Dale Carnegie's Guide to Human Relations for Teenagers
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“I learned more than I did in four years at Harvard!” To succeed in life English and math grades are 20%, Interpersonal skills contribute 80%! - Korea's first youth-oriented definitive edition of Carnegie's Human Relations Guide published! - The best human relations classic that has sold 100 million copies worldwide! - Included in the "Dale Carnegie Human Relations 30-Day Challenge"! Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People became a bestseller, selling over 100 million copies worldwide. It is now called a 'classic of self-development' as it is still loved by readers around the world even after 100 years. The topic of “human relationships” is of interest to many people and is like a lifelong homework assignment. Above all, successful people in the world have one thing in common: they have excellent interpersonal skills. While adults desperately understand the importance of human relationships, for teenagers, the narrow confines of school and home are the only places where they can experience human relationships. Moreover, all of my school friends are like competitors for college entrance exams, and my parents at home give me almost unconditional support. Children who have become accustomed to this kind of environment and have lived as if their English and math grades were everything in life are faced with various situations when they enter society, but they wander around, not knowing how to manage interpersonal relationships and communication. This is because they did not properly learn the interpersonal skills necessary for life during their teenage years. This book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People: Dale Carnegie's Guide to Influencing Human Relationships for Teenagers," reconstructs the 30 rules of human relationships that teenagers must know before going out into the world, tailored to the level of young readers. Taking advantage of the characteristics of Dale Carnegie's book, the original anecdotes and examples were used, but the content was adapted to make it easier to understand. We have provided separate supplementary explanations for major characters and events that appear here and there, and we hope that this will be helpful for young readers' English studies, and we have also included the original English text next to some gem-like passages in the text. At the end of each chapter, a separate “Key Summary” is included to provide a quick overview of the chapter’s main messages. We have also created a “Practice” section so that you can put into practice the human relationship laws you learn in this book. The "Dale Carnegie 30-Day Human Relations Challenge" at the beginning of the book helps you actually train your human relationships by checking the date you read and practiced each chapter. Adolescence is the safest time to try anything. It's okay to make as many mistakes as you want and to fail as you want. The same goes for human relationships. As the subtitle suggests, this book will be a free laboratory where you can practice and experience human relationships 'before going out into the world.' I hope you have the opportunity to learn the wisdom of human relationships that cannot be learned at school or at home. |
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Translator's Note: The Wisdom of Real Relationships You Can't Learn at School or Home
Preface - “I learned more than I did in four years at Harvard!”
Part 1: Three Core Principles of Human Relationships
Chapter 1: Don't criticize, condemn, or complain.
Chapter 2: Let's praise honestly and sincerely.
Chapter 3: Arouse the Other Person's Desperate Desire
Part 2: 6 Ways to Make Someone Like You
Chapter 4: Be genuinely interested in the other person.
Chapter 5: Put a Smile on Your Face
Chapter 6: Remember the other person's name
Chapter 7: Become a Good Listener
Chapter 8: Let's talk about the other person's interests
Chapter 9: Make Yourself Feel Important
Part 3: 12 Ways to Persuade Someone
Chapter 10 The only way to win an argument is to avoid it.
Chapter 11: Don't Tell the Other Person They're Wrong
Chapter 12: If I'm Wrong, I'll Admit It Quickly and Clearly
Chapter 13: Let's start on a friendly note
Chapter 14: Make the Other Person Say "Yes, Yes"
Chapter 15: Let's make the other person talk more
Chapter 16: Make the Other Person Think They Came Up with It Themselves
Chapter 17: Let's try to see things from the other person's perspective
Chapter 18: Empathize with the Other Person's Thoughts and Needs
Chapter 19: Let us appeal to a more noble motive.
Chapter 20: Express Your Thoughts Dramatically
Chapter 21: Let's Inspire a Spirit of Challenge
Part 4: 9 Ways to Change Your Partner
Chapter 22: Let's start with words of praise and gratitude.
Chapter 23: Indirectly Pointing Out the Other Person's Mistakes
Chapter 24: Before criticizing others, let's talk about our own mistakes first.
Chapter 25: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders
Chapter 26: Let's save the other person's face
Chapter 27: Let us sincerely acknowledge and praise generously.
Chapter 28: Give the other person a good reputation
Chapter 29: Let's Make It Look Like an Easy Mistake to Fix
Chapter 30: Let's make the other person willing to do what I suggest.
Preface - “I learned more than I did in four years at Harvard!”
Part 1: Three Core Principles of Human Relationships
Chapter 1: Don't criticize, condemn, or complain.
Chapter 2: Let's praise honestly and sincerely.
Chapter 3: Arouse the Other Person's Desperate Desire
Part 2: 6 Ways to Make Someone Like You
Chapter 4: Be genuinely interested in the other person.
Chapter 5: Put a Smile on Your Face
Chapter 6: Remember the other person's name
Chapter 7: Become a Good Listener
Chapter 8: Let's talk about the other person's interests
Chapter 9: Make Yourself Feel Important
Part 3: 12 Ways to Persuade Someone
Chapter 10 The only way to win an argument is to avoid it.
Chapter 11: Don't Tell the Other Person They're Wrong
Chapter 12: If I'm Wrong, I'll Admit It Quickly and Clearly
Chapter 13: Let's start on a friendly note
Chapter 14: Make the Other Person Say "Yes, Yes"
Chapter 15: Let's make the other person talk more
Chapter 16: Make the Other Person Think They Came Up with It Themselves
Chapter 17: Let's try to see things from the other person's perspective
Chapter 18: Empathize with the Other Person's Thoughts and Needs
Chapter 19: Let us appeal to a more noble motive.
Chapter 20: Express Your Thoughts Dramatically
Chapter 21: Let's Inspire a Spirit of Challenge
Part 4: 9 Ways to Change Your Partner
Chapter 22: Let's start with words of praise and gratitude.
Chapter 23: Indirectly Pointing Out the Other Person's Mistakes
Chapter 24: Before criticizing others, let's talk about our own mistakes first.
Chapter 25: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders
Chapter 26: Let's save the other person's face
Chapter 27: Let us sincerely acknowledge and praise generously.
Chapter 28: Give the other person a good reputation
Chapter 29: Let's Make It Look Like an Easy Mistake to Fix
Chapter 30: Let's make the other person willing to do what I suggest.
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Into the book
This book is the result of countless research and experiments conducted over 15 years.
This book isn't just vague theories or speculation; the principles presented have truly transformed countless lives.
They are living much more successful lives and enjoying greater happiness than before.
One of the students, a Harvard graduate, said he learned more in 14 weeks of Carnegie's human relations class than he did in four years at Harvard.
--- p.15
No amount of criticism can bring good results.
Rather, the person who commits the wrong blames everyone else but himself.
It's the same for everyone.
Because that's human nature.
You must realize that criticism is like a pigeon with a homing instinct.
The blame always comes back.
The person we are trying to correct or criticize may not only justify himself, but may also criticize us instead.
--- p.28
Why do we only say what we want? Only foolish people say what they want.
Of course, people are instinctively interested in what they want.
So other people don't really care what you want.
It's the same for all of us.
We are only interested in what we want.
This is the essence of human relationships! The only way to influence someone is to tell them what they want and show them how to get it.
--- p.48~49
Everyone in the world pursues happiness.
There is a sure way to find happiness.
You just have to control your thoughts.
Because happiness depends on your inner state, not your external circumstances.
What I have, who I am, where I am, and what I am doing have absolutely nothing to do with happiness.
That is, depending on how you think of yourself, you can be happy or unhappy.
--- p.77
What's the secret to successful conversation? Dr. Charles Eliot, former president of Harvard University, says:
“There is no secret to successful conversation.
…the most important thing is to focus on what the person in front of you is saying.
Nothing can make someone feel better than listening intently.
Isn't this so obvious? Anyone can understand this without having to attend Harvard University for four years.
--- p.92
Let's say someone said something that was definitely wrong.
In that case, it is better to say this.
“Oh, I see.
But I thought differently.
Of course, I could be wrong.
Sometimes that's the case.
So please correct me if I'm wrong.
“Then let’s take another look?” These words are like a charming magic.
“I could be wrong.
That happens sometimes.
If you approach it with a tone like, “Then let’s take a look again,” no one will object.
If you admit that you might be wrong, the situation will no longer be difficult.
All arguments will cease, and the other person will try to be fair, open-minded, and broad-minded like you.
The other person will also have to admit that he or she may be wrong.
--- p.124~125
I believe there are two reasons why people behave the way they do.
One is the 'plausible reason' and the other is the 'real reason'.
People will think and act for real reasons.
There is no need to emphasize this.
But we're all idealists at heart and like to come up with plausible reasons.
So, to change people, we need to appeal to higher motives.
--- p.174
It is really important to save face for the other person.
But we don't seem to take this very seriously.
There are more times when we do things our own way without considering the other person's feelings or emotions.
There are times when we find fault, make threats, and criticize others in front of others.
In times like these, we don't even think about how much damage this will do to the other person's pride.
But just taking a moment to think things through, saying a thoughtful word or two, or showing that you truly understand their position can make a huge difference in reducing the hurt they feel!
--- p.213
If you want to improve something in someone else's life, you should speak as if they have a strong point in that area.
As Shakespeare said, it makes you “act as if you had qualities you didn’t have.”
Give others a good reputation that they will want to live up to.
Then the other person will put in a lot of effort just to avoid seeing you disappointed.
This book isn't just vague theories or speculation; the principles presented have truly transformed countless lives.
They are living much more successful lives and enjoying greater happiness than before.
One of the students, a Harvard graduate, said he learned more in 14 weeks of Carnegie's human relations class than he did in four years at Harvard.
--- p.15
No amount of criticism can bring good results.
Rather, the person who commits the wrong blames everyone else but himself.
It's the same for everyone.
Because that's human nature.
You must realize that criticism is like a pigeon with a homing instinct.
The blame always comes back.
The person we are trying to correct or criticize may not only justify himself, but may also criticize us instead.
--- p.28
Why do we only say what we want? Only foolish people say what they want.
Of course, people are instinctively interested in what they want.
So other people don't really care what you want.
It's the same for all of us.
We are only interested in what we want.
This is the essence of human relationships! The only way to influence someone is to tell them what they want and show them how to get it.
--- p.48~49
Everyone in the world pursues happiness.
There is a sure way to find happiness.
You just have to control your thoughts.
Because happiness depends on your inner state, not your external circumstances.
What I have, who I am, where I am, and what I am doing have absolutely nothing to do with happiness.
That is, depending on how you think of yourself, you can be happy or unhappy.
--- p.77
What's the secret to successful conversation? Dr. Charles Eliot, former president of Harvard University, says:
“There is no secret to successful conversation.
…the most important thing is to focus on what the person in front of you is saying.
Nothing can make someone feel better than listening intently.
Isn't this so obvious? Anyone can understand this without having to attend Harvard University for four years.
--- p.92
Let's say someone said something that was definitely wrong.
In that case, it is better to say this.
“Oh, I see.
But I thought differently.
Of course, I could be wrong.
Sometimes that's the case.
So please correct me if I'm wrong.
“Then let’s take another look?” These words are like a charming magic.
“I could be wrong.
That happens sometimes.
If you approach it with a tone like, “Then let’s take a look again,” no one will object.
If you admit that you might be wrong, the situation will no longer be difficult.
All arguments will cease, and the other person will try to be fair, open-minded, and broad-minded like you.
The other person will also have to admit that he or she may be wrong.
--- p.124~125
I believe there are two reasons why people behave the way they do.
One is the 'plausible reason' and the other is the 'real reason'.
People will think and act for real reasons.
There is no need to emphasize this.
But we're all idealists at heart and like to come up with plausible reasons.
So, to change people, we need to appeal to higher motives.
--- p.174
It is really important to save face for the other person.
But we don't seem to take this very seriously.
There are more times when we do things our own way without considering the other person's feelings or emotions.
There are times when we find fault, make threats, and criticize others in front of others.
In times like these, we don't even think about how much damage this will do to the other person's pride.
But just taking a moment to think things through, saying a thoughtful word or two, or showing that you truly understand their position can make a huge difference in reducing the hurt they feel!
--- p.213
If you want to improve something in someone else's life, you should speak as if they have a strong point in that area.
As Shakespeare said, it makes you “act as if you had qualities you didn’t have.”
Give others a good reputation that they will want to live up to.
Then the other person will put in a lot of effort just to avoid seeing you disappointed.
--- p.224
Publisher's Review
The ultimate human relations classic for a successful life, reimagined for teenage readers.
Young people are accustomed to living within the narrow confines of school and home, but when they enter society, they face various situations.
However, they face great difficulties because they do not know how to manage interpersonal relationships and communication within it.
This is because they did not properly learn interpersonal skills, which are essential for living a successful life.
This book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People: Dale Carnegie's Guide to Influencing Human Relationships for Teenagers," is a book that reconstructs the 30 rules of human relationships that teenagers must know before going out into the world, tailored to the level of young readers.
Through this book, you can fully learn the wisdom of human relationships that cannot be learned at school or at home.
“I learned the most important thing in life from Dale Carnegie” - Warren Buffett
World-renowned investor Warren Buffett said that he learned the most important thing in life from Dale Carnegie's classes when he was young.
What he learned was none other than “human relations skills.”
Dale Carnegie's famous book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People," has become a bestseller, selling over 100 million copies worldwide.
There's a reason why it's still loved by readers around the world even after 100 years.
This is because it contains the ‘truth’ of human relationships that does not change even as times change.
Carnegie suggests that successful human relationships require the wise use of human desires.
Humans are filled with the desire to become 'important beings'.
Humans are not interested in other people and are only interested in themselves.
Humans may seem rational at first glance, but they are actually caught up in emotions, prejudices, and strong egos.
Therefore, we must use these desires in reverse.
It's about making the other person like you by acknowledging that they are important, persuading them of your thoughts by sharing their interests, and correcting their mistakes by empathizing with their feelings.
While adults desperately understand the importance of human relationships, for teenagers, the narrow confines of school and home are the only places where they can experience human relationships.
Moreover, all of my school friends are like competitors for college entrance exams, and my parents at home give me almost unconditional support.
Children who have become accustomed to this kind of environment and have lived as if their English and math grades were everything in life are faced with various situations when they enter society, but they wander around, not knowing how to manage interpersonal relationships and communication.
This is because they did not properly learn the interpersonal skills necessary for life during their teenage years.
The definitive edition of Dale Carnegie's human relations skills tailored to teenagers!
This book is different from the moral textbooks you learn in school.
It is not a reference book to read to become a good and upright person.
Rather, it is a guidebook that must be read to succeed in human relationships rather than fail in the complex and multifaceted modern society.
Originally, this book was a self-help book written for managers and businessmen.
So, is Carnegie's book on human relations even necessary for teenagers? The preface to "How to Win Friends and Influence People" reads as follows:
A survey conducted in the United States found that the first topic that adults are most interested in is health, and the second is human relationships.
So, what are the topics that interest young people most? The first is probably studying or career paths, and the second, of course, is interpersonal relationships.
As I said before, humans are animals of desire.
This desire, especially the desire to be recognized, is not unique to adults.
Everyone, regardless of age or gender, has it.
Therefore, Carnegie's human relations theory can be applied to everyone.
It's just a question of 'version'.
This book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie for Teenagers, has been reorganized to fit the eye level of young readers.
Dale Carnegie's books are characterized by numerous anecdotes and examples.
Taking advantage of this feature, most of the anecdotes and examples were taken directly from the original text, except for those that are difficult or uncomfortable for young people to read.
However, the content has been adapted to make it easier to understand and the sentences have been edited to make them easier to read.
Additional explanations have been provided for major characters and events that appear here and there.
Carnegie's books are also widely read by domestic readers in their original English versions.
This is because it is easy to read in English and is a great help in studying reading comprehension.
In this book, we hope that it will be helpful to young people in their English studies, and we have included the original English text alongside the most valuable passages in the text.
This book organizes a total of 30 laws of human relationships and introduces them in 30 chapters.
At the end of each chapter, we've included a "Key Summary" section to help you see the key messages at a glance, and we've also included a "Practice" section to help you put into practice the human relationship laws you've learned in this book.
The "Dale Carnegie 30-Day Human Relations Challenge" at the beginning of the book helps you practice your human relationships by checking the date you read and practiced each chapter.
I think adolescence is the safest time to try anything.
It's okay to make as many mistakes as you want and to fail as you want.
The same goes for human relationships.
As the subtitle suggests, this book will be a free laboratory where you can practice and experience human relationships 'before going out into the world.'
Here, the 'world' could be a place like school or home where you live now, or it could be the broader society in which you will live as an adult.
I hope that through this book, you will have the opportunity to learn the wisdom of human relationships that cannot be learned at school or at home.
Young people are accustomed to living within the narrow confines of school and home, but when they enter society, they face various situations.
However, they face great difficulties because they do not know how to manage interpersonal relationships and communication within it.
This is because they did not properly learn interpersonal skills, which are essential for living a successful life.
This book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People: Dale Carnegie's Guide to Influencing Human Relationships for Teenagers," is a book that reconstructs the 30 rules of human relationships that teenagers must know before going out into the world, tailored to the level of young readers.
Through this book, you can fully learn the wisdom of human relationships that cannot be learned at school or at home.
“I learned the most important thing in life from Dale Carnegie” - Warren Buffett
World-renowned investor Warren Buffett said that he learned the most important thing in life from Dale Carnegie's classes when he was young.
What he learned was none other than “human relations skills.”
Dale Carnegie's famous book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People," has become a bestseller, selling over 100 million copies worldwide.
There's a reason why it's still loved by readers around the world even after 100 years.
This is because it contains the ‘truth’ of human relationships that does not change even as times change.
Carnegie suggests that successful human relationships require the wise use of human desires.
Humans are filled with the desire to become 'important beings'.
Humans are not interested in other people and are only interested in themselves.
Humans may seem rational at first glance, but they are actually caught up in emotions, prejudices, and strong egos.
Therefore, we must use these desires in reverse.
It's about making the other person like you by acknowledging that they are important, persuading them of your thoughts by sharing their interests, and correcting their mistakes by empathizing with their feelings.
While adults desperately understand the importance of human relationships, for teenagers, the narrow confines of school and home are the only places where they can experience human relationships.
Moreover, all of my school friends are like competitors for college entrance exams, and my parents at home give me almost unconditional support.
Children who have become accustomed to this kind of environment and have lived as if their English and math grades were everything in life are faced with various situations when they enter society, but they wander around, not knowing how to manage interpersonal relationships and communication.
This is because they did not properly learn the interpersonal skills necessary for life during their teenage years.
The definitive edition of Dale Carnegie's human relations skills tailored to teenagers!
This book is different from the moral textbooks you learn in school.
It is not a reference book to read to become a good and upright person.
Rather, it is a guidebook that must be read to succeed in human relationships rather than fail in the complex and multifaceted modern society.
Originally, this book was a self-help book written for managers and businessmen.
So, is Carnegie's book on human relations even necessary for teenagers? The preface to "How to Win Friends and Influence People" reads as follows:
A survey conducted in the United States found that the first topic that adults are most interested in is health, and the second is human relationships.
So, what are the topics that interest young people most? The first is probably studying or career paths, and the second, of course, is interpersonal relationships.
As I said before, humans are animals of desire.
This desire, especially the desire to be recognized, is not unique to adults.
Everyone, regardless of age or gender, has it.
Therefore, Carnegie's human relations theory can be applied to everyone.
It's just a question of 'version'.
This book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie for Teenagers, has been reorganized to fit the eye level of young readers.
Dale Carnegie's books are characterized by numerous anecdotes and examples.
Taking advantage of this feature, most of the anecdotes and examples were taken directly from the original text, except for those that are difficult or uncomfortable for young people to read.
However, the content has been adapted to make it easier to understand and the sentences have been edited to make them easier to read.
Additional explanations have been provided for major characters and events that appear here and there.
Carnegie's books are also widely read by domestic readers in their original English versions.
This is because it is easy to read in English and is a great help in studying reading comprehension.
In this book, we hope that it will be helpful to young people in their English studies, and we have included the original English text alongside the most valuable passages in the text.
This book organizes a total of 30 laws of human relationships and introduces them in 30 chapters.
At the end of each chapter, we've included a "Key Summary" section to help you see the key messages at a glance, and we've also included a "Practice" section to help you put into practice the human relationship laws you've learned in this book.
The "Dale Carnegie 30-Day Human Relations Challenge" at the beginning of the book helps you practice your human relationships by checking the date you read and practiced each chapter.
I think adolescence is the safest time to try anything.
It's okay to make as many mistakes as you want and to fail as you want.
The same goes for human relationships.
As the subtitle suggests, this book will be a free laboratory where you can practice and experience human relationships 'before going out into the world.'
Here, the 'world' could be a place like school or home where you live now, or it could be the broader society in which you will live as an adult.
I hope that through this book, you will have the opportunity to learn the wisdom of human relationships that cannot be learned at school or at home.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Publication date: November 25, 2023
- Page count, weight, size: 240 pages | 344g | 148*210*20mm
- ISBN13: 9791198268761
- ISBN10: 119826876X
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