“I don’t know what to do.” “I feel lost.” “I feel scared and timid.”
"Why isn't it changing?" "What's the problem?" "Is my advice wrong?"

Experts who have worked as professional counselors for over a decade
A book that serves as a beacon of light for teachers wandering in the darkness of counseling.

EBS instructor, author of "Nothing is more important than elementary school study emotions," Lee Seo-yoon, highly recommended!!

A classroom filled with children of all different temperaments and tendencies.
Distracted children, aggressive children, apathetic children, children exposed to school violence, children who refuse to go to school, children who self-harm, children who behave bizarrely… .
Teachers who encounter children with various behavioral problems and psychological crises often face unexpected situations, and counseling is a crucial responsibility given to teachers at these times.
It is not easy to fully empathize with a person like Ira, open your heart, and bring about change.
Because of this, many teachers, even those with long experience, complain that counseling is difficult.
They say they feel they lack knowledge and skills in counseling, lose confidence, are easily discouraged, and experience frustration.

This book, true to its title, "A Counseling Book to Help Counseling," was designed to help teachers ease their anxiety and fears about counseling and to facilitate more effective counseling activities.
To this end, the authors generously share the counseling knowledge and know-how they have accumulated over the past decade working as professional counselors in various settings, including schools.

[Guiding Life]
Step 1.
We are doing preparation activities for delivery.
Children who have difficulty controlling their attention are easily distracted by distracting situations.
If your surroundings are noisy and full of stimulating elements, take a moment to step away from the situation and communicate one-on-one in a quiet place.
At this time, please make eye contact with your child and guide him/her to keep his/her attention focused on you.

Step 2.
Please take them one at a time, and convey them positively.
Children who have difficulty controlling their attention have difficulty remembering multiple things at once.
Be sure to convey only one key point at a time.
Also, these children often have low self-esteem and are discouraged because they often hear “don’t do that.”
On the other hand, if you are angry, you may resist the teacher's words and get angry.
For these people, positive instructions like “Do this” are much more effective than “Don’t do that.”

Step 3.
Check that the message was delivered well and give praise.
Finally, listen again in your child's own words to make sure he or she understood what you are saying.
If your child doesn't speak properly, don't sigh or scold them. Instead, try to make it clear again and ask them to repeat what they just heard.
If your child understands what you are saying, give him/her plenty of praise.

--- "Question 03.
How can I counsel a child who has difficulty controlling attention?

[Child Counseling]
Step 1.
Ask questions to help your child feel comfortable talking about the game.
First, ask, “What game do you play?” and then respond to your child’s story.
If the teacher is curious and asks about the child's favorite games, it is a good way to build rapport.
After letting your child freely tell you what games he or she likes, explore your child's desires by asking questions such as, "When do you think he or she plays games?" and "What do you enjoy about playing games?"
If your child primarily meets friends in games and prefers games that involve chatting or talking, they may not have friends in the real world who can satisfy their need for intimacy.
Or, if you're focused on leveling up, you might be looking to satisfy a need for accomplishment or recognition that you lack in the real world.

Step 2.
Listen to your child and empathize with his or her feelings.
Validate and acknowledge your child's words by saying, "If I were in your position, I could do that."
A child who is always criticized will want to open up to a teacher who understands and empathizes with their position.

Step 3.
Explores ambivalence about internet, smartphone, and gaming use.
Now ask, “Do you have any regrets, difficulties, or worries because of the game?”
At this time, listen to the child's words as they are without judging or evaluating them, and clarify them by saying, "So that's what you mean?"
Through this process, children can think for themselves about why they play games, what drives them to continue playing, what they expect, and what they worry about.

Step 4.
Explore alternative activities with your child.
If your child shows signs of wanting to cut back on their internet use, offer some praise and suggest alternative activities, such as, "How did you come up with that idea?"
Find activities at school that you can enjoy with your friends and that will help you feel more self-efficacious.
Children and adolescents are greatly influenced by their peers, so it's helpful to guide them so they experience positive encouragement from their peer group.
--- Question 09.
"A child who sleeps during class seems to be addicted to games."

[Parent Consultation]
…When counseling parents, teachers should maintain a calm and neutral attitude as much as possible, while conveying the specific facts of the incident clearly and objectively, focusing on facts rather than evaluations.
Remember that the primary goal of parent counseling is to encourage cooperation at home, and it's important to listen carefully to and try to understand your parents' concerns and worries.
…I believe that the resentment felt by the parents of the perpetrators and the sadness and grief felt by the parents of the victimized students all stem from the desire for their children to do well.
Parents are very worried that their children will be labeled negatively because of this incident, that they will not be able to adapt well, and that other problems will arise.
There is no shortcut to gaining cooperation as much as fully understanding the minds of parents.

…while explaining to parents how to support their children at school, we also coach them on their roles at home.
For example, the school will inform the parents of the victimized student of how counseling will be conducted in conjunction with the WeClass counseling center or an external counseling agency to help their child recover, what measures the class plans to take, and listen to their opinions.
For the parents of the offending student, we remind them that if their child reflects on their actions and sincerely repents, this incident could be an opportunity for recovery and growth, and we explain the attitude parents should take to achieve this.
…If parents are struggling to figure out how to communicate with their children, encourage them to seek advice from a guidance counselor at the school or local education office.

--- "Question 16.
“Children and teachers exposed to school violence suffer from both sides.”