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Parents who often injure their children's brains
“Even now, a child’s brain is still growing.”

Have you ever pretended not to hear, ignored, or avoided your child's words? Have you ever blamed your child for mistakes or misleading results? Have you scolded or ordered your child out of control? Have you buried difficult experiences in your child's memory rather than sharing them? If so, your child's brain is being damaged without you even knowing it!

The brain plays a key role in all aspects of life, including self-balance, decision-making, and interpersonal relationships.
And surprisingly, what shapes the brain is ‘experience.’
New experiences cause brain cells to fire and change the physical structure of the brain.
This means that parents have a great influence on the growth of a resilient and flexible brain.
Parents have a responsibility to listen and understand what their child's brain is telling them.


This book uses brain science knowledge to easily explain the numerous signals and nonverbal clues that the child's brain, which is not yet fully developed, cannot express in words.
UCLA neuropsychiatrist Daniel J., a leading authority on children's brains in the United States, said:
Siegel and psychotherapist Tina Payne Bryson provide specific information on the core theories and practices of whole-brain parenting based on brain science research and parenting counseling.
In particular, the author's "12 Habits to Save Your Child's Brain" will provide an amazing miracle that will turn moments of parenting stress into opportunities for success.

Parents are usually the experts when it comes to their children's bodies.
They know that their child has a fever even if the temperature goes over 37 degrees Celsius, and they also know how to disinfect their child's wounds to prevent infection.
You also know what foods make your child nervous before bedtime.
But even the most well-educated and loving parents often lack even basic knowledge about their child's brain.
Isn't it amazing? The brain plays a key role in nearly every aspect of a child's life that concerns parents: discipline, decision-making, self-awareness, school performance, relationships, and more.
--- From "A Whole Brain Perspective on Reading a Child's Mind"

Some parts of the brain deal exclusively with memory, while others make moral and ethical decisions.
It seems like there are multiple personalities in the brain.
When you look at it this way, it's no wonder that we sometimes act like completely different people.

The key to success is getting these different parts of the brain to work together, or integrate.
Integration is the process by which distinct parts of the brain work together to function as a single whole.
This process is similar to what happens in the body, which is made up of many different parts with different functions, such as the lungs that breathe, the heart that pumps blood, and the stomach that digests food.
--- From "The key to successful parenting lies in integrating the brain"

Let's think about the structure of the brain as an analogy to a house.
The downstairs is fully furnished, but the upstairs has little furniture and the extensions are a mess.
Moreover, the roof is not yet finished, so the sky is visible.
This is the child's upper brain, where development is in progress.
This is very important information for parents to understand.
This means that the areas of the brain that control the behaviors and skills we expect and desire from our children, such as the abilities listed above—making good decisions and planning, controlling emotions and bodies, understanding themselves, empathy, and morality—have not yet fully developed.
Because the upper brain is still developing, it does not always function fully.
--- From "Set Appropriate Expectations for Your Child"

"Tell me about your day. Tell me one good thing, one bad thing, and one time you were kind to someone."
Again, these actions and questions not only encourage children to recall memories, but also encourage them to think more deeply about their own feelings and actions, the person they shared their day with, and how they can help others.
If you want your child to think more about a particular event, it may be helpful to look at photo albums or old videotapes together.
A great way to help your child focus deeply is to design and draw a "memory book" with them.
For example, when your daughter returns from her first sleepover away from home, you can create a memory book with her, collecting letters, souvenirs, and photos she sent you.
It's also a good idea to write short phrases in the margins, like "Our Log Cabin" or "After the Shaving Cream Fight."
Bookmaking evokes these memories in detail and provides children with an opportunity to share important life events with their parents.

--- From "Memory improves with practice"

Children confuse the difference between 'state' and 'existence'.
When children experience certain emotional states, such as loneliness or frustration, they are more likely to define themselves based on that temporary experience rather than understanding that it is just a temporary emotion.
In these cases, instead of saying, “I feel lonely” or “I feel sad right now,” you say, “I am lonely” or “I am sad.”
The danger here is that children may accept temporary states of mind as immutable traits of their own.
In other words, we come to regard 'state' as a 'trait' that tells us who we are.

--- From "The Error of Defining Temporary Emotions as Oneself"