Gaslighting instills in the other person a habit called "mental helplessness."
Our brain is much more affected by the frequency of the shock than by the magnitude.
Experiencing great helplessness once is easy to overcome.
But when small "mental incapacity" is repeatedly built up through gaslighting, the brain makes irreversible decisions.
'Let's not move anymore,' he said.
So, if you feel like you're not doing anything right when you meet someone, or if you feel like you're constantly losing energy, you should be suspicious.
No matter how kind and nice the other person is, if this situation keeps happening, you may be being gaslighted without even realizing it.

---From "The Psychology of a Manipulator"

Pessimistic people also have characteristics in the words they use.
As explained earlier, the reason people easily fall into pessimism is because they often experience misfortune and their pessimistic predictions often turn out to be correct.
In such cases, there is something that pessimistic people say most often.
“See, I knew it.” This is a phrase we often use, but for pessimistic people, it becomes a kind of psychological seed money that leads to pessimism.
By saying this to yourself, you are making a pessimistic prediction about the future, and this naturally leads to negative consequences.
That is, it is the worst kind of self-hypnosis.
Another characteristic of the speech of pessimistic people is that they use a remarkably small number of verbs.
Verbs express the action of 'doing something', and pessimistic people have no desire to do anything in the future.

---From "The Psychology of Pessimistic People Who Drain Me"

People with high empathy are good at understanding even the emotions of narcissists.
That's why you can be easily swayed by them.
Even if you are not a narcissist yourself, there is a high probability that you will be influenced by the thoughts of the narcissists around you and develop wrong values.
While avoiding them is best if possible, what should you do if you're involved with a narcissist in a work relationship? In such cases, you need to meet someone of a completely different type, someone with opposing or even completely opposite perspectives.
It's a kind of psychological water ride by hearing opposing opinions.
Only then can we avoid being influenced by that person's wrong thoughts or desires.
This is also why it is important to meet diverse people.
Meeting a variety of people with different values ​​can help reduce the chances of being harmed by people with a certain disposition.

---From "Why You Should Avoid Narcissists"

It's natural to feel "scared" or "uneasy" before meeting a stranger.
And then you could react like that and end it there.
But it is your decision to say, 'Let's overcome it and meet up sometime.'
That doesn't mean I want to say, 'You absolutely have to be courageous' or 'It's weird if you don't have courage.'
But if you muster up the courage just once, you can decide whether or not to be brave when a similar situation arises again, and whether or not you need to be brave.
After that, it may vary depending on the individual's personality.
However, I hope that you will have the courage to make your own decision so that it doesn't end with just a 'reaction' from the beginning.
---From "If you're afraid of meeting strangers"

Professor Lee Ki-beom of the University of Calgary in Canada has determined the truth about human relationships through research.
The point is not whether the person is similar to me or different, but whether he is truthful or not.
In psychology, being 'authentic' means 'having sincerity', which means not hiding your true intentions from the other person.
That's the only way to become truly good friends.
Actually, the rest may be different from mine.
So if I want to become close to someone, I have to be honest about my intentions.
And as we get older, we need the social grace to be able to talk about this honestly and without being rude.
I believe these are two of the best social skills and some of the most important skills we can develop as we age.

---From "The Dangers of Playing Among Yourself"