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Part 1: If you're afraid of parent-teacher conferences, it's perfectly normal.

1.
What if I'm not confident in parent-teacher conferences? · 14
- Parent consultations that teachers cannot avoid
- The tension created by the ambition to be an 'education expert'
- The fundamental problem of school counseling
- Walking becomes running someday.

2.
Is it necessary to consult with all parents? · 23
One parent consultation is better than ten open classes.
- It is needed for prevention, not for solution.
- Teachers are the biggest beneficiaries of parent-teacher conferences.

3.
What the heck is parent-teacher conference? · 33
- 'Parental counseling' is not easily defined.
- Various areas of parent counseling
- Parent counseling without the main character
Working alliance beyond rapport
- Checklist for working alliance with parents

4.
The Hidden Truth About Difficult Parent-Child Counseling · 44
- Truth 1) Catch the irrational beliefs hidden in automatic thoughts.
- Truth 2) Change avoidance motivation into approach motivation
- Truth 3) Let's look at the desire for recognition as a teacher.
- Truth 4) Misunderstanding of the statement to record students' 'daily life'
Truth 5) Parent-teacher conferences are difficult even for parents.

* Parent Counseling Asking Parents: How do parents perceive counseling?

Part 2 Preparation is Half the Battle: Parent Counseling

1.
Preparing for Counseling to Reduce Feelings of Fear and Increase Confidence · 64
- Let's start by checking the location of the parent-teacher conference.
- Seating arrangements for effective consultation
- Let's find out the student's various strengths.
- Let's develop a strategy to meet students' needs.
- Let's make 'good' use of the parent consultation application form.
- Useful observation points to know

2.
Student information I know is insurance · 78
- I can tell you as much as I know.
- If you know the parenting style of the parents, can you see the student?
- Class activities to find out students' recent thoughts
- Understanding the causes of student stress with 'The Busiest Schedule'
- Looking at future relationships with friends through the Friendship Relationship Map
- Self-check to record the counseling process

3.
Preparing for a Consultation: Here's What to Watch Out for · 94
- It's dangerous to jump to conclusions.
- Teachers are neither detectives nor priests.

* Parent-to-Parent Counseling: Parents Are Fearful and Uncomfortable About Counseling

Part 3: Parent Counseling Skills: Just Know This

1.
How Should Parent-Teacher Counseling Be Approached? · 108
- Let's develop a sense of 'good words' rather than 'right words'.
Let's create a time of warm welcome and growth, not 'fact violence.'
- Words of hospitality, be careful of this one

2.
Key Skills to Prevent Empty Consultations ①_Understanding Needs, Here and Now · 119
- Why Counseling Becomes Empty
- Receptive attitude toward the counseling content
- Understanding the ‘intention and desire to speak’ rather than the ‘content of the story’
- Focus on the 'here and now'

3.
Key Skills Leading to In-Depth Counseling ②_Light-Gong-Ban-Myeong · 131
- What's the problem with superficial conversation?
- The first step to listening is 'purposeful' listening.
- Active listening is all about responding.
- The more you practice, the more familiar you become with 'listening'.
- Making empathy 'empathetic'
- 'Reflection', which becomes a mirror reflecting the other person
- 'Clarification' that clarifies the other person's conversation

4.
Understanding Parents Makes Counseling Easier · 147
- Types of parents who make teachers difficult
- Parents who don't listen to teachers
- Parents who do not recognize differences in perspectives
- Parents who are not interested in education or parenting
- What if parents leave everything up to the teachers?
- Let's consider the parents' situation.
- When parent-teacher consultations go beyond the essentials

5.
How to Talk to Angry Parents · 164
- In counseling, counterattacks are meaningless.
- If you look at the cause of 'hwa', you will find the answer.
- Why do we have to go this far?

6.
Counseling: What Comes After Is Important · 176
- Who is the real protagonist of the consultation?
- Share the main points of the consultation with the student.
- Share the student's appearance after the consultation with the parents.
- Let's connect parent consultations to class activities.
- Record the appearance after the consultation
- To give you courage to take the next step

7.
When it comes to parent complaints or consultations, remember this! · 186

* Parent-teacher consultation: After the consultation, I trust the teacher more!

Part 4 Parent Counseling, Q&A

1.
Addressing Parents' Concerns · 203
- Learning attitude / Lifestyle habits / Relationships with friends / Relationships with children / Concerns about private education

2.
Teacher's Concerns · 120
- When you are concerned about understanding the student before counseling / When you are in a difficult situation during counseling / When you need to clear up misunderstandings and find a better solution during counseling / When you want better counseling in other ways

Coming out

For new teachers who find parent-teacher conferences vague and scary, it gives them courage and confidence.
A book that gives confidence to experienced teachers who are concerned about growing together with students and parents.

Parent-teacher conferences that come back every year, at the beginning of every semester.
Parent-teacher conferences, which teachers cannot avoid, require much closer contact with parents than open classes or parent-teacher meetings.
However, since counseling is a type of counseling that cannot completely solve problems with experience or knowledge alone, many teachers find parent counseling difficult and scary.
Since parent-teacher conferences are required every year, whether we like them or not, why not make them more meaningful and helpful for classroom management?

If we effectively utilize parent-teacher meetings to empower parents and improve classroom management, the benefits will reap solely for the teachers.


This book began with the authors' various concerns based on the stories and questions of many teachers they met during first-year training, new teacher training, and autonomous training on the topic of 'parent counseling' over the past several years.

What are teachers worried and fearful about before parent-teacher conferences?
'What are the feelings of parents when they come for counseling, and what are their concerns?'
'Was my consultation really helpful to the parents?'
How can we truly help students thrive in school?

Recommendation

When I first stepped into the school field as a new teacher, the knowledge I had learned in college was far removed from the actual school environment, so when I met actual students and parents, I was overcome with loneliness and fear.
For me, this book provided practical knowledge and skills about 'counseling' and helped relieve my fear and loneliness.
I hope this book will be a great help to teachers who, like me, feel afraid of counseling.

- Kim Hye-seong (new teacher at Daeil Elementary School in Seongnam)

Parent-teacher conferences are a harmony that teachers and parents must create together.
This book addresses the various concerns of teachers and parents regarding parent-teacher counseling and presents appropriate solutions to address them, giving you confidence in parent-teacher counseling.
I especially recommend this book to new teachers who have vague fears about parent-teacher conferences to read before starting.
- Yang Byeong-ju (new teacher at Incheon Jungsan Elementary School)

I recommend this to teachers like me who feel a sense of dread and uncertainty about parent-teacher conferences because they don't have children of their own, want to do well but lack confidence, and don't know what to prepare.
Prepare step by step by looking at the friendly and detailed information about parent-teacher conferences.
I am confident that not only will we see better parent-teacher conferences, but we will also see better classrooms.
- Kim Eun-jin (6th year teacher at Jikji Elementary School, Chungbuk)

The highlight of this book is the vivid voices and experiences of parents.
Parent-teacher conferences that speak from the perspective of parents, rather than the teacher, open up new perspectives.
If you've ever wished time would pass in empty praise, superficial conversation, and awkward silence, or if you've ever wondered, "How do other parents conduct parent-teacher conferences?" or "Am I doing it right?", here's the answer.
Parent-teacher conferences, which once felt awkward and inadequate, will now become enriching sessions packed with valuable insights.

- Lee Eun-jin (teacher at Balsan Elementary School in Seoul)

The two-person triad of teachers and parents, who share the same goal of "child growth," is likely to fall and get hurt if they are not careful.
This book goes beyond parent-teacher counseling techniques and offers solutions that will help you earn respect as a teacher in the realities of the educational field.
I believe this book, which depicts the process of teachers understanding themselves, empathizing with their parents' situations, and becoming one with them, will give courage to new teachers and confidence to experienced teachers.

- Eun-ju Kwon (Teacher at Changdong Elementary School in Seoul, Classroom Management and Parent Counseling Instructor at Educational Training Centers in various cities and provinces)

Teaching children and running a classroom is not easy, but parent counseling can be quite burdensome.
When parent-teacher conferences are successful, they greatly contribute to the child's growth because they allow for a deeper understanding of the student and collaboration with parents.
On the other hand, if you don't communicate enough with your parents, you may suffer greatly from unexpected things.
This book will be of great help to teachers who find it difficult and overwhelming to meet with parents.

- Jeong Yu-jin (Director of the People and Education Research Institute)

Even as a teacher with 22 years of experience, I always find parent counseling difficult.
I thought I could do it and was good at it, but after reading this book, I had to change my thinking.
This book is truly helpful not only to practicing teachers but also to parents regarding parent-teacher counseling.
I hope this book will provide an opportunity for both parents and teachers to shed unnecessary clutter about counseling and share the perspectives of others.
- Cha Seung-min (Teacher at Changwon Gwangryeo Elementary School/Senior Vice President of the Practical Education Teachers' Association)