The Art of Loving for My Child
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Book Introduction
There's a child here who is throwing a tantrum and refusing to go to daycare.
How would you persuade a child?
There are roughly the following types of parents:
I think the child's emotions are absurd.
So (in the case of some really bad parents) they scold, try to distract the child with sweets, or try to persuade the child that going to daycare will be fun.
Another type is understanding and comforting the child's feelings.
"You don't like being separated from your mom, do you? Your mom hates you too." But there's no next step, and this is usually how the deal is made.
"Okay, I'll play with you for 10 minutes, then don't cry and go to daycare, okay?"
So, what about parents who are good at emotional coaching?
Fully acknowledge the child's feelings.
However, explain the unavoidable situation and wait until the child has fully expressed his or her feelings.
(Let the child cry for a while or wait until the child stops crying).
And I make the following suggestion:
"Well, how about this? Since Mom doesn't have to go to work tomorrow, let's go to the park together! Yeah, let's eat hot dogs and read comics!
According to Dr. John Gottman, a master of emotional coaching, there are small but significant differences between these seemingly similar types.
In terms of how to direct a child's attention, 'whether or not emotions are acknowledged and respected'.
And here lies the essence of emotional coaching.
The 'Emotion Coaching Method' is a parenting method that created a huge sensation among parents when it was introduced in the MBC special two-part series 'Love Skills for My Child' in August 2006.
This emotional coaching method, which can be summarized as 'accept all emotions, but correct the behavior', was first advocated by Dr. Haim Ginert, author of 'Between Parents and Children', and this book by Dr. John Gottman divides the theory into five steps and provides specific action guidelines.
The PD in charge of MBC Special at the time said that he had met with numerous parenting books and experts in the field to produce the program, but was disappointed to see that most of them were based on actual experiences or know-how accumulated through consultations. Then, he discovered this book, which contained objective and reliable data - that is, an educational philosophy or basic principles that could be fundamentally incorporated into the educational methods of all parents.
While running the program, he paid particular attention to the connection between emotional coaching and learning, and discovered that children who knew how to properly acknowledge and control their emotions were not only capable of self-directed learning, but also suffered less from minor illnesses due to stress.
This book is rich in numerous cases and theories that broadcasts could not fully capture.
It thoroughly covers the five core stages of emotional coaching, the effects of domestic conflict on children, the father's unique role, and emotional coaching methods for each stage of a child's growth.
As an appendix, it includes four case studies that can help you diagnose your parenting style, as well as a 20-minute video CD that contains the core of the emotion coaching method as explained by Dr. Gottman himself.
How would you persuade a child?
There are roughly the following types of parents:
I think the child's emotions are absurd.
So (in the case of some really bad parents) they scold, try to distract the child with sweets, or try to persuade the child that going to daycare will be fun.
Another type is understanding and comforting the child's feelings.
"You don't like being separated from your mom, do you? Your mom hates you too." But there's no next step, and this is usually how the deal is made.
"Okay, I'll play with you for 10 minutes, then don't cry and go to daycare, okay?"
So, what about parents who are good at emotional coaching?
Fully acknowledge the child's feelings.
However, explain the unavoidable situation and wait until the child has fully expressed his or her feelings.
(Let the child cry for a while or wait until the child stops crying).
And I make the following suggestion:
"Well, how about this? Since Mom doesn't have to go to work tomorrow, let's go to the park together! Yeah, let's eat hot dogs and read comics!
According to Dr. John Gottman, a master of emotional coaching, there are small but significant differences between these seemingly similar types.
In terms of how to direct a child's attention, 'whether or not emotions are acknowledged and respected'.
And here lies the essence of emotional coaching.
The 'Emotion Coaching Method' is a parenting method that created a huge sensation among parents when it was introduced in the MBC special two-part series 'Love Skills for My Child' in August 2006.
This emotional coaching method, which can be summarized as 'accept all emotions, but correct the behavior', was first advocated by Dr. Haim Ginert, author of 'Between Parents and Children', and this book by Dr. John Gottman divides the theory into five steps and provides specific action guidelines.
The PD in charge of MBC Special at the time said that he had met with numerous parenting books and experts in the field to produce the program, but was disappointed to see that most of them were based on actual experiences or know-how accumulated through consultations. Then, he discovered this book, which contained objective and reliable data - that is, an educational philosophy or basic principles that could be fundamentally incorporated into the educational methods of all parents.
While running the program, he paid particular attention to the connection between emotional coaching and learning, and discovered that children who knew how to properly acknowledge and control their emotions were not only capable of self-directed learning, but also suffered less from minor illnesses due to stress.
This book is rich in numerous cases and theories that broadcasts could not fully capture.
It thoroughly covers the five core stages of emotional coaching, the effects of domestic conflict on children, the father's unique role, and emotional coaching methods for each stage of a child's growth.
As an appendix, it includes four case studies that can help you diagnose your parenting style, as well as a 20-minute video CD that contains the core of the emotion coaching method as explained by Dr. Gottman himself.
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index
- Preface to the Korean edition
- Co-author's Preface
- Recommendation 1 - Daniel Goleman (author of "Emotional Intelligence")
- Recommendation 2 - Jo Neung-hee (MBC Special PD)
- Introductory text
Chapter 1
The best learning experience for children: 'Emotion Coach' Zuogu
Chapter 2
Diagnosing My Parenting Style
Chapter 3
The 5 Key Steps of Emotional Coaching
Chapter 4
Emotional Coaching Strategy
Chapter 5
Marriage, Divorce, and Children's Emotional Health
Chapter 6
Father, that special name
Chapter 7
Emotional Coaching Methods Based on Your Child's Growth
Chapter 8
21st Century Leaders and Emotional Coaches
Chapter 9
Korean-style emotional coaching and Jenga learning game
- Co-author's Preface
- Recommendation 1 - Daniel Goleman (author of "Emotional Intelligence")
- Recommendation 2 - Jo Neung-hee (MBC Special PD)
- Introductory text
Chapter 1
The best learning experience for children: 'Emotion Coach' Zuogu
Chapter 2
Diagnosing My Parenting Style
Chapter 3
The 5 Key Steps of Emotional Coaching
Chapter 4
Emotional Coaching Strategy
Chapter 5
Marriage, Divorce, and Children's Emotional Health
Chapter 6
Father, that special name
Chapter 7
Emotional Coaching Methods Based on Your Child's Growth
Chapter 8
21st Century Leaders and Emotional Coaches
Chapter 9
Korean-style emotional coaching and Jenga learning game
Publisher's Review
A New Concept in Child Education: "Emotion Coaching"
The original book of MBC Special has finally been published in Korean!
“I felt so sorry for the sleeping child that I cried.
“I will try to become an emotional coach-type mother.”
“I think it’s not too late, even from now on.
“I will become a wise parent who can deal with my child’s feelings while respecting them.”
“It was a story for me, not for anyone else.
I put it into practice right away.
“Just by changing the way you speak, the child changes.”
In August 2006, a documentary that aired late on a weekend night caused a huge stir and was talked about among viewers and netizens.
It recorded more than ten times the number of clicks of other programs, and previously sluggish message boards were filled with reviews and requests for reruns from impressed viewers.
The unfamiliar term 'Emotion Coach' has spread to the general public through the Internet and broadcasting.
Driven by a literally "roaring response," the documentary was rebroadcast in less than two months, and was met with comments of admiration, gratitude, and enlightenment from many parents (and parents-to-be).
The book, recommended as a related book on the website, quickly became a bestseller at major bookstores, and inquiries for the author's original book skyrocketed. This is the story of a two-part MBC special.
This book, "The Art of Loving My Child," is the original book of this documentary and the first child-rearing book to be introduced in Korea by Dr. John Gottman, the founder of "Emotion Coaching."
“Accept your child’s emotions and correct their behavior.”
When a cute, doll-like child lashes out with anger, shouting, "Oh, that's annoying!" with her tiny mouth, how do parents and other adults react? They'd probably burst out laughing and exclaim, "Oh my! How cute!"
A child's anger is not something to be taken for granted.
Because it's so cute.
Because it's small and pretty.
Because he's just a kid.
Parents love their children and try to teach them many things.
I want my child to study well, be polite, have a good personality, not be bullied, and have good relationships with friends…
But the most important thing that should be the cornerstone of all of this is what we are forgetting.
I don't know how the child I love feels, what emotions this child is having right now, or how to understand this child's heart.
No, I ignore it because I don't think it's that important.
There are so many things to do for the child and so many things to teach, that we don't really try to understand the child's feelings.
So the child becomes lonely, unhappy and in trouble.
Especially in our country, where Confucian roots are strong, emotions are an even more difficult area to deal with.
How many families have parents who failed to accept their children's emotions, and as their children grow through adolescence, the relationship between parents and children becomes distant and even formal conversations are cut off, leaving both parties feeling awkward?
If you think about it, it is no exaggeration to say that all problems between parents and children arise from the inability to accept and communicate each other's feelings.
Yet, how many parents are there who put aside the truly important issues and just rush about, saying that they only need to improve their children's grades?
Emotional Coach: A Miraculous Parenting Method That Transforms Children and Families
If the relationship between a couple determines the harmony of a family, the relationship between parents and children determines the child's life.
These are difficult times for both children and parents.
According to research by experts, there have been tremendous changes in the characteristics of childhood over the past 10 to 20 years.
Because of this, the burden on parents who have to teach their beloved children has increased.
In particular, with our society changing more rapidly than any other developed country and the number of dual-income couples increasing, we desperately need a groundbreaking and effective parenting book that addresses our situation where parenting education is most urgently needed yet neglected and clumsy.
Dr. John Gottman, a family therapy expert who has studied and investigated 3,000 families for 30 years, observed children for 10 years and developed an excellent parenting method.
Through this long-term project, he taught parents and children emotional management techniques and experienced remarkable changes.
Children whose emotions were acknowledged by their parents were able to easily acknowledge the emotions of others, and as a result, it was proven to be effective in many areas, including interpersonal relationships, improved learning, self-confidence, health, and concentration.
This book, "The Art of Loving Your Child," presents the five steps of emotional coaching created by Dr. John Gottman and introduces the miraculous emotional coaching method that changes children.
This book is a basic textbook that parents must know, containing effective methods of conveying love to their children.
This book, which explains proper parenting and parenting in an easy and fun way, will become a must-read for millions of parents.
Additionally, the video CD that comes with the book explains the four types of parents who treat their children and the five steps of emotional coaching in an easy and fun way, using examples.
This CD, which includes Dr. Gottman's famous lecture, delivers a wonderful message to parents, educators, pastors, and counselors about how to create a happy future together with their children.
The original book of MBC Special has finally been published in Korean!
“I felt so sorry for the sleeping child that I cried.
“I will try to become an emotional coach-type mother.”
“I think it’s not too late, even from now on.
“I will become a wise parent who can deal with my child’s feelings while respecting them.”
“It was a story for me, not for anyone else.
I put it into practice right away.
“Just by changing the way you speak, the child changes.”
In August 2006, a documentary that aired late on a weekend night caused a huge stir and was talked about among viewers and netizens.
It recorded more than ten times the number of clicks of other programs, and previously sluggish message boards were filled with reviews and requests for reruns from impressed viewers.
The unfamiliar term 'Emotion Coach' has spread to the general public through the Internet and broadcasting.
Driven by a literally "roaring response," the documentary was rebroadcast in less than two months, and was met with comments of admiration, gratitude, and enlightenment from many parents (and parents-to-be).
The book, recommended as a related book on the website, quickly became a bestseller at major bookstores, and inquiries for the author's original book skyrocketed. This is the story of a two-part MBC special.
This book, "The Art of Loving My Child," is the original book of this documentary and the first child-rearing book to be introduced in Korea by Dr. John Gottman, the founder of "Emotion Coaching."
“Accept your child’s emotions and correct their behavior.”
When a cute, doll-like child lashes out with anger, shouting, "Oh, that's annoying!" with her tiny mouth, how do parents and other adults react? They'd probably burst out laughing and exclaim, "Oh my! How cute!"
A child's anger is not something to be taken for granted.
Because it's so cute.
Because it's small and pretty.
Because he's just a kid.
Parents love their children and try to teach them many things.
I want my child to study well, be polite, have a good personality, not be bullied, and have good relationships with friends…
But the most important thing that should be the cornerstone of all of this is what we are forgetting.
I don't know how the child I love feels, what emotions this child is having right now, or how to understand this child's heart.
No, I ignore it because I don't think it's that important.
There are so many things to do for the child and so many things to teach, that we don't really try to understand the child's feelings.
So the child becomes lonely, unhappy and in trouble.
Especially in our country, where Confucian roots are strong, emotions are an even more difficult area to deal with.
How many families have parents who failed to accept their children's emotions, and as their children grow through adolescence, the relationship between parents and children becomes distant and even formal conversations are cut off, leaving both parties feeling awkward?
If you think about it, it is no exaggeration to say that all problems between parents and children arise from the inability to accept and communicate each other's feelings.
Yet, how many parents are there who put aside the truly important issues and just rush about, saying that they only need to improve their children's grades?
Emotional Coach: A Miraculous Parenting Method That Transforms Children and Families
If the relationship between a couple determines the harmony of a family, the relationship between parents and children determines the child's life.
These are difficult times for both children and parents.
According to research by experts, there have been tremendous changes in the characteristics of childhood over the past 10 to 20 years.
Because of this, the burden on parents who have to teach their beloved children has increased.
In particular, with our society changing more rapidly than any other developed country and the number of dual-income couples increasing, we desperately need a groundbreaking and effective parenting book that addresses our situation where parenting education is most urgently needed yet neglected and clumsy.
Dr. John Gottman, a family therapy expert who has studied and investigated 3,000 families for 30 years, observed children for 10 years and developed an excellent parenting method.
Through this long-term project, he taught parents and children emotional management techniques and experienced remarkable changes.
Children whose emotions were acknowledged by their parents were able to easily acknowledge the emotions of others, and as a result, it was proven to be effective in many areas, including interpersonal relationships, improved learning, self-confidence, health, and concentration.
This book, "The Art of Loving Your Child," presents the five steps of emotional coaching created by Dr. John Gottman and introduces the miraculous emotional coaching method that changes children.
This book is a basic textbook that parents must know, containing effective methods of conveying love to their children.
This book, which explains proper parenting and parenting in an easy and fun way, will become a must-read for millions of parents.
Additionally, the video CD that comes with the book explains the four types of parents who treat their children and the five steps of emotional coaching in an easy and fun way, using examples.
This CD, which includes Dr. Gottman's famous lecture, delivers a wonderful message to parents, educators, pastors, and counselors about how to create a happy future together with their children.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: April 15, 2007
- Page count, weight, size: 279 pages | 434g | 153*224*20mm
- ISBN13: 9788947525954
- ISBN10: 8947525952
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