Need for recognition
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Book Introduction
“The highest level of human needs is the need for recognition!” _ Abraham Maslow
A psychology class to understand the true desire for recognition that everyone possesses but no one has found.
What is the human desire that can be called instinctive? It is the desire for recognition.
Everyone has a desire to be recognized.
But that desire to be recognized manifests itself in very different ways for each person.
People who don't want their relationships to become awkward, so they put up with it, people who constantly promote themselves, people who are obsessed with self-love, people who take more responsibility for everything than necessary...
These behaviors, which we have considered to be personal tendencies, are actually all due to a ‘desire for recognition.’
Psychologically, humans confirm their own value by being recognized by others.
In that sense, the need for recognition is a psychological need that is essential for human survival.
The problem arises from not properly satisfying the need for recognition.
This book discusses what the need for recognition is, and the problematic behaviors that arise when the need for recognition is excessive or insufficient, while dealing with the stories of people who fail to fulfill this natural human need in a healthy way.
Furthermore, it examines the current state of modern society that encourages excessive desire for recognition, and in the final chapter, it even provides methods for controlling this desire for recognition.
Everyone has a need for recognition, and it is absolutely necessary.
However, both the effort to do well and the desire to be recognized can be toxic if excessive.
This book will help those who are addicted to recognition and are swayed by the desire for recognition to live healthily as 'themselves' rather than as 'others'.
A psychology class to understand the true desire for recognition that everyone possesses but no one has found.
What is the human desire that can be called instinctive? It is the desire for recognition.
Everyone has a desire to be recognized.
But that desire to be recognized manifests itself in very different ways for each person.
People who don't want their relationships to become awkward, so they put up with it, people who constantly promote themselves, people who are obsessed with self-love, people who take more responsibility for everything than necessary...
These behaviors, which we have considered to be personal tendencies, are actually all due to a ‘desire for recognition.’
Psychologically, humans confirm their own value by being recognized by others.
In that sense, the need for recognition is a psychological need that is essential for human survival.
The problem arises from not properly satisfying the need for recognition.
This book discusses what the need for recognition is, and the problematic behaviors that arise when the need for recognition is excessive or insufficient, while dealing with the stories of people who fail to fulfill this natural human need in a healthy way.
Furthermore, it examines the current state of modern society that encourages excessive desire for recognition, and in the final chapter, it even provides methods for controlling this desire for recognition.
Everyone has a need for recognition, and it is absolutely necessary.
However, both the effort to do well and the desire to be recognized can be toxic if excessive.
This book will help those who are addicted to recognition and are swayed by the desire for recognition to live healthily as 'themselves' rather than as 'others'.
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index
To begin with
Chapter 1: The Need for Recognition Must Be Fulfilled
Are actions driven by a need for recognition bad?
Desire is something that must be fulfilled
basic human needs
The need for recognition is also behind problem behavior.
An era where the desire to be loved is strong
People addicted to recognition
Chapter 2: People Suffering from the Need for Recognition
Habitually hide your feelings and do favors
Drive yourself into a corner by making boastful claims
I'm hated for being too showy, but that's how I feel.
I can't even open up to my friends
I want to be seen as a good person
Find fault with a capable person
Chapter 3: The Need for Recognition Promoted by Social Media
It is divided into 'the me who sees' and 'the me who is seen'.
Excessive narcissism
SNS that excessively promotes the 'visible me'
The world of social media, where it's easy to satisfy your need for recognition
It's hard to maintain a 'visible self'
Chapter 4: The Identity of the Need for Recognition
Self-image is created through the eyes of others.
The 'anxiety of being ignored' that lies beneath the desire for recognition
I make excuses because I don't want to be ignored.
The need for recognition is the driving force behind self-formation.
I live my life cherishing 'relationships'
Etiquette of Asians that Surprises Foreigners
Different attitudes of Eastern and Western criminals
Chapter 5: How to Wisely Handle Your Need for Approval
Protect and care for me
Using the need for recognition without overdoing it
Let's realize the desire for recognition hidden behind the frustration.
Never make unfounded predictions
Don't force yourself to pretend to be a good person.
How to Use SNS Smartly
Building honest relationships
Self-presentation is required
Don't try to be loved by everyone
Checking the 'organic anxiety' inside me
See the other person as they are
First, make a commitment to 'acknowledge' the other person.
In conclusion
Chapter 1: The Need for Recognition Must Be Fulfilled
Are actions driven by a need for recognition bad?
Desire is something that must be fulfilled
basic human needs
The need for recognition is also behind problem behavior.
An era where the desire to be loved is strong
People addicted to recognition
Chapter 2: People Suffering from the Need for Recognition
Habitually hide your feelings and do favors
Drive yourself into a corner by making boastful claims
I'm hated for being too showy, but that's how I feel.
I can't even open up to my friends
I want to be seen as a good person
Find fault with a capable person
Chapter 3: The Need for Recognition Promoted by Social Media
It is divided into 'the me who sees' and 'the me who is seen'.
Excessive narcissism
SNS that excessively promotes the 'visible me'
The world of social media, where it's easy to satisfy your need for recognition
It's hard to maintain a 'visible self'
Chapter 4: The Identity of the Need for Recognition
Self-image is created through the eyes of others.
The 'anxiety of being ignored' that lies beneath the desire for recognition
I make excuses because I don't want to be ignored.
The need for recognition is the driving force behind self-formation.
I live my life cherishing 'relationships'
Etiquette of Asians that Surprises Foreigners
Different attitudes of Eastern and Western criminals
Chapter 5: How to Wisely Handle Your Need for Approval
Protect and care for me
Using the need for recognition without overdoing it
Let's realize the desire for recognition hidden behind the frustration.
Never make unfounded predictions
Don't force yourself to pretend to be a good person.
How to Use SNS Smartly
Building honest relationships
Self-presentation is required
Don't try to be loved by everyone
Checking the 'organic anxiety' inside me
See the other person as they are
First, make a commitment to 'acknowledge' the other person.
In conclusion
Detailed image
Into the book
We always want to be recognized.
You can't live without the need for recognition.
Wouldn't it be better to just let go of the need for recognition if you're going to suffer like this? No, absolutely not.
The problem is not 'how to eliminate' the need for recognition, but 'how to deal with it.'
If we change our approach slightly and handle it wisely, the need for recognition can become a powerful ally in our lives.
--- p.5
The need for recognition and esteem is the desire to be recognized by others, to be well-regarded, and, furthermore, to have self-esteem increased as a result.
There are two types of needs for recognition and esteem.
One is the desire to be recognized or respected by others through fame, reputation, and social status, and the other is the desire to increase one's own self-esteem through strength, a sense of accomplishment, maturity, and self-respect.
Feeling truly confident, that is, having self-esteem, is the most important task for human beings.
--- pp.31~32
The way I look is determined by the other person.
There are people who bring out the honest and mature 'me', and there are people who bring out the noisy and brash 'me'.
Some people bring out a charming 'me', while others bring out a calm and trustworthy 'me'.
In this way, the 'me' that suits the other person begins to move almost automatically.
In other words, the character that matches the opponent or group starts moving.
--- pp.82~83
It's easy to think that we have an inherent self-image, but in reality, we learn about it through what we hear from people and their attitudes.
Ultimately, it is created by ‘the gaze of others.’
So, in an effort to create a favorable self-image and to project a desirable image to others, we inevitably become sensitive to the gaze of others.
--- p.134
As you begin your social life, you will also want to be recognized by your coworkers, business partners, and customers.
The desire to be recognized as competent improves one's work ability.
Also, personally, the desire to be recognized as an honest and considerate person leads to human growth.
In the process, you may suffer from not being able to perform your work as you had hoped, or you may suffer from self-loathing due to the thought that you lack human charm.
However, this conflict can be seen as an expression of the will to overcome the current self.
--- pp.147~148
People who are good at their jobs have a strong desire to be recognized as competent by those around them.
The advantage is that your work ability will gradually improve thanks to your strong need for recognition.
When we look at active athletes, we see that they sometimes become frustrated because their need for recognition is so high, but they also use that need for recognition as a driving force to achieve good results.
People who work hard with the mindset of 'I want to be recognized as a competent person' or 'I want to be recognized as a trustworthy person' are swayed by the desire for recognition, but it is thanks to this desire for recognition that they are able to grow.
You can't live without the need for recognition.
Wouldn't it be better to just let go of the need for recognition if you're going to suffer like this? No, absolutely not.
The problem is not 'how to eliminate' the need for recognition, but 'how to deal with it.'
If we change our approach slightly and handle it wisely, the need for recognition can become a powerful ally in our lives.
--- p.5
The need for recognition and esteem is the desire to be recognized by others, to be well-regarded, and, furthermore, to have self-esteem increased as a result.
There are two types of needs for recognition and esteem.
One is the desire to be recognized or respected by others through fame, reputation, and social status, and the other is the desire to increase one's own self-esteem through strength, a sense of accomplishment, maturity, and self-respect.
Feeling truly confident, that is, having self-esteem, is the most important task for human beings.
--- pp.31~32
The way I look is determined by the other person.
There are people who bring out the honest and mature 'me', and there are people who bring out the noisy and brash 'me'.
Some people bring out a charming 'me', while others bring out a calm and trustworthy 'me'.
In this way, the 'me' that suits the other person begins to move almost automatically.
In other words, the character that matches the opponent or group starts moving.
--- pp.82~83
It's easy to think that we have an inherent self-image, but in reality, we learn about it through what we hear from people and their attitudes.
Ultimately, it is created by ‘the gaze of others.’
So, in an effort to create a favorable self-image and to project a desirable image to others, we inevitably become sensitive to the gaze of others.
--- p.134
As you begin your social life, you will also want to be recognized by your coworkers, business partners, and customers.
The desire to be recognized as competent improves one's work ability.
Also, personally, the desire to be recognized as an honest and considerate person leads to human growth.
In the process, you may suffer from not being able to perform your work as you had hoped, or you may suffer from self-loathing due to the thought that you lack human charm.
However, this conflict can be seen as an expression of the will to overcome the current self.
--- pp.147~148
People who are good at their jobs have a strong desire to be recognized as competent by those around them.
The advantage is that your work ability will gradually improve thanks to your strong need for recognition.
When we look at active athletes, we see that they sometimes become frustrated because their need for recognition is so high, but they also use that need for recognition as a driving force to achieve good results.
People who work hard with the mindset of 'I want to be recognized as a competent person' or 'I want to be recognized as a trustworthy person' are swayed by the desire for recognition, but it is thanks to this desire for recognition that they are able to grow.
--- pp.183~184
Publisher's Review
“I want to be capable, have a good personality, and be a good person!”
The hidden true heart that everyone has but no one finds
All humans try to confirm their own value through the evaluation of others.
At work, I want to be a capable person who does a good job, at school, I want to be a model student who studies well and has good relationships with my classmates, and to my friends, I want to be a person who has a good personality and is easygoing.
What is the true desire for validation from others? We desire to be acknowledged.
Some advise against basing your self-worth on the opinions of others, but the desire to be recognized by others is a fundamental psychological need for human survival.
In psychology, it is said that everyone has a desire to be recognized by others, and that it is not necessarily bad or wrong, and that being recognized by others is a mechanism that proves one's reason for existence and even creates goals and a driving force in life.
There is also an analysis that a significant portion of the suffering that humans experience in life is due to a lack of desire to be recognized.
This 'need for recognition', the desire to be recognized by others, is important to any human being who lives in relationships.
“I want to be recognized.
“More, more, more often than now!”
People who are addicted to recognition and driven by a desire for recognition
According to the 'hierarchy of needs' by psychologist Abraham Maslow, who developed a theory of motivation that moves humans, the highest level of basic human needs is the need for recognition.
Because people with low self-esteem have a strong need for recognition, they think that the need for recognition is something they 'should throw away' or 'something they shouldn't have', but this is completely wrong.
The need for recognition is one of the basic human needs and is a need that cannot and should not be abandoned.
Although we may not be aware of it, we have been growing up since childhood, challenging ourselves and working hard in various ways to be recognized.
At school, we study harder with the sole purpose of getting good grades and being praised, and at work, we work hard to be evaluated as a competent person.
And these efforts ultimately help us grow.
Such behaviors that stem from a need for recognition are absolutely necessary if you want to grow.
But just as all desires can be harmful when excessive, so too can the desire for recognition.
The negative view of the need for recognition, which is a basic need and the foundation of success, is ultimately due to those who are swayed by the need for recognition.
Those who are so driven by the need for recognition that they become addicted to it are very sensitive to the evaluations of others, are very concerned about what others think, are easily elated or depressed by the reactions of others, and become frustrated and depressed when they do not receive the response they expected.
Recently, as more and more people become obsessed with 'how others see me' due to social media, the problem of those addicted to approval is becoming more severe.
“I am a recognition addict.”
A User's Manual for the Need for Recognition: Only by Recognizing It Can It Be Yours
When the desire to be “recognized by someone” or “look like a good person” becomes too strong, people end up suffering.
What should we do if we're suffering from a need for recognition? The answer is surprisingly simple.
All you have to do is accept that you are being swayed by your need for recognition and find a way to properly satisfy it.
This book explains in detail why we are swayed by the need for recognition, while at the same time suggesting ways to use the need for recognition positively without being swayed by it.
If we can properly satisfy our need for self-recognition, this need will no longer shake us.
Rather, it becomes a driving force in life and helps us grow.
Everyone has a need for recognition, and it is absolutely necessary.
However, both the effort to do well and the desire to be recognized can be toxic if excessive.
This book will help those who are addicted to recognition and are swayed by the desire for recognition to live healthily as 'themselves' rather than as 'others'.
The hidden true heart that everyone has but no one finds
All humans try to confirm their own value through the evaluation of others.
At work, I want to be a capable person who does a good job, at school, I want to be a model student who studies well and has good relationships with my classmates, and to my friends, I want to be a person who has a good personality and is easygoing.
What is the true desire for validation from others? We desire to be acknowledged.
Some advise against basing your self-worth on the opinions of others, but the desire to be recognized by others is a fundamental psychological need for human survival.
In psychology, it is said that everyone has a desire to be recognized by others, and that it is not necessarily bad or wrong, and that being recognized by others is a mechanism that proves one's reason for existence and even creates goals and a driving force in life.
There is also an analysis that a significant portion of the suffering that humans experience in life is due to a lack of desire to be recognized.
This 'need for recognition', the desire to be recognized by others, is important to any human being who lives in relationships.
“I want to be recognized.
“More, more, more often than now!”
People who are addicted to recognition and driven by a desire for recognition
According to the 'hierarchy of needs' by psychologist Abraham Maslow, who developed a theory of motivation that moves humans, the highest level of basic human needs is the need for recognition.
Because people with low self-esteem have a strong need for recognition, they think that the need for recognition is something they 'should throw away' or 'something they shouldn't have', but this is completely wrong.
The need for recognition is one of the basic human needs and is a need that cannot and should not be abandoned.
Although we may not be aware of it, we have been growing up since childhood, challenging ourselves and working hard in various ways to be recognized.
At school, we study harder with the sole purpose of getting good grades and being praised, and at work, we work hard to be evaluated as a competent person.
And these efforts ultimately help us grow.
Such behaviors that stem from a need for recognition are absolutely necessary if you want to grow.
But just as all desires can be harmful when excessive, so too can the desire for recognition.
The negative view of the need for recognition, which is a basic need and the foundation of success, is ultimately due to those who are swayed by the need for recognition.
Those who are so driven by the need for recognition that they become addicted to it are very sensitive to the evaluations of others, are very concerned about what others think, are easily elated or depressed by the reactions of others, and become frustrated and depressed when they do not receive the response they expected.
Recently, as more and more people become obsessed with 'how others see me' due to social media, the problem of those addicted to approval is becoming more severe.
“I am a recognition addict.”
A User's Manual for the Need for Recognition: Only by Recognizing It Can It Be Yours
When the desire to be “recognized by someone” or “look like a good person” becomes too strong, people end up suffering.
What should we do if we're suffering from a need for recognition? The answer is surprisingly simple.
All you have to do is accept that you are being swayed by your need for recognition and find a way to properly satisfy it.
This book explains in detail why we are swayed by the need for recognition, while at the same time suggesting ways to use the need for recognition positively without being swayed by it.
If we can properly satisfy our need for self-recognition, this need will no longer shake us.
Rather, it becomes a driving force in life and helps us grow.
Everyone has a need for recognition, and it is absolutely necessary.
However, both the effort to do well and the desire to be recognized can be toxic if excessive.
This book will help those who are addicted to recognition and are swayed by the desire for recognition to live healthily as 'themselves' rather than as 'others'.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: July 10, 2023
- Page count, weight, size: 252 pages | 278g | 128*188*15mm
- ISBN13: 9791190299923
- ISBN10: 1190299925
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