If you can't answer the question of whether you are happy
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Actually, you are not okay, A Prescription for the Heart from Everyday Philosopher Alain de Botton What I want to say to adults who ask, “What’s so hard for kids?” “My life is pretty miserable too!” Adults don't know. We all have our own share of upsetting things, like our parents, friends, and grades. When there is a problem in the mind, there is no use putting a bandage on it. When school isn't fun or your parents are irritating you, there's no one-size-fits-all solution. But there are certainly ways to reduce unnecessary worry, avoid getting easily upset when things go wrong, and avoid letting your emotions be swayed by others. Alain de Botton, a philosopher of everyday life who is loved around the world and whose books, including “Why I Love You,” “Anxiety,” and the “School of Life” series, have been translated into over 20 languages, advises that just as we exercise to maintain a healthy body, we can also train our mind and spirit to be healthy. However, rather than training your body by moving it like lifting dumbbells, you can make your head and heart flexible through training that brings about enlightenment that can help you resolve mental issues. "If You Can't Answer the Question: Are You Happy?" explores various issues that can arise in our minds, such as: Why do our parents irritate us? What should we do when our friends are harassing us? What's driving our constant staring at our phones? How can we manage feelings of anger and anxiety? It explores what insights can help us overcome our weakened and troubled hearts. |
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index
Introductory text.
Healthy mind, happy heart
Chapter 1.
parents
Chapter 2.
screen
Chapter 3.
torment
Chapter 4.
The child inside me
Chapter 5.
school
Chapter 6.
friend
Chapter 7.
Our body
Chapter 8.
Feeling misunderstood
Chapter 9.
fury
Chapter 10.
unrest
Chapter 11.
confidence
Chapter 12.
patience
Chapter 13.
nature
Chapter 14.
Adult world
Chapter 15.
Become independent
Healthy mind, happy heart
Chapter 1.
parents
Chapter 2.
screen
Chapter 3.
torment
Chapter 4.
The child inside me
Chapter 5.
school
Chapter 6.
friend
Chapter 7.
Our body
Chapter 8.
Feeling misunderstood
Chapter 9.
fury
Chapter 10.
unrest
Chapter 11.
confidence
Chapter 12.
patience
Chapter 13.
nature
Chapter 14.
Adult world
Chapter 15.
Become independent
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It probably doesn't matter to you what people who don't even know you well say.
You might gain some new insight here.
I get upset when others notice the parts of me that I doubt.
But if you're confident in yourself, you don't really care how other people react.
--- p.
26
Whenever you don't like someone, ask yourself this question:
Could this person actually be scared and fearful? What are they afraid of and worried about? If you keep this in mind, your life will change.
--- p.
36
The world is much more livable than it appears.
People in the real world are kind and patient almost all the time.
How great would it be if we could create a world like this online?
Until then, just ignore all the crappy stuff that comes up online.
If you were to force the person hiding behind such writing into the real world, he or she would probably be someone you wouldn't want to deal with for even a second.
--- p.
68
Doing well in school and doing well as an adult are quite different.
Being successful as an adult is different from being successful in school.
The success of these two people is based on different foundations, so you can't predict what kind of life they will lead as adults just by looking at their school life.
All possibilities are wide open.
--- p.
99
When you feel worried, angry, or think you've done something stupid, ask yourself:
If you think about this often, 'What would a kind friend say to me right now?', it becomes a habit.
Before you know it, you'll find yourself speaking kindly to yourself, and your life will become much more loving.
--- p.
110
We need to learn the art of being a little depressed by predictable frustrations.
is it so.
Plans can change, people can disappoint you sometimes, flights can be delayed, and delivered pizzas can be cold.
It's not all good, but you have to expect that it can happen, and set a goal to not be shocked.
--- p.
150
Figuring out what to do doesn't mean finding one thing that's perfect for me.
Rather, it's about finding out what you fundamentally enjoy doing and seeing how that enjoyment meshes with the world of different professions.
You may surprisingly find many jobs that overlap with your interests.
You might gain some new insight here.
I get upset when others notice the parts of me that I doubt.
But if you're confident in yourself, you don't really care how other people react.
--- p.
26
Whenever you don't like someone, ask yourself this question:
Could this person actually be scared and fearful? What are they afraid of and worried about? If you keep this in mind, your life will change.
--- p.
36
The world is much more livable than it appears.
People in the real world are kind and patient almost all the time.
How great would it be if we could create a world like this online?
Until then, just ignore all the crappy stuff that comes up online.
If you were to force the person hiding behind such writing into the real world, he or she would probably be someone you wouldn't want to deal with for even a second.
--- p.
68
Doing well in school and doing well as an adult are quite different.
Being successful as an adult is different from being successful in school.
The success of these two people is based on different foundations, so you can't predict what kind of life they will lead as adults just by looking at their school life.
All possibilities are wide open.
--- p.
99
When you feel worried, angry, or think you've done something stupid, ask yourself:
If you think about this often, 'What would a kind friend say to me right now?', it becomes a habit.
Before you know it, you'll find yourself speaking kindly to yourself, and your life will become much more loving.
--- p.
110
We need to learn the art of being a little depressed by predictable frustrations.
is it so.
Plans can change, people can disappoint you sometimes, flights can be delayed, and delivered pizzas can be cold.
It's not all good, but you have to expect that it can happen, and set a goal to not be shocked.
--- p.
150
Figuring out what to do doesn't mean finding one thing that's perfect for me.
Rather, it's about finding out what you fundamentally enjoy doing and seeing how that enjoyment meshes with the world of different professions.
You may surprisingly find many jobs that overlap with your interests.
--- p.
185
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Publisher's Review
Post-pandemic, mental health is more important than ever.
15 Insights to Build Strong Mental Muscles
According to a survey on 'Main emotions experienced after COVID-19' conducted by the Korea Youth Counseling and Welfare Development Institute last year, the highest percentage of respondents said they were experiencing emotions of anxiety and worry, followed by irritation, depression, and fear.
The number of mental health consultations among youth has also tripled since the pandemic.
Now more than ever, we need to take care of our mental and emotional health, but adapting to a rapidly changing world can be overwhelming, leaving us with little time to reflect on our inner struggles.
Alain de Botton suggests that solving problems of the mind requires training to bring about 'enlightenment'.
For example, if you need to comfort a child who's upset because a friend accidentally broke their toy and they're yelling, "You broke my toy!" what would you say? You'd try to remind them that their friend didn't do it on purpose, but rather that it was an "accident."
The realization that bad things can happen by accident can be a great help in calming a frustrated or excited mind.
How can you comfort a friend who's anxious, "What if problem A happens?" Most people would kindly say, "Don't worry, problem A won't happen." But what if problem A does happen? Therefore, it's more effective to remind your friend that they have the strength to overcome any problem they encounter.
What if you find yourself wondering, "Why don't my parents understand me?" If you realized that your parents are just ordinary people before they're parents, wouldn't their nagging sound a little more comforting?
This book contains 15 insights that will help you comfortably face and confidently address the various issues that distract teenagers, such as relationships with parents, friends, bullying, anxiety and self-confidence, career concerns, and appearance.
Alain de Botton's sharp questions, refreshingly balanced answers, vivid examples, and activities that help readers internalize their insights will encourage constant self-reflection while reading, serving as training for building strong mental muscles.
15 Insights to Build Strong Mental Muscles
According to a survey on 'Main emotions experienced after COVID-19' conducted by the Korea Youth Counseling and Welfare Development Institute last year, the highest percentage of respondents said they were experiencing emotions of anxiety and worry, followed by irritation, depression, and fear.
The number of mental health consultations among youth has also tripled since the pandemic.
Now more than ever, we need to take care of our mental and emotional health, but adapting to a rapidly changing world can be overwhelming, leaving us with little time to reflect on our inner struggles.
Alain de Botton suggests that solving problems of the mind requires training to bring about 'enlightenment'.
For example, if you need to comfort a child who's upset because a friend accidentally broke their toy and they're yelling, "You broke my toy!" what would you say? You'd try to remind them that their friend didn't do it on purpose, but rather that it was an "accident."
The realization that bad things can happen by accident can be a great help in calming a frustrated or excited mind.
How can you comfort a friend who's anxious, "What if problem A happens?" Most people would kindly say, "Don't worry, problem A won't happen." But what if problem A does happen? Therefore, it's more effective to remind your friend that they have the strength to overcome any problem they encounter.
What if you find yourself wondering, "Why don't my parents understand me?" If you realized that your parents are just ordinary people before they're parents, wouldn't their nagging sound a little more comforting?
This book contains 15 insights that will help you comfortably face and confidently address the various issues that distract teenagers, such as relationships with parents, friends, bullying, anxiety and self-confidence, career concerns, and appearance.
Alain de Botton's sharp questions, refreshingly balanced answers, vivid examples, and activities that help readers internalize their insights will encourage constant self-reflection while reading, serving as training for building strong mental muscles.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Publication date: March 30, 2022
- Page count, weight, size: 196 pages | 358g | 152*225*13mm
- ISBN13: 9791168411371
- ISBN10: 1168411378
- KC Certification: Certification Type: Conformity Confirmation
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