want to raise their children to be strong and unwavering.

There is a difference between being angry and being upset.
There is a difference between being annoyed and being annoyed.
All the emotions we feel are healthy and beautiful signals, but they should not become blades and be turned against others.
If you realize that your anger and frustration are being repeatedly directed at the child you love most in the world, you can't delay any longer.
Now is the time to work together to help your child develop the most important emotional intelligence in life.
Emotions are the language that enriches life and are the greatest gift a parent can give a child.
I hope this book will become the first textbook to help parents who have not yet learned emotions and children who need to learn emotions from now on grow together.
--- From "Starting with │Parents are the daily instructors of their children's emotions"

Children who grow up in homes where parents don't communicate their emotions and mistake suppressing them for "courtesy" and "patience" seek out the easiest and most irritating tools for emotional avoidance.
Children who don't know how to regulate and manage their emotions have no choice but to rely on provocative content and algorithms to resolve complex emotions.
Eventually, the child is left with simple expressions like “I’m annoyed,” “I don’t know,” and “I just don’t like it.”
The problem is that while expressions become increasingly simple, the inner self becomes increasingly complex and matures rapidly.
But that precocity is not true 'maturity', but a 'disguised maturity' created as a result of suppressing and avoiding emotions.
Complex emotions that remain beneath the fragments of simple expressions accumulate inside us without being further broken down or interpreted.
--- From Chapter 1: Why Emotional Control Is Needed Now

Research shows that simply expressing your emotions accurately in words stabilizes your autonomic nervous system and calms the amygdala's response.
The more often you use specific emotional language like “I’m angry,” “I’m sad,” “I’m excited,” and “I’m touched,” the more your brain will be able to interpret and handle situations.
In particular, the more often parents speak emotional language to their children, the more quickly the child's brain connects emotions and situations and creates its own circuits to deal with those emotions.
Learning to express your emotions verbally is the beginning of developing emotional regulation skills.
--- From “Chapter 3: Parents’ Emotions Create Children’s Emotions”

Emotion regulation is not the ability to eliminate or not feel emotions.
This doesn't mean you have to like all emotions.
It refers to the ability to recognize, express, and control unpleasant and uncomfortable emotions and ultimately use them in a way that is beneficial to oneself.
What is needed in this process is not hasty comfort or a change of mood from parents, but rather repetitive learning of language that can clearly recognize emotions and providing a safe space where emotions can be felt comfortably.
As children accumulate these experiences, they develop the ability to observe and regulate their emotions rather than suppress them.
The higher your emotional regulation skills, the more effectively you can use your cognitive resources (attention, memory, problem-solving skills, etc.) even in stressful situations, which in turn leads to learning and social adaptability.
Ultimately, we must become people who can 'pass through' the frustration, anger, and sadness that children feel.
--- From "Chapter 5: Negative Emotions Are a Sign of Child Growth"

Empathy isn't just a virtue for raising "good kids."
It is a survival skill for humans to live as social beings.
Children with high empathy feel more secure in peer relationships, are better at forming supportive relationships, and are better at emotionally managing stress.
Furthermore, empathy is also linked to resilience.
Because children who know the power of empathy and connection can bounce back when they hit a wall in life, get hurt by someone, or experience failure.
--- From "Chapter 7: Developing Emotion-Based Sociality"

What children need is not a 'perfect teacher'.
Parents who want to learn and grow together.
Showing our children that we make mistakes, try again, and don't give up is the most effective emotional education we can provide.
I sincerely thank all the parents who, several times a day, get annoyed with their children, regret it, make new promises, and try to match their emotional frequency.
If small daily efforts accumulate within a child, the child will eventually grow into an adult with the courage to live his or her life boldly.

--- From "In conclusion│Teaching emotions is not 'choice' but 'responsibility'"