“A tree in summer needs a little rain,
“Trees in winter need sunlight.”

A new parenting paradigm that combines astrology and psychiatry

'Why is my child so distracted?', 'Why is he so stubborn and makes things difficult for me?' When raising a child, it's natural to feel overwhelmed.
Even if you just want them to grow up healthy, you may lose your way and not know how to guide and lead them.
Is there really no way to raise a child that doesn't hurt the child or tire me out?

If you've ever worried about your child's future because they're too distracted or, on the contrary, too reserved and passive, you should first consider whether you're adopting a parenting style that runs counter to their natural temperament.
Because there is no guarantee that parenting methods that are good for another child will be good for my child.
Just as when growing a tree, if there is too much sunlight, it will dry out, and if there is too much water, the roots will rot, so too can things that others say are good for your child.


Dr. Yang Chang-soon, a psychiatrist who has studied astrology in depth, says that most parenting problems 'come from parents not properly understanding their children.'
We are already diagnosing my child through various tests and contents.
However, before understanding the child's current psychological state, it is necessary to go through the process of finding out what characteristics my child was born with.
It is important to first understand the temperament that underlies all of a child's behavior.
In this book, the author advises that if you use fortune telling to understand your child's innate temperament and psychiatry to understand your child's current condition, you will be able to understand your child in a more three-dimensional way.
Let's utilize these two disciplines together to uncover our child's unique characteristics and shining strengths.

I believe that astrology and psychiatry are complementary disciplines.
As we go through life, there are times when we wonder why we feel this way or why our children act this way.
If you continue to worry without resolving that question, your insides will inevitably become rotten.
Sometimes, the feeling of blaming someone just grows bigger.
To avoid this, we need to clearly understand ourselves and our children.
If we examine the macroscopic reasons from astrological perspective and the specific causes from a psychiatric perspective, the troubling questions we have will be answered.

---From "Chapter 1: We Can't Choose Each Other, But We Can Make Each Other Happy"

Astrology is also called 'fate-telling'.
It is also called ‘Saju Chumyeonghak (四柱推命學)’, which literally means inferring the principles of one’s life given from heaven using one’s four pillars of destiny.
The Chinese character for fate is also very interesting if you know it.
The luck of moving, the fate of life.
There is nothing in this world that does not change.
The same goes for our lives.
From the day we are born until the day we die, we go through a process of constant change.
It's lucky that I recorded that change.
In other words, luck means that as living beings, we live a life that changes at every moment.
And no one's life flows the same way.
That's fate.
---From "Chapter 1: We Can't Choose Each Other, But We Can Make Each Other Happy"

When I consult with parents, many complain that they are doing their best for their children, but their children do not recognize it.
However, it is difficult for children to know what their parents' current social situation is.
So I don't understand why my parents fight every day and say it's hard.
Living in the same space without understanding each other like that, they are in a very complex relationship where trivial habits, personality traits, and actions that would not be a problem to other people affect each other.
---From "Chapter 2: Relationships with Children That Are Difficult No Matter How Hard You Try"

There are times when parents easily use expressions like 'a guy who is worse than his older brother' or 'a guy who is worse than his younger brother' within the home.
But just by looking at the flow of the five elements, we can see that this is not the case.
Such words only fuel your child's competitive spirit and jealousy.
In such cases, it is better to educate them in a way that fosters independence, self-esteem, and subjectivity, which are the strengths of cowardice.
In human relationships, it is also necessary to help people have a win-win spirit rather than a competitive spirit.
---From "Chapter 3: Facing My Child's Innate Temperament"

Being smart and good at studying and being able to handle money properly are two different things.
Therefore, if your child's fortune is not clear or is weak, you must have them study economics.
Otherwise, you are more likely to start your own business rashly and get bad results.
Even if there is a lot of money at home, it is difficult for children to keep it until later in life.
Because wealth can sometimes cause problems in interpersonal relationships or social life, parents need to be more aware of their children's financial capabilities.
---From "Chapter 4: There is a path that is just right for my child"

Raising children is not easy for anyone.
Even if a couple discusses together how to care for and educate their child, they are likely to get lost.
This is because couples have different values ​​and upbringings, and their perspectives on children may also differ.
Therefore, it is necessary to be careful not to let the child feel confused during this period.
I believe that if you use fortune telling to determine your child's temperament, difficulties within the family will be reduced.
If a couple understands the child's overall characteristics together, it will be of great help in aligning the parenting direction.
---From "Chapter 5: Helping Children Fulfill Their Potential"

Every time I meet such parents in my practice, I think about the light and shadow of the parenting role.
Even if a leaf has a front side that shines in the sunlight, it will cast a shadow on its back side.
Isn't the true role of parenting like the shadow on the back of this leaf?
Helping the child shine on his own from behind, and furthermore, watching over him to see that his shining was the result of his own choices and efforts.
I think that is what a true parent's role is.

---From "Chapter 5: Helping Children Fulfill Their Potential"