Prologue: Attachment is the seed of happiness for individuals and society.

Chapter 1: Shaking the Republic of Korea
Golden spoon, dirt spoon syndrome
Children with poor hearts in a wealthy country
South Korea suffers from emotional poverty
The one most important thing they don't have
Emotional poverty leads to numerous problem behaviors.

Chapter 2: A Society That Recommends Attachment Damage
Why did Britain's childcare policy fail?
Children Hurt Between Extreme Control and Permission
Children need tactile comfort.
Children raised according to their parents' dreams
Parents tired of single-parenting and hellish parenting
What babies want most
The Shadow Cast by Parental Divorce on Children
Just give birth and the government will raise the child?

Chapter 3 Psychological Roots
Children who can't get off
Human survival instinct, attachment
The belief and expectation that you will be on my side
How Babies Form Attachments
Adults who cannot respond properly to signals
Attachment types between caregivers and children

Chapter 4: Influencing a person's life
developmental trauma
DTD is more toxic than DDT
Developmental trauma, which has been diagnosed as a number of 'disabilities'
When attachment damage continues to occur
The dangers of negative childhood experiences
When connections are lost, healthy growth and development are difficult.
Tune in with your baby like a dance
The Impact of Developmental Trauma on Child Development
Developmental trauma can present with a variety of symptoms.

Chapter 5: Everyone Needs a Safe Base
Attachment relationships are important for adults too.
What is my attachment style as a parent?
The inheritance of motherhood and fatherhood
Excessive attachment leads to solitude.

Chapter 6: How to Raise Your Child with an Emotional Silver Spoon
Instead of fighting between couples, we should focus on harmony between couples.
Let's raise them strictly, not oppress them.
Let's keep our children under the warm gaze of their parents.
Don't send them to the playground, be the playground.
Discover your child's gold mine
Let's be fathers, not 'dads'
I just need one person who gives me unconditional love.
Do 'emotional coaching', not 'behavioral coaching'
Draw a big picture of a couple building work and family together.

Chapter 7 For a Healthy and Happy Future
The path our society should take
An attachment society where people connect with each other
Let's secure family time, not work time.
Build a social system that prioritizes the quality of attachment.
A happy family is essential for business growth.
Schools, the second line of defense for attachment, must also step up.

Epilogue: Dreaming of a society of attachment together
Acknowledgements

Individuals lacking attachment, societies disconnected
Above all, the authors emphasize that the problem of attachment damage in our society, which has reached a dangerous level, must be addressed at the social structural level, not at the individual level.

With the rise of dual-income families and divorce, the traditional child-rearing environment and family structure surrounding children and parents are rapidly changing.
In the process, the possibility of damage to children's attachment inevitably increases.
Furthermore, the difficult child-rearing environment, which can be called hellish parenting and single-parent parenting, encourages the outsourcing of child-rearing, and in the competitive employment culture, parents are also engrossed in work, losing their evenings.
Meanwhile, children are prone to being neglected.

The government attempted to overcome this crisis through policies such as free childcare, but failed to address the root of the problem and ended up only exacerbating attachment problems.

So why is attachment so important beyond the individual to society? A stable attachment with a caregiver instills a "basic sense of trust" in a child, forming the foundation for brain and physical development.
Based on this, people can grow into "emotionally rich people" by successfully developing "relationships," the core of social and emotional capabilities that are the first condition for happiness and an essential ability in the era of the Fourth Industrial Revolution.
However, if attachment is damaged, the original anxiety and distrust can cause obstacles in forming self-identity and interpersonal relationships, and there is a high possibility of becoming an 'emotional dirt spoon'.
This is not only personally unfortunate, but also causes social conflict, and the social costs of resolving it are also skyrocketing.


This book, which broadly analyzes everything from the core of attachment theory to our current situation, is divided into seven chapters.
Chapter 1 explains the problematic behaviors prevalent in our society, such as violence, addiction, and divorce, by linking them to attachment, and looks into the other side of the "golden spoon, dirt spoon syndrome."
Chapter 2 shows the dangers of reckless policies that overlook the importance of attachment through the UK's 'Child Evacuation Project' and 'Free Childcare Policy for Infants and Toddlers', and addresses the reality in our country.
Chapter 3 provides a more in-depth explanation of attachment theory, including the stages and types of attachment formation, and Chapter 4 introduces the impact of developmental trauma that can occur when attachment damage persists on child development.
Chapter 5 shows attachment relationships in adulthood and warns that parental attachment impairment can be passed down to their children.
Chapter 6 presents specific methods for parents to raise their children with emotional silver spoons in their mouths, and Chapter 7 presents the parenting environment that schools, businesses, and the government should create to create an emotionally healthy society.

Now is the golden time to prevent attachment damage.
The signs of attachment damage that are appearing throughout our society are very serious.
However, the authors say that attachment damage can be repaired.
Of course, it is by no means a simple process, so we emphasize that prevention is the best treatment.
To this end, the authors provide scientific methods for preventing and recovering attachment damage through the latest research findings in psychology, brain science, sociology, and biology.
The author also examines important lessons we should learn from through the examples of Western Europe and the United States, where attachment impairment has already reached its third generation.

The authors argue in this book that it is urgent to create a happy social environment for giving birth and raising children and to improve the quality of attachment.
This environment is also connected to the method of solving the low birth rate problem, which is a national disaster.
To achieve this, we urgently need to prioritize the importance of family and the value of parenting, and to improve awareness and the will to reflect this in the overall social system.
Parents need to draw a big picture of balancing work and family and set priorities.
Companies should care for the ecosystem and happiness of their members through a pro-family system, and the government should create an environment that enhances the quality of attachment through child-friendly policies.

This book will inform parents who want to raise healthy and energetic children, companies who want to cultivate talented employees, and policymakers who want to create a bright future for Korea about the choices we must make now.