Prologue: The Best Psychological Legacy Parents Give Their Children: Self-Esteem and Sociality

Part 1.
Two strengths of a child who eventually succeeds

“I don’t know why my child is like this.”
- 'Is it my fault that I'm ruining my child?'
- I raised him with all my heart, so why is he showing behavioral problems?
- Signs of self-esteem and social crisis

A child who is timid and has low self-esteem
- Three things a child with high self-esteem has
- The child as seen by the mother, the child as seen by me
- A child with high self-esteem, not pride
- Self-esteem changes with praise given when there is no problem.
- Techniques for praising children according to their developmental stage

A child who keeps having problems with friends
- Two basic principles of social development
- Restoring the relationship between parents and children comes first.
- Seoyoon's social skills improved through the experience of safe interaction.

Special Solution 1.
The Beginning of Positive Change: Psychological Reading through Picture Books
- The effects of psychological reading through picture books that change the brain, mind, and behavior
- Eunchan's story
- How you read is more important than what you read.

Part 2.
Laying the foundation for self-esteem and sociality

The three axes that form the basis of self-esteem and sociality
- Three things to look for when problem behavior is displayed
- Emotions and a comfortable mind are the beginning of all change.
- Don't try to fix your temperament, but develop it into a strength.
- Cognitive, the fundamental skill of a child to interact smoothly anywhere

Three Pillars of Parenting That Support Children's Self-Esteem and Sociality
- Parental Needs: Examine Your Parenting Style
- Parental self-esteem: Influences parenting stress
- Parenting Beliefs: Change negative thoughts about your child into constructive thoughts.

Special Solution 2.
Picture Book Psychological Reading for Moms and Dads
- A psychological reading of picture books that care for a mother's heart
- A picture book psychological reading that cares for a father's heart
- Parental wisdom learned from picture books

Part 3.
Self-esteem, the power of the mind that moves forward

The three best legacies to protect your child for life: cultivating self-esteem.
- The three most important self-esteem factors in early childhood
Body self-esteem: A child who is not intimidated by their physical abilities and appearance.
Emotional self-esteem: A child who loves, believes in, and cares for himself.
Cognitive Self-Esteem: A Child Who Enjoys Learning and Thinking

Four Parenting Habits That Strengthen Your Child's Self-Esteem
Surprising Problems That Hurt Your Child's Self-Esteem
Parents' emotional habits: cheerfulness, kindness, gratitude
Parental Thinking Habits: Curiosity, Acceptance, and Positive Intention
Parents' behavioral habits: good marital relationships, manners, laughter
Parents' conversation habits: Consensual conversation, no double messaging, conversation in comfortable situations

Special Solution 3.
Psychological Reading: Picture Books That Will Boost Your Self-Esteem
- Psychological reading conversation method to develop a strong inner self
Picture book psychological reading to boost body self-esteem
Psychological reading: Picture books that foster emotional self-esteem
Psychological reading of picture books that boost cognitive self-esteem
Psychological reading: Picture books that help you develop the strength to live your own way

Part 4.
Sociality: A Key to a Happy Child Anywhere

Does our child have the three conditions for sociality?
Social issues in children that teachers worry about
The first step to communicating with the world: self-expression.

The power to lead smooth relationships, the ability to empathize
The secret to a child's ability to adapt well anywhere: social cognitive ability.

Four Tips for Parents to Help Their Children Develop Social Skills
- Attachment restoration is essential before developing social skills.
Wisdom in Utilizing the Stages of Friendship
Wisdom for developing everyday social skills
Wisdom for developing learning-related social skills
The Wisdom of Conversation for Solving Friendship Problems
※ A letter to parents concerned about their child's social skills.

Special Solution 4.
Five Psychological Reading Methods to Boost Your Social Skills
- Picture book cover dialogue that develops social cognitive skills
Picture book psychological reading that fosters the concept of healthy friendships
Psychological Reading: Picture Books to Heal Friends' Wounds
Psychological Reading: Picture Books That Teach Social Skills
Picture book psychological reading that develops learning-related social skills

Appendix 1: Daily Picture Book Psychological Reading Scenarios to Develop Self-Esteem and Social Skills
Appendix 2: Recommended Picture Books for Children and Parents

The power that moves a child forward, self-esteem!
The best inheritance parents can give us: physical self-esteem, emotional self-esteem, and cognitive self-esteem.
A Parenting Habit Reset Program to Strengthen Your Child's Self-Esteem

This book focuses on the three core self-esteems in early childhood development: physical self-esteem, emotional self-esteem, and cognitive self-esteem. It introduces ways to foster these three self-esteems in everyday life.
Body self-esteem is the feeling of valuing and caring for one's body, appearance, and physical abilities.
The trigger for young children to develop overall satisfaction with their appearance, and to think, "I'm good at it," and strive to improve at physical abilities like spoon-feeding or drawing, comes when they receive positive feedback from those close to them, such as their parents and teachers.
If parents worry about their child's appearance or praise them excessively at this time, or point out their mistakes and do their work for them, their child's physical self-esteem will not develop properly.
Self-esteem about physical abilities is especially important during the toddler years when children are constantly trying and learning new things, so it is a key factor in determining whether a child will grow up to be a person who consistently tries things or a child who avoids things even when they seem slightly difficult.
This book details effective feedback that fosters a child's physical self-esteem.

Emotional self-esteem is the belief that you are worthy, competent, and capable of handling difficult emotions.
Through this emotional self-esteem, children gain the power to love and care for themselves.
This book provides parents with the appropriate attitude and conversation methods to use in problematic situations where their children are irritable and unable to control their emotions.
The author points out a common misconception about the importance of empathy, warning that if we simply read a child's mind in a problematic situation by saying, "I'm sorry you lost your toy," we risk causing the child to become even more deeply immersed in his or her own emotions.
This book explains, using detailed situational examples and dialogue, how to help children quickly overcome uncomfortable emotions, develop self-regulation, self-competence, and problem-solving skills, and help them build strong emotional self-esteem.
Cognitive self-esteem is the belief that one enjoys learning various knowledge and is able to think and reason logically.
An interesting point is that it introduces the use of 'positive illusions' as a way to increase cognitive self-esteem in children during infancy and academic performance and academic satisfaction in adolescence.
Positive illusions are positive beliefs that you are doing well now and will continue to do well in the future. It is said that the more you think you are bad at cognitive skills related to learning, such as math, Korean, and English, the more you will dislike doing them.
Therefore, even if a child shows some immaturity in performing a task, it is important for parents to consistently encourage and praise the child so that the child can develop a positive illusion that he or she is doing well on his or her own, and to provide an opportunity for the child to challenge himself or herself and make an effort even in difficult tasks.
Most parents try to build their children's self-esteem, but these efforts often pale in comparison to the actions they unintentionally take in their children's self-esteem.
This book introduces various habit re-establishment programs, such as parents looking back on their own emotions, thoughts, behaviors, and conversation habits, and how to help children have comfortable background emotions with pleasant emotional habits, thinking habits that accept children's behaviors and feelings that are different from parents' expectations, behavioral habits that treat children with manners and warmth like the child next door, and conversational habits that support children's desirable behaviors in non-problematic situations.

The condition for a happy child anywhere: sociality!
The three conditions of sociality: self-expression, empathy, and social cognition.
The optimal parenting solution for nurturing your child's social skills.

When we look at cases of children who have difficulty developing social skills, three commonalities emerge.
They lack self-expression skills, which are the ability to honestly express their thoughts and feelings; empathy, which is the ability to understand and respond appropriately to the feelings of friends; and social cognition, which is the ability to read social contexts such as classroom situations or rules in public places and act accordingly.
These three abilities, which are the roots of social development, are abilities that parents must take care to develop even before their children enter daycare or kindergarten.
However, in order to develop these three abilities, two basic principles must take priority.
First, it is important to raise children according to their temperamental characteristics. Second, it is important for parents to smile warmly at their children, teach them, support their attempts, and lead them to various experiences so that they can develop stable social emotions that allow them to trust people and the world.

However, parents are worried that their child's temperament, such as being difficult and sensitive, slow and timid, will lead to a lack of social skills, and they try to correct such temperaments in any way possible.
The author emphasizes that regardless of a child's temperamental characteristics, every temperament is a child's unique strength and potential.
If you understand your child's innate temperament and provide appropriate parenting, your child can develop self-esteem and social skills that are unique to him or her.
And to help you properly understand what kind of child your child is, we introduce four types of temperament and five types of needs based on how they react to surrounding stimuli, and suggest appropriate parenting methods to help you establish an effective parenting strategy that suits your child's temperament characteristics.
Based on the second principle, when a child has a social problem, the first thing parents should do is to examine the child's level of attachment and restore the relationship between the child and the parents.
This book provides three solutions to help children regain secure attachment and develop social skills.
First, it introduces ways for parents to be sensitive to and respond to their children's emotions in daily life, and second, it introduces techniques to help children mature by maintaining a non-punitive parenting attitude, empathizing with their difficult emotions, but firmly teaching them the rules of behavior that must be followed.
And finally, we will teach you the attitude and conversation methods of parents to serve as a psychological safety base for their children.

For a child's social development to be successful, parents must also make an effort to teach them social skills, which are the foundational competencies.
Social skills are the skills needed to get along well with others and interact positively. These skills include communication skills, helping friends, resolving conflicts, following rules, and cooperating and discussing with others.
This book selects social skills that are essential for a child's social development and provides guidelines for parents to teach them appropriately to their children.

In addition to interpersonal skills, social skills also include learning-related social skills.
Learning-related social skills include concepts such as cooperation to work with other children, assertiveness to express one's opinions appropriately, self-regulation to appropriately manage emotions in conflict situations, responsibility for assigned tasks, and task performance ability to concentrate and complete tasks or activities on one's own.
Parents who expected that their children would naturally develop social skills if they played well with friends when they were young sometimes become puzzled when they see their children being distracted in class and having problems with their friends after entering elementary school.
The author notes that a common characteristic among children who exhibit this behavior is a lack of social skills related to learning.
We also provide a checklist to help you check whether your child's learning-related social skills are developing well, and introduce specific methods to develop learning-related social skills.
Since all learning-related activities are based on repetition, this book introduces various examples of how to help children become interested in repetitive activities for mastery, how to provide opportunities for children to confidently assert themselves in everyday life such as getting dressed, playing, and reading, and how to help them successfully self-regulate when performing difficult tasks.

In addition, it helps readers to respond to their children's social issues from various angles by providing methods to help children make friends naturally when they enter daycare or kindergarten by utilizing the six stages of friendship in infancy, conversation guidelines to heal the minds of children struggling with friend issues, and help children deal more flexibly with problem situations.