What is the most important first requirement for success in various interpersonal relationships? Those who have already achieved great success unanimously say that the first factor is communication skills.
Timely and skillful words have the power to heal, bring about happy results, and even transform lives.
There is vitality in ‘speech’.
A single word has the power to change our lives, and our future is determined by our words.
Therefore, we must have the quality of language that guides our lives.

Just as a large ship has a small rudder to steer it, and a car has a small steering wheel to steer it, our lives are governed by our tongues.
Readers, if you control your tongue three inches by following the examples of golden words presented in this book, you will change your life and be guaranteed a successful and happy life.

Even when things are bad and the situation is bad, we can say positive things like, “It’s going to be okay,” “It’ll get better,” and “You can do it.”
You can do it.
When we say something like, “Let’s do it,” those words come true in our lives.
Because the power of words follows those words.
It turns as if it were a handle.
In fact, saying “You are such a good person” may seem simple, but it gives great strength, comfort, and hope to the other person.
There are countless words we can use to comfort others with such simple words.

The words “You worked hard!” wash away all the fatigue.
The words “Well done!” give great courage to the other person.

The words “Thank you!” give me new strength.
The words “I love you!” give even greater hope.


When we say these words, we ourselves also receive the same joy and comfort.
If we want to live a happy and successful life, we must first change our words.
Even if you are unhappy or sad, if you say, “I am happy,” or “I am joyful,” those words can change the mood.

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Words also affect physical health.
So, just hearing or thinking about a single positive word can energize people, make them smile, and give them an abundance of energy.
On the other hand, just thinking about negative words can make people anxious or angry and darken the mood.
Let us pay attention to the following questions and think deeply about them.

What's the #1 reason people get divorced? [Personality differences, verbal abuse]
What's the number one cause of war, fighting, strife, division, and conflict? [Speech]
What's the #1 factor directly affecting cancer? [Stress]

The National Institute on Aging has published research showing that speaking also affects physical health.
We examined the reactions of elderly people over 60 years of age when they were told words with conflicting meanings.
First, the physical reactions of the elderly were observed by saying things like, “Grandpa, you’re so old!”, “Oh my, you’re so old now!”, and “slow, old, withered, old-fashioned”, which meant that the elderly were old and had no memory.
As a result, he showed very unpleasant reactions, both physically and psychologically.
My blood pressure rose, my skin became flushed and blue, and I often became nervous.
Therefore, we discovered that the aging process is accelerating.
This time, when they were told the opposite, such as “You are so thoughtful,” “You are so wise!”, “Your skin is so beautiful!”, “You are healthy,” and “You are kind, courageous, cultured, discerning, and experienced,” their aging process slowed down, their blood pressure and heart rate stabilized, and they lived longer.

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