“An anxious mother intervenes in every little thing,
A wise mother waits and keeps her distance!”

* 33 years of field experience as an elementary school teacher, vice principal, superintendent, and principal
* Warm parenting and educational know-how from a current principal respected by many teachers

There is something that all elementary school mothers worry about.
“How much should I intervene in my child’s every move?” I sent my child to school, but I keep finding myself reaching out for help.
'But since he's an elementary school student, he'll probably be a little less involved,' I thought, but lo and behold, a mother's day is busier than her child's because her child requires more intervention and involvement, such as homework, preparing supplies, making friends, studying, and preparing for diagnostic tests.

The author has worked in elementary schools for 33 years and has seen countless mothers who cannot keep their distance from their children.
Mothers are so worried that their children might make mistakes that they interfere in every little thing about their children's day.
But if the mother does everything without any shortcomings, the child becomes helpless.
Also, if you do things for your child to choose and decide for them, they will not develop self-esteem and will grow up feeling unhappy.
Even when intervening, mothers must maintain boundaries, give their children autonomy, help them think and move forward on their own, and intervene intelligently.
The author clearly presents the boundaries in this book.
We would like to suggest specific methods for mothers who still live with their children, in terms of emotions, learning, and capabilities, to help them regain their time and become more free in their relationships.
I hope that through this book, mothers and children in Korea can grow up happily in their own respective positions.

A wise mother does not interfere too much in her child's life, but helps her children dream of a better future and live accordingly.
If a mother does not keep a straight line and intervenes excessively with her child, the child will become helpless and pessimistic without even having the opportunity to develop his or her potential.
At times like this, the child develops feelings of distrust and anxiety about himself.
Rather than just pushing them to do it, you need to help them feel motivated to do it.

--- p.27

A child is a separate entity that no one can own.
Acknowledging a child's independent life changes the daily lives of both mother and child.
When a child feels that his mother gives him what he wants, he feels this as attention and love.
When mothers empower their children to freely carve out their own paths in life, they can find true happiness and bravely navigate the long road of life.

--- p.72

The smartest intervention a mother can make is to continuously observe her child closely so that the child can find his or her true self and form a positive self-concept, and to encourage the child to draw out his or her untapped inner potential.

--- p.102

By effectively utilizing their strengths and transferring them to other areas, children will develop a higher level of competence and confidence.
Children who have developed their strengths like Seojun have a high level of confidence in school and society.
Even in peer groups, they naturally take on a leadership role.
A child who excels in a certain field will have many friends around him.
Children who develop leadership skills by using their strengths to provide joy and help to their friends also do well in school.
This is because the success experiences we have accumulated over time create internal motivation.

--- p.114

Show your interest when your child is working on a task, but don't do it for them. Wait for them to ask for help when they are struggling.
You can create an atmosphere where discussion is possible without giving answers.
Give them the opportunity to think and research for themselves, but never do it for them.
Suggest that we also look for study methods together.
Instead, I hope you will make good use of static reinforcement and negative reinforcement methods.

--- p.205

The relationship between a mother and her homeroom teacher is a very precious bond that centers around the child.
When we give and receive positive energy from each other, that energy is passed on to our children.
The virtuous cycle continues.
I have a parent with whom I have been in contact for over 20 years.
Beyond the relationship between teacher and parent, we are continuing a valuable relationship where we learn from each other's lifestyles.
I think maintaining a good relationship with your child's homeroom teacher is the first step toward providing your child with psychological stability and positive energy.

--- p.221

Mothers who have set their standards straight are not easily shaken.
Also, I don't get anxious easily.
Your child may be struggling, wandering, and suffering right now, but all of this is just trial and error that comes with growing up.
If a mother has standards and looks at her child with faith, the child will gradually find his or her place.
Even though the journey to finding a happy life may be difficult, painful, and agonizing, you will learn to enjoy the process.

--- p.251