I must change the world inside me first.
Become a person who can fill the needs of the world!
Nine present adverbial verbs that shape character and personality, leading to change in everyone.

Practicing: Being True to Every Moment of Life, Beginning and Ending
Healing: Confessing My Wounds and Becoming Our Healers
Listening: Open my heart and listen to yours
Including: There is no 'us and them', there is only 'us'
Advocating: Not just 'for him', but 'with him'
Equalizing Justice: Treating people on earth as they do in heaven
Failing: Use it as a practice opportunity to correct your direction.
Celebrating: Remembering the Hope Found in Hardship
Embodiment: Embracing the World by Shaping Myself with Personality

Even if your practice of compromise and forgiveness doesn't seem to mean much now, it's a beginning to becoming a light in someone's life and will create another change.
That kind of practice is what makes the world go round.
It is the beginning and the end of the practice of change.
In particular, the practice of Christian love is not simply a matter of cultivating one's character, but rather a practice of leaving traces of love without losing light in the world.
This is a way of life that AI cannot replace.

--- p.26

Those who do not look back on themselves should think deeply about the commandments Jesus spoke of.
The Lord said, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.
And love your neighbor as yourself” (Mark 12:30-31).
But we find it difficult to love our neighbors as ourselves.
The most important reason may be that we have not experienced the Lord's love deeply.
But the more practical reason is that you hate yourself or cannot accept yourself.
Perhaps it is because we are trapped in the wounds and pain of the past.
--- p.42

Many students who major in counseling also begin their studies and become counselors while their own wounds are still unhealed.
When someone who has not healed deals with someone else's wounds, they often end up falling deeper into darkness through misguided counseling that reflects their own unrecovered life.
Sometimes that counseling just makes you more closed off.
Therefore, ‘self-healing’ is not a choice, but a path that you must walk first.
Only when you heal yourself can you stand fully before someone else's wounds.
Only by coming into the light yourself can you lead others into that light.

--- p.44

Listening is not simply hearing sounds.
True listening goes so far as to understand what the other person is saying.
The word 'understand' is a combination of 'under' and 'stand', meaning 'to look down and stand there'.
It means 'standing in'.
Listening and understanding doesn't just mean hearing the surface of a problem or situation.
It is about humbly understanding the content and meaning of what the other person is saying.
Therefore, the starting point of true listening must be an attitude of empathy from the other person's perspective.
It must be an action that goes beyond simply keeping your ears open, and demonstrates a deep willingness and effort to understand the other person.
It is not simply an attitude of looking at the surface, but an attitude of looking into the other person's hidden places, that is, underneath, and standing together with them.
--- p.067

I saw a similar message to Jenny's story in a group I met a few years ago called Stand Daddy.
The organization that cares for people with moderate disabilities practices true care and inclusion.
They work with people with disabilities who find it difficult to perform even basic tasks without someone's help, embracing each other's lives and creating a community called "Only Us."
As Jenny said, there is no 'us and them' for them, there is only 'us'.

--- p.93

When we live in the language of 'with', the world begins to change little by little.
It is not a simple act of help, but a practice of solidarity.
It is about existing together according to the love of Christ.
That is true advocacy and leadership.
It goes beyond simply solving problems for someone, towards someone, to sharing life with them.

--- p.103

God's equality is not a justice that exists 'for' people, but a justice that exists 'with' people.
That equality is not a distant ideal.
It is a realistic goal that we must gradually achieve in our daily lives.
Even if we haven't yet reached that world of equality and justice, we can take steps toward it every day.
God's justice grows in the small, sincere attitudes we take now: how we look at others, what voices we listen to, and what weak people we remember.
--- p.122

I met an American high school senior in Costa Rica.
While we were eating together at a restaurant, he taught me how to play a mobile game.
I died in the game three times in a row in less than a minute.
No matter how hard I tried to dodge the bullet, I couldn't.
It was quite a difficult game.
I felt firsthand how bad I was at the game and gave up after 5 minutes.
Then the brother looked at me intently and said:
"Pastor, you think you can get good at that game in just five minutes? I've been playing this game for three months.
After dying thousands of times, I started to understand the structure and programming of the first stage of the game.
There are over 30 basic stages in this game.
“It’s still too early to give up.”
--- p.141

When we think of spiritual disciplines, we often think of silence, fasting, prayer, and service.
These are important and traditional spiritual training methods.
They are all tools for connecting deeply with God.
But people feel that such training methods are just 'formulaic'.
It often seems disconnected from our daily lives.
But celebrations and parties help us experience God's presence in the here and now.
Celebrations and parties naturally permeate our daily lives, creating spaces where we can experience and share God's goodness.
When we rejoice and share even the smallest things, we can feel God's hand more clearly in our daily lives.
So I believe that ‘celebration’ and ‘party’ are also spiritual training.
When people hear that celebration is a part of spiritual disciplines, they are surprised and sympathetic, and they realize that celebration and joy are often overlooked in spiritual disciplines.
--- p.168

I will never forget the lesson I learned from my relationship with someone with narcissistic personality disorder.
He always insisted that he was right, and when he first came to church, he tried to control him.
At first, his confidence seemed to invigorate the community, but as time went on, cracks began to appear in the relationship.
Then an elder spoke quietly to me.
“When dealing with him, look not at his actions, but at what he fears.” Those words struck a chord in my heart.
As I tried to read the fear behind his actions, I felt compassion for him.
It looked so pitiful.
Compassion arose.
But that compassion didn't mean he accepted him unconditionally.
It means that it is expressed in a way that sets the right boundaries.

--- p.213