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A new book has been published by psychiatrist Dr. Lee Kwang-min, who has garnered attention through his appearances on JTBC's "Divorce Consideration Camp" and MBC's "I Live Alone."
This book is for those who have a lot of work to do but "don't want to do anything." It analyzes the causes of the lethargy we experience, examines our daily routines such as sleep and exercise, and even provides methods for maintaining unhurt interpersonal relationships and restoring our disturbed inner selves.
This book will provide expert and practical advice to readers who are feeling down and helpless, as it offers solutions that can help them change through small, insignificant routines rather than grand plans.

The reason I need a routine is because it keeps me going.
When our lifestyle patterns are broken, our minds, our mental realm, also collapse.
In fact, in my practice, I often see cases where depression or burnout syndrome has occurred due to a disruption in the rhythm of daily life.
In such cases, the first thing to do is to check how much effort you put into maintaining a consistent daily pattern of sleep, meals, and physical activity, and whether you are managing your energy well.
(…) Even if there are many unexpected environmental factors, the effort to re-establish a unique daily routine becomes the basis for my body and mind to function properly.

--- From the "Prologue"

If you continue this daily routine, your life will change.
Beyond breaking free from lethargy, you will gradually gain confidence and regain the joy of everyday life.
But there is one thing to be careful about.
The more grandiose a routine starts, the more likely it is to fail.
Let's say you're feeling lethargic right now.
I'm feeling weak and don't want to do anything.
But can you suddenly achieve something extraordinary? Can you immediately resume your usual routine? Sure, some people might succeed, but most won't be able to stick with it and eventually give up.
So, I need to adjust it step by step, starting with easy actions, depending on the level of helplessness I am in.


(…) The Big Step Ladder allows you to reach your goal in just a few quick steps.
Most people would like to climb the Big Step ladder quickly.
Or, because they want to 'look good' to those around them, they set grand routines out of pride about themselves.
Of course, if you are in good condition, you will be able to climb the Big Step ladder.
But the ladder called routine is not needed when I am in good condition, but when I am lethargic.
When you're feeling lethargic, even climbing a single step is incredibly difficult.
So, your routine should be chosen in small steps.

After trying many things, the only way I found was to 'force the move'.
The researchers lifted the lethargic dog and carried it outside the fence.
I forced myself to run away from the electric shock.
But even if I force myself to move once, I can't get rid of learned helplessness.
If you move it back to the electric shock room, it still gives up.
After two, three, and repeated attempts to move the dog over the railing, the dog learned helplessness and began to jump over the railing on its own to avoid the electric shock.
What can we learn from this experiment? To overcome learned helplessness, we must force ourselves to move beyond the helplessness, no matter how uncomfortable, bothersome, or difficult it may be.
The dogs in the experiment could be moved by force by the researchers, but people cannot do that.
We have to move our bodies ourselves.
--- From "Chapter 1: Why Don't I Want to Do Anything?"

Exercise shouldn't be too hard.
Then you give up.
If exercise is too difficult, of course you won't want to do it.
It is recommended to start with an appropriate intensity for your needs, such as feeling warm and sweating a little, and then slowly increase the intensity of the exercise as you feel more comfortable.
But especially when you go to receive personal training, there are many coaches who push you from the beginning.
This way, we can see visible results and members can feel rewarded for spending a lot of money to exercise.
But this method has a blind spot.
It means you'll give up quickly.
We want to exercise as a routine.
I'm not trying to lose weight and build muscle in a short period of time to compete.
So the goal of exercise should be consistency, not visible results.
--- From "Chapter 2: Finding Your Own Standard to Straighten Up a Disorganized Life"

It takes a certain level of experience to build positive relationships with people.
No one is good at everything from the beginning.
Experience is definitely necessary.
By developing an eye for recognizing beneficial people through experience and developing criteria for filtering out harmful ones, you can reduce the number of times you get hurt and build healthier relationships.
How do we gain this kind of experience? It requires constant interaction with people.
Then, just as calluses form on your hands, you will naturally develop calluses from the wounds in your relationships.
Relationships with people are similar to RPG games.
When playing a game, you first gain experience by hunting light monsters, and when you level up as those experience points accumulate, your abilities increase and you can hunt more difficult monsters.
Human relationships also start out as a relationship where both parties feel comfortable and then steadily build up experience.
As you do this, your ability to deal with people, avoid hurt, and protect yourself will increase, and you will be able to communicate, cooperate, negotiate, and mediate.
--- From "Chapter 3: How to Protect Myself Without Getting Hurt"

Perfectionism has something in common with stabilityism.
What should our daily lives be like to be perfect? ​​They should be stable, without error.
I can only maintain perfectionism if everything goes according to my control and plan.
As a result, life becomes more peaceful.
On the other hand, even a small unexpected variable can cause it to falter.
So, I encourage you to enter an environment where tomorrow is unpredictable.
I realized how frustrated I had been living, and I tried to become someone who could deal with problems flexibly.
Also, people who have always strived for perfection in order to achieve their goals can experience recoverable failure through this experience.
Failures in social life are irreversible, but small failures in daily life are completely recoverable.
You build courage through small failures.

--- From Chapter 4, “How to avoid being swept away by negative thoughts and emotions”