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Professor Oh Je-eun's Note on Self-Love
Professor Oh Je-eun's Note on Self-Love
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Book Introduction
Begin your journey to meet your most precious self with Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Note.

Childhood wounds remain as long as they are not healed.
To heal that wound, I must meet the me who is crying inside me, the wounded inner child.
Healing begins with discovering and acknowledging the unhealed wounds within us.
The place of pain, the place of suffering, the very place that caused me the most suffering is actually the place of growth where I can find the lost me and also heal myself.


This book, through the author's own vivid stories, explains the principles and methods for healing by meeting the wounded inner child, the root of suffering and the cause of problems in all human relationships, allowing them to pour out their pent-up sorrow, talking with them, and embracing them.
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Prologue: A Journey to Meet My Most Precious Self

Prologue to the 2022 Revised Edition: Healing is Remembering Who You Really Are

Self-love - Live with your heart, not your head.

The longest journey in the world
Just listening
An amazing healing experience
Wounded Healer
Son, what do you think your relationship with your mom is?
Please let me feel this person's pain in my heart.

Self-Love Note 1_Speaking with Your Eyes
Self-Love Note 2_Talking to Your Body
Self-Love Note 3_Talking to Things

Self-Love Two - Dance to the beat of my heart

Dancing Tree
Dance my own dance
I am shining
A heart-wrenching embrace of love

Self-Love Notes 4_Imaginary Journey: The World's Most Comfortable Journey
Self-Love Note 5: Finding the Obstacles Within You

Self-Love Step 3 - Remove the Obstacles Within You

Everyone has the right to hear their birth story.
There is another me inside me
Daddy! Don't cry! I'm okay now!
Roles within the family
Inner emptiness and addiction
Codependency and Relationship Problems
Not a problem child, but an angel

Self-Love Note 6_Finding Your Role

Self-Love Four - Forgive Yourself and Others

The exposed wounds are no longer painful.
45-year-old rock
The name "Father", returning home after 10 years
Forgiveness has already been granted

Self-Love Note #7_Forgiveness: The Best Gift for You
Self-Love Note 8_Wounded Inner Child Questionnaire

Self-Love Five - See God's Image in Myself

You were sick instead of me
How much are you worth?
It's okay, it's not your fault.
I'm just happy being me
The beauty is you

Self-Love Note 9: Healing Your Wounded Inner Child
Self-Love Note 10_Self-Image

Self-Love Six - Live the way you want to live.

I didn't know you were there
Meet a child being beaten
Doesn't my father love me too?
Live here and now

Self-Love Note 11_Writing a Letter to Your Parents
Self-Love Note 12_Meeting Your Inner Child
Self-Love Note 13_Healing Message
Self-Love Note 14_Write a Letter to Your Inner Child
Self-Love Note 15_Conversation with Your Inner Child

Self-Love Seven - Delight Yourself

What will you allow me to do?
Things that move me
If I had my life to live over again
The sound I hear in my chest

Self-Love Note 16_My Manifesto
Self-Love Note 17: Fulfilling Your Inner Child's Needs
Self-Love Note 18_Fence Declaration

Self-Love Eight - When I Laugh, the World Laughs

The only person who can share the pain
No need to cough or knock
Have you got that person?
If I laugh, there will be something to laugh about.

Self-Love Note 19_Do You Have That Person?
Self-Love Note 20_Smiling Practice

Self-Love Nine - Everything is a Blessing

Everything is fine
Everything went well

Self-Love Note 21_List of Touching Thoughts

Epilogue: Concluding 'The Longest Journey in the World'

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Into the book
One day, an angel appeared before a mother with a newborn baby.
---From the "first sentence"

If something like this happened to you, what would be the first thing you'd tell your child? And if you could impart just one piece of life wisdom, what would it be? If it were me, I'd say this without hesitation.
“Live with your heart, not your head.” They say the longest journey in this world is the one from your head to your heart.
Even things that we already understand in our heads and sufficiently take a long time to reach our hearts.

--- p.29~30

By listening, we can connect with each other.
Therefore, the listener must let the speaker know that he or she is listening to what he or she is saying.
The focus of listening is the person speaking.
When you listen well, the other person knows that he or she is important to you.
--- p.34

The most important thing in counseling is to listen to the voice of pain and acknowledge it.
The words a person in pain wants to hear most are, “I am here with you.”
I would do anything to ease your suffering.
That one sentence is, “You are truly a precious person.”
--- p.36

I read every book that came my way that had the word "suffering" or "pain" in it, but I couldn't find a way out of the pain that was coming on me.
But this person's perspective on pain was completely different from mine.
Suffering was neither the result of sin nor a pointless exercise of self-denial.
The place of pain was soon a place of healing and growth.

--- p.41

A counselor is someone who helps you get to the root of your problem.
Just as a mother comforts a crying baby and cares for a sick child with boundless mercy, love, and compassion, she is also a person who embraces and soothes the wounds and anger.
If we acknowledge the presence of anger and nurture it with unconditional love, its energy can be transformed into creative and positive energy.
--- p.48

The best gift you can give to someone you love is to listen to their stories.
It's about looking into that person's eyes.
Instead of staring at the television, when I look into the eyes of my family, friends, and neighbors next to me, I enter their hearts and take a seat.
As I accept the other person, he or she will also accept me.

--- p.64~65

The reason why it is difficult to find one's own strengths and weaknesses is because one is conscious of other people.
It's like living to your father's beat, not your own, not your mother's, not the world's, not other people's.
A life like that can't be happy.
A life that has lost the rhythm of the heart is a fake life.
Each of us has our own unique rhythm, given to us by God.
Dance therapy is a process of finding that rhythm.
Dancing to the beat of your own heart is like opening the door to a closed mind.
That is precisely why people who live their lives dancing to the beat of their hearts are happy.

--- p.88

Discovering the unhealed wounds within me is the beginning of healing.
All the feelings of past hurts are here now.
In that part of the wound, in that damaged state, shame is deeply rooted.
Healing begins when I meet the crying and wounded me inside me, and when I remove all the negative thoughts, painful memories, messages, guilt, and shame from within me.

--- p.113

The child learns to care for himself in the same way his parents cared for him.
How many of the needs essential for growth—being loved, being touched, being cared for—were repressed or denied as children? What was my role within the family system? Was I a clown or mascot, bridging family tensions and bringing them together, or a hero, bolstering the family's pride? Was I a surrogate spouse, fixing my parents' strained marital relationship, or a child who attracted no attention? Or a scapegoat for the family? Or a troublemaker, who made the family take care of me and ultimately unite them? Whatever role I played, it wasn't something I desired, but rather something assigned to me by the family system.

--- p.128

Our goal is not to change ourselves, but to remember who we are.
I'm just happy being me.

--- p.216

The key to healing is ‘taking good care of myself.’
It is about understanding and embracing the wounded heart of the inner child.
Rather than relying on a counselor, reparenting is about taking on the role of new parents yourself.
This means that the adult me ​​and my inner child must become the best partners and friends through conversation.

--- p.232

It was an incident I had completely forgotten about.
Yet, now, more than 20 years later, I'm back to that day, crying as a child, facing my father! Only later did I learn that this was a step in a psychotherapeutic process called "inner child therapy."
In other words, it was a process of meeting again the child within me that I had lost, the wounded inner me.

--- p.239~240

What is clear is that none of us knows how much time we have left.
Therefore, just as a caterpillar sheds its skin to become a butterfly, it is most important to break free from the chains of the past and live in the here and now.
The only obstacle standing in your way of growth is none other than yourself.
What you need to do right now is to let go of all your worries, negativity, fears, and resentment, and forgive yourself and others.

--- p.251

What will you allow yourself? It's up to you to choose.
Will you allow yourself to see yourself as a mess of problems? Will you allow yourself to wallow in pain? Will you allow yourself to despair, believing nothing is meaningful? Or will you choose to recognize that, despite your problems, they are not who you are, and rise again, even if it's just a shout of "Fighting!" for a joyful life? Will you allow yourself to look in the mirror and smile, believing that you can forget who you were yesterday and that, starting today, your life can be renewed?
--- p.284

What we need to do now is listen to the voice of our hearts.
Stop what you are doing in a hurry and stand for a moment, place both hands on your heart.
Listen to the beating of your heart.
And ask yourself this:
“Can you tell me what you want most? Then I will do my best to make it happen.”
--- p.292

Publisher's Review
★Professor Oh Je-eun, the first Asian internationally certified Imago couples therapy specialist
★President of Daybreak University, a clinically oriented graduate school specializing in counseling training in Los Angeles, USA, where East and West are passionately meeting.
Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Notes, republished in a revised edition after 13 years
★ A portion of Professor Oh Je-eun's "Inner Child Healing Group Counseling" course has been published in a revised edition, available as audio.


I Love Myself the Way I Am While reading this book, you will come to love yourself just the way you are.
This book is a moving book on psychotherapy that combines theory and practice of inner child therapy with autobiographical stories, enriched with a sense of reality and diverse experiences.

Begin your journey to meet your most precious self with Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Note.

Childhood wounds remain as long as they are not healed.
To heal that wound, I must meet the me who is crying inside me, the wounded inner child.
Healing begins with discovering and acknowledging the unhealed wounds within us.
The place of pain, the place of suffering, the very place that caused me the most suffering is actually the place of growth where I can find the lost me and also heal myself.


This book, through the author's own vivid stories, explains the principles and methods for healing by meeting the wounded inner child, the root of suffering and the cause of problems in all human relationships, allowing them to pour out their pent-up sorrow, talking with them, and embracing them.


Each chapter of this book is divided into four main stories.
The first part is a confession of the hardships and healings I have experienced on my life's journey.
The second part is about how, during my healing journey, I met teachers who understood me, who even I could not understand, and who cried with me in my heartache.
The third part is about how, having experienced such pain and suffering myself, I was able to better understand the pain of others who came to me, and how I was able to embrace their pain as if it were my own and truly suffer with them, a story about encounters and healing as a "wounded healer."
The final fourth part belongs to you, the reader.
You could actually say that this book was written for this very purpose.
This book can only be completed by writing your own story in this fourth part, “Self-Love Notes.”
Therefore, this book is not only 『Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Note』, but also 『OOO's Self-Love Note』 written in the name of the readers.
So, this book is co-authored by you and me.
- From the prologue of Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Note

BTS sings to tell you this.
“Please make your voice heard.”


BTS's signature song, "Love Yourself," is about loving yourself. In his speech at the UN, BTS leader RM exclaimed:
“No matter who you are, where you come from, or what color your skin is, whether you are male or female, speak up.” The real reason BTS is loved by people all over the world is because they sing the sound of their hearts.
Now is the time to make your voice heard.
I hope that by filling Professor Oh Je-eun's self-love notebook with your own story, you will awaken your heart and reclaim your own story.


Write your own script.
The script of your life is still being written.


This is the text at the end of this book.
Professor Oh Je-eun, the first Asian internationally certified Imago couples therapist and a clinical supervisor from the American Psychotherapy Association, has incorporated the theory and cases of inner child therapy into her autobiographical stories, and this book was created to help you write your own life.
We have prepared examples of new stories written based on the psychotherapy theories that serve as material for writing a script, and Professor Oh Je-eun candidly shares her own story, guiding readers to become co-authors and write their own self-love notes.
This is not a book that explains theories, but a book in which the reader becomes the author.


The course “Spirituality and Inner Child Healing” led by Professor Oh Je-eun
A revised edition with some audio


Healing your inner child is the beginning of self-love.
Professor Oh Je-eun translated “Healing the Wounded Inner Child” and spread the message of healing the inner child.
In this revised edition, you will write your own self-love note to heal your inner child through the vivid voice of Professor Oh Je-eun in your own space.
I hope you will begin a journey to meet your most precious self, ‘yourself’, through a one-on-one meeting with Professor Oh Je-eun.

A book where the reader becomes the author
Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Notes


The author of this book says:
“This book is a story of self-love, from the time I hated myself so much that I wanted to kill myself to the time I came to cherish and love myself more than anything in the world.
“I wrote this book with the hope that this story would not only be my story, but also yours.”

“No one can do this healing work for you but yourself.
What is clear is that any wound can be healed.
Therefore, no matter how much pain you are going through, I hope that you will shake it all off at this moment and write down your true self with an open mind in this “Self-Love Note.”
- From the prologue of Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Notes -

Just by reading this book,
You are a blessed person who has already entered the door of happiness!


When you read this book, I encourage you to use your eyes, ears, hands, and heart. As you read, you will come to love yourself just as you are.

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My son says his mom has been acting strange lately.
The reason is that after reading Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Note, I decided to choose happiness.
I really like what my son said about his mother, who often giggles and smiles, saying that she has become strange.
-Lee Kyung-soon's Self-Love Note

My father, who started reading 『Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Note』 with me, began to change.
My negative attitude and personality changed, I began to express more gratitude, and my relationships with my family changed dramatically.
This is a miracle! - Lee Ji-hye's self-love note

As the subtitle of this book says, “A Journey to Meet My Most Precious Self,” through this book, I met the most precious self in this world.
From now on, I will live by eating, singing, dancing, and sharing love.
- Noh Kyung-eun's Self-Love Note

Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Note is the book that made me say for the first time, "I want to truly love myself too!"
-Kim Seong-i's self-love note

I used to think that to be a good parent, I had to constantly 'do' something for my child. However, through Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Note, I have come to realize that my own healing and growth as a mother is the greatest gift to my child, and that a happy relationship between my husband and I is the most certain legacy I can give my child.
-Kim Soo-kyung's Self-Love Note

Growing up as a Christian, I always thought self-love was a selfish act. But after reading Professor Oh Je-eun's Self-Love Note, I realized that I can only love others if I truly love myself.

-An Seong-eun's self-love note
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: July 7, 2022
- Format: Hardcover book binding method guide
- Page count, weight, size: 356 pages | 730g | 153*214*27mm
- ISBN13: 9791196959159
- ISBN10: 1196959153

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