The most frustrating thing for new parents is not knowing why their child is crying or what the crying means.
Although each child is different, I have summarized the types of crying based on my experience and the stories of mothers I have met, so I hope you find it helpful.

① Crying with eyes closed and opened
This is a type of crying that is mainly seen when falling asleep.
Cry in a dry, medium-toned voice without any change in facial expression or tears.
When a child cries like this, you must first create an environment where the child can fall asleep.
Make the surroundings quiet and cozy, then pat the back to soothe them.


② Crying with eyes open and mouth open
It's a common cry of hunger.
At this time, if you put your hand near the child's mouth, the child will immediately turn his head and look at your hand or pretend to suck it.
First, check the previous feeding time.
If 2-3 hours have passed since your baby last fed, you should feed him again.

③ Sudden crying
When a child cries because he or she is sleepy or hungry, there are signs that he or she does not play well or behaves quietly before that.
If your child is laughing and playing actively and then suddenly starts crying, check his diaper.
Even if I'm having fun, if I feel something unpleasant in my lower body, I start crying right away.


④ Crying loudly but without tears
When a baby cries for its mother, the sound is usually loud.
There are no tears and the facial expression does not change much.
If your child cries loudly without tears, it's likely not because they're hungry or have a wet diaper, but rather because they're saying, "Please hold me more" or "I want to play."

---From "I don't know why the child is crying"

There are many reasons for infiltration.
First of all, children do not know that after they sleep, today passes and tomorrow comes.
When sleep comes, the senses become dull and the child cannot see or feel the mother well, and the child thinks that this means being separated from the mother.
It can't be helped because the concept of 'tomorrow' hasn't been established yet and the mother doesn't feel it.
Because falling asleep causes great anxiety to the child, the child struggles to stay awake.


If you force your child to sleep at this time or get annoyed, the child will think, 'Is Mom really trying to tear me away?' or 'Is Mom hating me?'
In times like these, you must first reassure the child.
In the old days, grandmothers would sing lullabies in soft voices to their young grandchildren when putting them to sleep.
Again, without getting angry or annoyed, I patted the child on the back and waited patiently for the child to fall asleep.
Please hug and comfort your child so that he or she can feel that his or her mother is with him or her while thinking about that image.

---From "The infiltration is too severe"

Everyone wants their child to have a gentle temperament.
But on average, one in ten children is born with a difficult temperament.
Children with difficult temperaments are difficult to soothe and do not sleep deeply, causing trouble for their parents from the time they are newborns.
However, if parents take these temperaments into consideration and treat their children with care, their children can grow up to have stable personalities.


No matter how difficult it may be to deal with your child's difficult temperament, you should not blame him or her.
Would you want to be born with a difficult temperament? The person who suffers the most from a difficult temperament is the child themselves.
I can't easily overcome even small stimuli, I can't eat well, and I can't sleep well either.
If parents, who should be protecting and loving their children, scold and get angry at them, the child will inevitably be hurt.


To prevent a child's sensitive temperament from manifesting as protrusive behavior, the child should not be exposed to too many unfamiliar stimuli.
Even children with a sensitive temperament will begin to adapt to the world through tricks as their brains grow and their intelligence and cognitive abilities improve over time.
So, until then, we must protect the child and wait.
This means that you should pursue change, but give your child time to adapt.
This can be very difficult for parents with impatient temperaments, but when raising a difficult child, remember that there is no better way than patience.

---From "My child is so picky and sensitive, I'm going crazy"

When a child is around 7 to 9 months old, he or she begins to notice other people's facial expressions and begin to recognize emotions such as happiness or sadness and imitate their actions.
The representative games of this period are ‘Dori Dori’, ‘Jjak Jjak Kkung’, and ‘Jam Jam’.
For example, if a mother repeatedly shows her child the 'dori dori' movement, the baby will soon imitate the movement.
Regarding this, Harvard University professor Felix Warneken emphasized the importance of imitation, saying, “Humans are not born with all the abilities necessary for survival, so they try to learn social learning such as imitation.”
In other words, children's imitation is a human instinct to learn and acquire things for survival.


Therefore, if your child does not respond much when playing peek-a-boo, or if he or she only plays briefly without making eye contact and then quickly stops, there is a problem.
It is necessary to suspect social development problems such as autism spectrum disorder, emotional development problems such as attachment disorder, and anxiety disorder.
In such cases, try playing peek-a-boo with your child by covering their eyes with a towel and then taking it off, and practice exchanging emotions through eye contact.
If there is still no response, this can be considered a warning sign.

---From "My child doesn't respond much to 'peek-a-boo'"