Presenting the basic direction of sex education that adults should know.
This book presents the basic direction of sex education that adults should know in relation to child development.
It provides guidance on how to accompany children's sexual development at home and in educational settings and when to begin sex education.
Waldorf educators, pediatricians, and psychotherapists explain the core of sexuality from an educational perspective.
Let's examine not only the beautiful and honest concepts related to achievement, but also the inner attitudes of adults themselves.
Furthermore, experts from various fields suggest response methods and preventive measures according to the problem situation from different perspectives.
Another thing we should pay attention to is stories that can be used as images to help children understand when answering questions about sex.
This book will thus provide a new perspective on sex education to educators in a broad sense (parents, prospective parents, teachers at early childhood centers and schools, sex education specialists, etc.).

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It is clear that linking a child's behavior to performance during this period is a problem due to misunderstandings between adults and children.
The problem is the attitude of adults who interpret a child's behavior as sexual even though it has no sexual content.
Adults relate what happens in a child's world to their own world, not to the child's world.
Usually, around the age of 4 or 5, or at the latest 7, children develop feelings of shame on their own.
By the time girls are around four years old, they want to wear clothes, especially not walk around naked in front of people.
Therefore, there is no need to teach children the emotion of shame separately.
It is best to wait and let this feeling arise on its own.
It is useless to try to teach shame through words.

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It is my opinion that infants do not necessarily need to know the facts about pregnancy and sexuality.
However, if a child asks such a question after experiencing something like seeing a younger sibling being born up close, it is sufficient to explain it naturally in a way appropriate to the child's age, that is, using 'images' rather than factual explanations.
But at the same time, I believe that it is important for infants to have a clear understanding of their sexual organs and to be comfortable talking about them with their parents.

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When it comes to achievements, we adults must also acknowledge that we are still unfinished.
Even if adults know everything much better, it doesn't mean they practice it better.
We need to let young people know that sex is an area that even adults must learn about throughout their lives.
It would be helpful if young people took adults' honest words seriously, trusted us, and let us speak for ourselves.
Because our adolescents are no longer children, we now have equal conversation partners.
So what kind of conversations can adults have with teenagers about sexual issues?

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In Germany, there is a story about a stork bringing a baby.
This is a painting I came up with to express a soul that wants to come to earth but does not yet have a body.
However, since the subject of this story is not the facts of the sensory world, the language that aims at the sensory world cannot properly describe the process of life being born.
So, in the private sector, the process was described using images that people in the past could understand and that were passed down in their myths and legends.
If we were to try to use old representations today to illustrate the process to the consciousness of a child who has not yet reached a sufficiently intellectual level, we would first have to find out for ourselves what truth is contained in such images.
Those who cannot “read” the meaning contained in the stork statue are advised not to bring up the story.

In that case, it would be better to be honest and say that you don't know much about human life before coming into the world.
Or maybe you should find someone who knows about it and ask them to tell the kids about it.

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In my experience working with mothers of children who have been victims of sexual abuse, I know that it's not just the children who need help, but the mothers as well.
Anxiety and worry about which of the wounds their child has suffered will affect their life are clouding their reality.
In addition, there is the added guilt of not being able to protect the child.
In such cases, it is important to first recognize that anxiety is a negative factor that hinders the child's development.
For the sake of the child, it is important for mothers to consciously find ways to help themselves, to learn how to deal with guilt, disappointment, anger and hatred, hurt and sadness, and to find ways to express in words things like faith in fate, understanding, and forgiveness.
There is nothing in this world that cannot be changed and transformed into something positive through effort.


Should a child see intimate moments shared by their parents? If so, to what extent should they be allowed to see them? How should parents react if a child unexpectedly barges into the bedroom while their parents are having sex? What should parents do if they witness their child masturbating?

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