What human nature craves is a connection between mind and mind.
Understanding each other's vulnerabilities and pain
In affectionate relationships, people are deeply connected.

In modern society where conflicts are rampant and human dignity is destroyed,
What is the most important thing you need?
Kim Seon-hee, a clinical psychologist specializing in couples and family relationships
As an answer, I suggest ‘affection.’

'Affection' is the fact that we are fragile human beings struggling with each other.
It starts with understanding

One of the negative aspects of modern society is the deepening of conflict.
If you bring up the 'jeong' that is unique to Koreans, you will be looked down upon without hesitation.
I'm so busy trying to survive on my own that I don't have time to take care of other people.
The time and affection to care for others and understand their circumstances are lost, and as we shout about our own positions and rights, the conflict shows no sign of being resolved.
If this is the case even between the closest couples and family relationships, is it possible to have a mature attitude to look out for others outside the front door and treat them with dignity?

34 years of experience in clinical psychology.
As a clinical psychologist who has counseled countless clients in the field and has deeply examined human nature, the author analyzes the causes and forms of violent and aggressive conflicts that are prevalent in society beyond personal relationships, families, and homes, and emphasizes that 'affection' must be urgently prescribed in our society where conflict resolution is far from being possible.
The essence of affection, the author says, is understanding that the other person is a fragile human being struggling to overcome their own vulnerabilities and making them feel that they are not alone.
The secret to resolving the chronic conflicts in our society and allowing you and I to live together in unity is to understand that the other person is in pain as much as I am in pain, and to embrace the other person's pain as much as I am struggling.
The author boldly states that when we cultivate this mindset, we become a united force and can live through the crises, adversities, hardships, and pain that come our way from time to time as a call to growth.

When we look at each other and hold hands warmly despite our wounds, conflicts, anguish, imperfections, and immaturity, when we care for each other's wounds and understand each other's pain, you and I meet heart to heart.
It is a meeting of personalities.
You and I are weak, but we are only strangers, but when we are firmly connected through faith and take devoted care of each other, humans overcome wounds and are reborn.
Overcome pain and grow.
By regenerating and growing through love, we can reach, even if only a little, the highest state of 'personality'.
In fact, affection is needed.
--- From "Entering"

In the movie "Don't Cross That River," the words the main couple uses to each other are full of love, care, and affection.
Use simple words that quickly show how much you value each other.
Perhaps they've learned so much, perhaps they've learned the art of conversation somewhere. The love, respect, and care within a couple are outwardly expressed and expressed in words.
What overflows in the hearts of the main couple is marital love and human love.
What we want is a connection between hearts and minds.
The way I treat you, the way you look at me, we want that way and that heart to be affectionate and kind.
I need that sense of security and deep connection that you and I feel when we meet and touch.
I hope that it comes out in words.
The heart speaks louder than words.
--- From "Why does that person speak so carelessly"

When your heart is broken, do nothing.
You can just stay still.
We need time to mend our broken hearts.
Let go of the compulsion to do anything to repair your broken environment, your shattered reality, your damaged relationships, and your shattered heart.
The compulsion to recover, the compulsion to compensate, is a natural impulse that arises when the mind is broken, but we need to accept that now is not the time.
The wisdom to discern the times is important.
Above all, when your heart is broken, remember that allowing yourself some quiet time is a way to take care of yourself.
--- From "When Your Heart Is Broken"

Whenever I hear my husband say, “I’m here,” it’s touching and comforting.
right.
He is by my side.
It makes you feel like you're not alone.
This is the core of empathy, the core of love.
The suffering and hardships that humans experience are not only due to external circumstances and frustrating situations.
The most difficult time for a human being is when he feels like he is left alone.
When all ties, all relationships, all connections, all interests feel severed, man can no longer find a reason to live.
This is why, among the deaths that occur around us, deaths from loneliness or suicide are the most heartbreakingly lonely and painful.
When we feel that there is even just one person who comforts and understands our pain, our sadness, our despair and misery, our sorrow and injustice, we can live, even if it is difficult.
--- From "I'm Here"

The era of the mind has finally arrived.
It may be a little late, but I am so happy.
Because the most important thing for humans is the power of the mind.
The power of the mind is the central axis for surviving in an unpredictable world and the fundamental condition for humans to be human.
Humans, possessing both mind and heart, are born with the destiny to cultivate their power.
How can I increase my mental strength? There's no other way than to examine my own mind—to practice inner work every day without fail.
I believe that listening to my own voice resonating from my heart is the most valuable thing in life.
When I listen to the voice in my heart, it becomes self.

--- From "Standing in the Wilderness"