prolog
Can we be free from jealousy?

Chapter 1.
What is jealousy?

01 What is jealousy?
Jealousy exists anytime, anywhere.
The thousand faces of jealousy
ㆍWhat are you jealous of?
02 Background of Jealousy
ㆍFactors that trigger jealousy
The Two Faces of Jealousy, Janus
If you don't compare, you won't be jealous.
03 Who is the object of jealousy?
ㆍDoes jealousy make the economy go round?
Jealousy happens close to home.
ㆍThere is something else we are jealous of.
ㆍThe boundary of jealousy
ㆍOn the joy and burden of being the object of jealousy
ㆍThe little hypocrisy hidden within me
The illusion that others' jealousy is social acceptance

Chapter 2.
How does jealousy manifest itself?

01 What are the cultural roots and meaning of jealousy?
Old ideas about jealousy
Jealousy is stigmatized in all religions
Jealousy in fairy tales
Jealousy from a psychological perspective
02 Do men and women get jealous in different ways?
03 What follows jealousy?
ㆍA nagging feeling of joy at the misfortune of others
ㆍRevenge
Cynicism
Greed
04 The Difference Between Jealousy and Envy
05 The Dilemma of Justice

Chapter 3.
Honest Questions About Jealousy

01.
How generous are we to others?
Jealousy Test

Chapter 4.
What are the causes and effects of jealousy?

01.
Jealousy: Innate or Acquired?
Jealousy is an instinct
ㆍThe movie in my head and the director
'I-consciousness' vs. 'we-consciousness'
The tragedy of jealousy
02 Comparisons that arouse jealousy
ㆍWhat happens when you compare
The ping-pong game between the ideal self and the real self
03 How does our body react to jealousy?
Jealousy and the Brain
Jealousy is stressful
ㆍLanguage of the internal organs of the body
04.
Common strategies for overcoming jealousy
ㆍ“I won’t ruin your good mood”
“I will overcome my inferiority complex through you.”
ㆍ“It’s not me.
That person did it.”
ㆍ“I won’t look at you anymore”
05.
Jealousy, the driving force behind action
ㆍThe message jealousy sends to you

Chapter 5.
How can jealousy be a positive force?

01.
Admit to jealousy
All emotions are important to us.
ㆍDetecting jealousy
Recognize jealousy
The hidden meaning of jealousy
ㆍWhat happens in our heads
ㆍSee the full picture
ㆍSometimes the price is too high
ㆍThe right attitude toward comparison
ㆍIs it okay to confess my jealousy?
02.
Changing attitudes and value systems
Discovering your value system
ㆍThe value system is relative.
ㆍCarousel of thoughts and emotions
ㆍThe topic of depressive jealousy: self-doubt
ㆍThe topic of hostile jealousy: anger
ㆍThe topic of admiration-type jealousy: self-acknowledgement
Breaking down self-destructive thoughts
Resistance is normal.
03.
Learning from role models
ㆍEstimate
Role models and role play
Role play as creativity

Chapter 6.
Eliminate jealousy and increase joy

01.
What do you need to be happy?
ㆍA perspective on one's own life
What's Hiding Behind Jealousy
ㆍMaybe it's a longing
ㆍA little closer to your true desires
A new perspective for a creative life
ㆍKnowing when to stop
02.
The Key to Overcoming Jealousy: Self-Acceptance
Changing self-image
ㆍEstablish your own evaluation criteria
03.
Making peace with your weaknesses and limitations
ㆍAnger, sadness, fear
ㆍLeave the scar as is
04.
Let go of frustration, resentment, and disappointment
ㆍFreedom from resentment
ㆍWhy does forgiveness make us free?

Chapter 7 My Own Path

01.
Recognize and strengthen your abilities and potential
ㆍSuccess List
Discovering personality emotions and traits
ㆍReview your professional skills
ㆍExternal perspective
ㆍStrengthen your strengths
02.
Setting goals
Finding a goal that creates happiness
ㆍDiscover your own goals
ㆍVisually visualize your goals
03.
Moving towards happiness, peace, and contentment
ㆍA brief map leading to the destination
ㆍ From notebook to success record book

A look at the real 'desire' hidden behind the mask of jealousy.

Today, social media is showing serious side effects beyond its nature as a medium for self-disclosure.
A prime example is the lives of others, who enter our lives unprepared. The overflowing "bragging" on social media transforms even simple envy into fervent desire, fueling consumption and awakening dormant desires.
The act of interfering with other people's lives means that you are not satisfied with your current self.
This book objectively illuminates the envy of others' lives and serves as a bridge to connect with our own inner deficiencies.
In doing so, it helps each person to free themselves from jealousy in their own way and increase their satisfaction in life.
Only when we stop confusing our own satisfaction with the needs of others, and break free from the idea that we must have everything others have, will we truly encounter freedom.

How did we end up getting so addicted to social media that we even end up with mental illness?

SNS is a public diary.
This is a post that is uploaded with the awareness that someone is watching.
A private diary is one where you can show yourself without hiding anything, but a public diary needs to be decorated.
Showing off, boasting, and pretense are rampant.
These days, things that we wouldn't have known about unless we saw them in person are so easily spread through social media.
In the hectic pace of modern life, the desire to connect with others often leads to comparisons, leaving only jealousy. There's no denying that social media serves as a forum for communication.
Nevertheless, the invasion of privacy and the so-called cafe depression (mental illness caused by SNS such as Kakao Story, Facebook, and Instagram) caused by SNS are serious.
This book contains the hidden desires within us that are revealed through jealousy.
It removes a layer of negative image surrounding jealousy.
And then we talk seriously about what we need to see through jealousy.

Jealousy, not because you don't have what you want
It happens because you don't know what you really want!

The author provides various perspectives, including people's common perceptions and definitions of jealousy, as well as theories and popular beliefs about jealousy that have been passed down since ancient times.
Broadens your understanding of jealousy and reveals long-held misconceptions and truths about it.
Jealousy usually has an inherent inferiority complex.
That is why, although the form in which jealousy is expressed varies from person to person, the commonality is that it is ‘taboo’.
In our society, there is a deep-rooted belief that 'if you are jealous, you lose.'
The moment you admit to jealousy, you have to accept inferiority or defeat.
Maybe that's why.
When people feel jealous, they try to suppress it or ignore it.
Hide your jealousy by belittling or mocking the other person.

It is natural for people to feel envious and jealous when they witness the dazzling achievements of others.
If you ignore jealousy as a feeling that simply makes you feel uncomfortable, it will only cause more trouble.
The author argues that our 'desires' are projected into jealousy.
It is said that there are two types of jealousy: 'black jealousy' and 'white jealousy'.
In the former case, the destructive energy is considerable.
They belittle the object of their jealousy and make it so that others cannot have what they do not have.
The latter acts as an energy of self-development and positivity.
It has a lasting impact on life in the form of motivation.
Here is also the principle of using jealousy as a positive force.

People are jealous not because they don't have what they want, but because they don't know what they really want.
When you don't have a strong desire within yourself, you have no choice but to live a life according to the desires of others.
The author argues that a slim body, attractive appearance, good education, and high salary should be viewed as values ​​and standards accepted by society, not as personal desires.
They argue that these standards create comparisons and force people to constantly do things to reach a certain level.

How can jealousy be a positive force?

Jealousy cannot be eliminated simply because it has impure and destructive aspects.
Even if you live in the mountains, it is human nature to imagine and be jealous of those who live outside.
So how should we deal with the feeling of jealousy?
The book presents universal examples of real-life jealousy, allowing readers to connect with it.
Trying to look at the phenomenon that arises from jealousy objectively is effective in controlling jealousy that strikes unexpectedly.
Tests that diagnose your jealousy type and questions related to each topic can help reveal the true face of jealousy.

In a society that values ​​results, it may sound like a cliché to focus on the process, but it can be quite helpful in alleviating jealousy.
Most of the stories that actually appear on social media only contain results.
The process is omitted in it.
There are only stories of achievements, such as successfully dieting or getting a good job.
The desperation of having to endure even when food was right in front of them, and the effort of losing sleep to survive the job war are not visible.
If you think about whether it is worth enduring such efforts to obtain it, your jealousy will be greatly alleviated.

Most people's desired life styles are similar.
It is everyone's wish to live well without any troubles.
In a similar vein, looking at the desires of individuals can reveal a cross-section of society.
What kind of society do we live in?
Let's take a closer look at what we see in the mirror right now, thinking that it reflects the current state of our society.
I wonder what your true face is, hidden by jealousy.