Are you the one for me?
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Description
Book Introduction
A question that everyone who is currently dating someone, looking for someone right now, or thinks they have found that one person has thought about at least once.
"Are you the one for me?"
Beyond discussing how men and women differ psychologically and what they need from relationships, this book also explores common mistakes in relationships and suggests ways to overcome them.
It provides easy-to-understand examples of things to keep in mind in relationships, such as the psychological reasons why you are repeatedly attracted to certain types of people, common mistakes made in the early stages of a relationship, and types of people who have difficulty developing good relationships.
It also clearly describes who is a good fit for me and who is not.
"Are you the one for me?"
Beyond discussing how men and women differ psychologically and what they need from relationships, this book also explores common mistakes in relationships and suggests ways to overcome them.
It provides easy-to-understand examples of things to keep in mind in relationships, such as the psychological reasons why you are repeatedly attracted to certain types of people, common mistakes made in the early stages of a relationship, and types of people who have difficulty developing good relationships.
It also clearly describes who is a good fit for me and who is not.
index
First story
Understanding Love Choices
01 Story Love Alone Is Not Enough
02 Story Why Choose the One You Love
03 Story The Wrong Reasons to Fall in Love
04 Story Six Big Mistakes People Make Early in Their Relationships
Second story
Avoid people who don't fit in
05 Story Ten Types of Relationships That Can't Work
06 Story Fatal Flaw
07 Story The Time Bomb of Fusion
Third story
Know who's right
08 Six Characteristics to Look for in a Story Partner
09 Story Sexual Resonance: What Turns You On and What Doesn't
10 Story Fusion: Finding the Right Person for You
11 Story Commitment: Commit and stick with the relationship when it's right, and let it go when it's wrong.
12 Story Adventures of Love
Understanding Love Choices
01 Story Love Alone Is Not Enough
02 Story Why Choose the One You Love
03 Story The Wrong Reasons to Fall in Love
04 Story Six Big Mistakes People Make Early in Their Relationships
Second story
Avoid people who don't fit in
05 Story Ten Types of Relationships That Can't Work
06 Story Fatal Flaw
07 Story The Time Bomb of Fusion
Third story
Know who's right
08 Six Characteristics to Look for in a Story Partner
09 Story Sexual Resonance: What Turns You On and What Doesn't
10 Story Fusion: Finding the Right Person for You
11 Story Commitment: Commit and stick with the relationship when it's right, and let it go when it's wrong.
12 Story Adventures of Love
Into the book
There are other reasons besides falling in love that lead people to decide to get into a relationship.
Getting involved with someone for the wrong reasons is one way to end up in an unhealthy and unsatisfying relationship.
The more you become aware of each pattern, the more you will understand why you struggled and were disappointed in your relationships in the past, and the more likely you are to avoid repeating them.
♥ Seven Wrong Reasons to Get Into a Relationship
① Pressure (age, family, friends, etc.)
The pressure is the influence that friends, family, society, and your own thoughts have on you.
This pressure is 'I have to date someone.
Otherwise, it sends the message, 'There is something wrong with you.'
If you date someone because of pressure from others rather than because they are the right person for you, you are giving up your power and starting a relationship that is guaranteed to end badly.
② Loneliness
When we experience loneliness, we feel so emotionally empty that we desperately search for someone to love.
Unfortunately, when you reach out to someone because you're lonely, it can lead to very complicated and heartbreaking relationships later on.
When you feel lonely, you're much more likely to make poor choices and end up in unsatisfactory relationships.
③ Sexual desire
If you've ever been so sexually aroused that you tried to convince yourself that you liked someone more than you actually did, or if you've ever prolong a relationship by pretending not to notice the other person's shortcomings and continuing to have sex, that's just blind lust.
④ Escape from life
Some people get into relationships because they feel bored and lack passion and purpose in life.
Rather than looking within themselves to understand why they feel the way they do, these people indulge in romantic pursuits and make them their own ends.
Or they may use relationships to avoid important issues in life.
⑤ Avoidance of growth
Some people enter into relationships not because they are ready to share their entire lives with another person, but because they want someone to care for them.
These people seek partners who can play the roles of 'mom' and 'dad' because they are trying to avoid growing up.
This type of relationship is inherently dependent, not one in which we learn and grow together.
⑥ Guilt
What you call love may actually be pity or, in extreme cases, compassion.
If you decide to stay with someone out of guilt rather than love, you are deceiving not only them but yourself as well.
⑦ To fill emotional or spiritual emptiness
If there is a deep emptiness in your heart, no matter how much the other person loves you, he or she cannot fill that emptiness.
You shouldn't expect relationships to fill in the gaps you need to fill in yourself.
Only you can fill that void and save yourself.
What makes a relationship work is fullness, not emptiness.
Getting involved with someone for the wrong reasons is one way to end up in an unhealthy and unsatisfying relationship.
The more you become aware of each pattern, the more you will understand why you struggled and were disappointed in your relationships in the past, and the more likely you are to avoid repeating them.
♥ Seven Wrong Reasons to Get Into a Relationship
① Pressure (age, family, friends, etc.)
The pressure is the influence that friends, family, society, and your own thoughts have on you.
This pressure is 'I have to date someone.
Otherwise, it sends the message, 'There is something wrong with you.'
If you date someone because of pressure from others rather than because they are the right person for you, you are giving up your power and starting a relationship that is guaranteed to end badly.
② Loneliness
When we experience loneliness, we feel so emotionally empty that we desperately search for someone to love.
Unfortunately, when you reach out to someone because you're lonely, it can lead to very complicated and heartbreaking relationships later on.
When you feel lonely, you're much more likely to make poor choices and end up in unsatisfactory relationships.
③ Sexual desire
If you've ever been so sexually aroused that you tried to convince yourself that you liked someone more than you actually did, or if you've ever prolong a relationship by pretending not to notice the other person's shortcomings and continuing to have sex, that's just blind lust.
④ Escape from life
Some people get into relationships because they feel bored and lack passion and purpose in life.
Rather than looking within themselves to understand why they feel the way they do, these people indulge in romantic pursuits and make them their own ends.
Or they may use relationships to avoid important issues in life.
⑤ Avoidance of growth
Some people enter into relationships not because they are ready to share their entire lives with another person, but because they want someone to care for them.
These people seek partners who can play the roles of 'mom' and 'dad' because they are trying to avoid growing up.
This type of relationship is inherently dependent, not one in which we learn and grow together.
⑥ Guilt
What you call love may actually be pity or, in extreme cases, compassion.
If you decide to stay with someone out of guilt rather than love, you are deceiving not only them but yourself as well.
⑦ To fill emotional or spiritual emptiness
If there is a deep emptiness in your heart, no matter how much the other person loves you, he or she cannot fill that emptiness.
You shouldn't expect relationships to fill in the gaps you need to fill in yourself.
Only you can fill that void and save yourself.
What makes a relationship work is fullness, not emptiness.
--- From the text
Publisher's Review
What Makes a Relationship Fail
"How could I have been so blinded by love? Why couldn't I have known what kind of person he really was? I was so sure things would work out this time.
Where did it all go wrong? He seemed really cool when we first met.
I can't understand why that person changed.
We loved each other, but all we did was fight.
Everything about that person seemed so perfect.
I kept telling myself that I had to be happy.
But I couldn't make the relationship work out...”
The journey to find the one for me is not easy.
Figuring out who is right for you and who you can live with isn't a simple matter of matching them to your ideal type.
In this book, Barbara De Angelis, an expert on relationships and personal growth, provides easy-to-understand examples of what to keep in mind in relationships.
As you can guess from the title of the first chapter, "Love Alone Is Not Enough," this book contains many contents that challenge our usual beliefs.
It presents easy-to-understand information about what to keep in mind in relationships, including the psychological reasons why you are repeatedly attracted to certain types of people, common mistakes made in the early stages of a relationship, and the types of people who make it difficult to develop a good relationship.
It also clearly describes who is not a good fit and who is healthy and compatible.
Reading about avoiding the wrong people will help you understand why past relationships didn't work out and provide food for thought that will help you evaluate your current and future relationships.
While most books on relationships between men and women simply describe the psychological differences between men and women, this book is practical, containing vivid experiences and advice from counseling sessions.
The author speaks candidly and persuasively about her experiences as a counselor and as a woman.
It also provides helpful self-tests that readers can participate in.
A dating guide that teaches you how to choose the right love.
“You are lying next to your loved one in the dark.
You can tell he's asleep by his breathing.
As I gaze at the contours of his face, I wonder about the future of this relationship.
I know he wants to marry you.
You love that person too and you can't imagine life without them.
But the thought of marrying him makes me scared.
"What if I commit to this person, but then someone better comes along? How can I be sure this person is the right one for me?"
Are you the one for me? This is a question that should be pondered and reflected upon at least once by those who are currently dating, those who are searching, or those who believe they've found the one.
This book is about who to love.
It's about knowing when someone is right for you and avoiding the ones who aren't.
Reading about the psychological mechanisms that lead to falling in love wrongly, such as pressure from age, family and friends, loneliness, sexual desire, escapism from life, and guilt, will help you take a cool-headed look at your own love.
The author has also failed in love many times, and he adds vividness by honestly sharing his experiences.
There are many books that explain the psychological differences between men and women, but it is difficult to find books that offer methods for overcoming the mistakes that arise due to these differences.
In that sense, this book will be a good guide not only for those in romantic relationships, but for everyone who wants to have meaningful relationships.
"How could I have been so blinded by love? Why couldn't I have known what kind of person he really was? I was so sure things would work out this time.
Where did it all go wrong? He seemed really cool when we first met.
I can't understand why that person changed.
We loved each other, but all we did was fight.
Everything about that person seemed so perfect.
I kept telling myself that I had to be happy.
But I couldn't make the relationship work out...”
The journey to find the one for me is not easy.
Figuring out who is right for you and who you can live with isn't a simple matter of matching them to your ideal type.
In this book, Barbara De Angelis, an expert on relationships and personal growth, provides easy-to-understand examples of what to keep in mind in relationships.
As you can guess from the title of the first chapter, "Love Alone Is Not Enough," this book contains many contents that challenge our usual beliefs.
It presents easy-to-understand information about what to keep in mind in relationships, including the psychological reasons why you are repeatedly attracted to certain types of people, common mistakes made in the early stages of a relationship, and the types of people who make it difficult to develop a good relationship.
It also clearly describes who is not a good fit and who is healthy and compatible.
Reading about avoiding the wrong people will help you understand why past relationships didn't work out and provide food for thought that will help you evaluate your current and future relationships.
While most books on relationships between men and women simply describe the psychological differences between men and women, this book is practical, containing vivid experiences and advice from counseling sessions.
The author speaks candidly and persuasively about her experiences as a counselor and as a woman.
It also provides helpful self-tests that readers can participate in.
A dating guide that teaches you how to choose the right love.
“You are lying next to your loved one in the dark.
You can tell he's asleep by his breathing.
As I gaze at the contours of his face, I wonder about the future of this relationship.
I know he wants to marry you.
You love that person too and you can't imagine life without them.
But the thought of marrying him makes me scared.
"What if I commit to this person, but then someone better comes along? How can I be sure this person is the right one for me?"
Are you the one for me? This is a question that should be pondered and reflected upon at least once by those who are currently dating, those who are searching, or those who believe they've found the one.
This book is about who to love.
It's about knowing when someone is right for you and avoiding the ones who aren't.
Reading about the psychological mechanisms that lead to falling in love wrongly, such as pressure from age, family and friends, loneliness, sexual desire, escapism from life, and guilt, will help you take a cool-headed look at your own love.
The author has also failed in love many times, and he adds vividness by honestly sharing his experiences.
There are many books that explain the psychological differences between men and women, but it is difficult to find books that offer methods for overcoming the mistakes that arise due to these differences.
In that sense, this book will be a good guide not only for those in romantic relationships, but for everyone who wants to have meaningful relationships.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: January 18, 2008
- Page count, weight, size: 543 pages | 692g | 153*224*35mm
- ISBN13: 9788958915973
- ISBN10: 8958915978
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